Obsessed in love makes me ill

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Some say, being in love is as if being addicted to drug; drowning deep into this irresistible love makes you happy but can also make you ill.:(

Whenever we are and whatever happens to us, we always care and worry about our beloved one, but still we have to respect them and the way they act. Asking for their equal love as a return is so spontaneous just like we are hungry then we eat. But love relationship is not a trading or sowing, that we reap what we sow.

Just because we are different. I am who I am as you are who you are. 

The more we know each other, the more empathy we have for each other. To some extend, luckily we have something in common, interests, hobbies, worldview, and that's the connection, which contains support, understanding, tolerance, and concern. Inevitably we would be disappointed and frustrated when the situation hasn't been going to the way we expected, while it's nothing but natural. Does she or he really know you? The dream answer is such of a solution to a difficult mathematic question, which is no way to be easy. Love can never require only one-way street efforts as the mutual understanding shall be build between you and me. Then you can somewhat reach your harmonious center, the symphony of love, and the differences become less and less significant without attempting to change each other.

One thing recently struck my mind is that every individuality keeps trying to prove self-value by getting the response from others, especially the one we love. I am exactly making the same stupid mistake. Ah, innocent human being. When you miss him, you can't help to check your cell phone every minute, waiting for the message or calls from that person. Not a single message a day much enough make you restless. When you are going out, you want him to pay more attention to what you like and what you want and make efforts to make you happy. Especially when you are doing this for him. By no means can we escape our own selfishness even though we surely will deny it for 99 times about the intention that we are doing so. It's all because I am obsessed with love.

Haven't you ever slightly thought about the truth that saying "I love you" in fact is more likely to tell people to love you more? In other words, you are saying, I AM IMPORTANT. Is there anything wrong to declare I am important in the relationship? I don't think so. What happen just happen, let it be.You are giving the message that you care about your relationship, but make sure let him/her know your attitude that you are serious. Otherwise, your intrinsic needs of love and care will be ignored if the one won't notice your subtle sad expression which deep inside your heart actually is like the tidal wave.

Weaving the rainbow of love is such a wonderful experience despite of investing time and energy but it is worthy. Bury our head in the sand or lose ourselves in the relationship, we will never see it's beauty. Cherish what we have, be true to ourselves and enjoy the moment. Go for a dinner and talk to him/her.