[TED.04] Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness

4. Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness

https://www.ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness

内容

• 一项持续75年的研究
• 研究对象是Havard的学生和贫民区的学生
• 核心是：Good relationship keep us healthier and happier.
• social connection 很重要
• lonely会让人变的情绪差并影响寿命
• close realtionship，婚姻和家庭关系的好坏很重要
• Mark Twain
  There isn't time, so brief is life.
  for bickering, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account
  It's time for loving and but for instant, so to speak, for that.

英语

• where would you put your time and your energy?
• how those choices work out for them
• Hindsight is 20/20. 事后诸葛亮
• downright 非常 十分
• unfold through time 随时间显现
• exceeding rare
• drop out of 退出
• running water 自来水
• octogenarian 八旬老人
• buffer us from some of the slings and arrows
• tend to falmliy and friends 照顾 维系
• fare the best 表现的最好

评论

（1） 亲密关系之间的争吵往往是最常见的，但这带来的损耗也是非常巨大的。我们应当尽可能的避免。
（2）朋友关系的维系并不仅仅是吃饭和喝酒，或者说是利益的相互利用。更多的是真心的付出，从人性最本真的善良来建立良好的关系，才能让自己变的开心和快乐。
（3）更得体的表达和说话以及自身存货的多少，影响着人与人之间的关系。