心架两头细
心：Love is anywhere but within.
Before 25. Dillon
25-27. Moon
第一版
Ladies and gentlemen,
Do you have the skeleton in your closet? Well, I guess everyone does. For me, the skeleton is love. I hate to admit it, but I have never ever been in a serious relationship for the past 27 years. Even till now, saying it makes me feel so embarrassed on the stage. It seems like you are admitting you are not attractive either from the outside or the inside, or both.
Let me ask you this, what do you think is the opposite of love? ... the author said, the opposite of love is fear. Look back the 27 years in my life, it is indeed fear filled me up instead of love, so I couldn't allow myself to fall in love with others, or accept others' love.
Before 25, I fear falling in love with others, since it made my feel things were out of control. I fell in love with my best friend Dillion for three years. During these 3 years, he changed two girlfriends without realizing his best friend Ivy fell in love with him at first sight. Before he left for America, I finally sum up my courage to tell him he was the person I liked most during the past 25 years on my birthday. Since I'm so afraid of facing love, I didn't even dare to ask his feeling about me and ran away. I blame myself not being rational enough.
After 25, I fear accepting others' love. Since Some of my best friends married and even got divorced, I began to be very careful and even sometimes very fussy in my love journey. Believe it or not, I wrote down 20 criteria for my future husband. During the past two years, I used these golden rules to find my Mr. Right. I always comfort myself that my rejections are reasonable. For example, D is very knowledgable, but not tall enough, L is tall and talented, but his work occupied too much of his time...The list goes on, so 2 years passed by, I still find no one. Until by the end of last year, I find M who perfect and even inconceivably meet most of my criteria, however, after 1 month of dating, I finally turned him down again since there is no chemicals between us.
I transfer myself so hard from an idealist into a realist, but neither of them worked in my love journey. My aha moment comes from a gethering dinner of CHIC, Hubert turned to me and said, Hey Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a wow girl.
At that moment, I realized the problem is that I'm so afraid to show the real me. Why? Because I don't deeply fall in love with myself at the very first place. Since then, I started to say good morning and good night to myself, to forgive myself when I made the same mistakes again, to celebrate good days even when I'm not companied by others. Little by little, I found out love is anywhere but within. Now, I'm still on my love journey, but I can feel this time it is love rather than fear that motivates me to move on. Most of my friend can tell
Ladies and gentlemen, love is a lifelong lesson, no matter where you are, please remember, love is anywhere but within. You can not give or accept others love if you don't deeply and unconditionally love yourself. Good luck.
提问-悬念-故事-答案
Hubert的作用凸显，aha moment
标题更加直白
演出来：告白role play、wow girl- wow
笑点、泪点
着装
以听众为中心 : 设计、语速、用词 四个F：failure/
第二版
Ladies and gentlemen, do you believe in love? Have ever encountered true love in your life journey? Well, theoretically, I do believe in it, but in reality, I hate to admit that I never run into this true love issue.
For years, I've been wondering around the love market, I heard thousands of beautiful love stories, but none of them is about me. But I have been pretty close to the turning point for several times.
At the age of 25, after loving my best friend Dillion for three years, I decided to do sth. During my 25-year-old birthday, I pull up all my courage to tell him my feeling. It was in a Pizza Restaurant, I held my breath for 30s and looked at him in the eye, and said: Dillion, you are the person I liked most during the past 25 years. He paused a while and said, Ivy, you too. Well he didn't get it. After that he went to the US for further education, I heard he got a girlfriend there, so I cut all the contact with him. I blame myself of being implicit when I'm facing love. So my lesson is any love expression should be ended by a question, otherwise, they don't get it.
So next time, I learned to be more explicit and straightforward. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend and started to find the true love. During the journey, I met several guys. D is very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. W has a very promising career, but he is too self-centered, the list goes on. With the help of these golden rules, I kept saying NO and comforted myself I'm just following my heart. By the end of last year, the Mr. Good finally came into my life. Surprisingly, he met almost very piece of criteria I wrote. However, after dating with him for 1 month, I finally turned him down, because I realized that love is not about criteria. Love is spontaneous, it is not something we can plan for.
At this point of time, I was totally confused. Until one day, during one dinner with CHICers, I got my aha moment. When I was complaining about myself and all the bad experiences I had during my love journey, Hubert turned to me and said, Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a wow girl. Wow girl, am I? At that point of time, I realized the problem is that I don't really love myself. I keep rejecting because I'm afraid others know someone I don't really fall in love with. The intimate relationship makes me nervous. We always say I love myself, but ladies and gentlemen, take a moment to think do you? When you are working, did you choose a career you are really passionate about? When you are free, did you prepare yourself a delicious meal? When you make a mistake, did you comfort yourself like you did to your friend?
Ladies and gentlemen, if you don't love yourself, you cannot truly love others. I'm not perfect, no one did, just accept yourself as who you are. For me, I get aggressive when I was competing, I got annoyed when I was not understood my closed ones, I screw up in some very important situations. But that's me. During my love journey, I find the person I should love most is myself. When I started to realize this, I find the love inside. Remember, everyone of us is a wow person. At last, Iet's do this together, I said you are, you said Wow...
第三版
Ladies and gentlemen, do you believe in true love?
Well, theoretically, I do too, even though I never run into it myself. For years, I've been wondering around the love market, I tried to starve myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, listened to hundreds of love stories to gain experience, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple twice to prey. But none of these worked.
During my love journey, I learned several lessons through a hard, even painful way.
At the age of 25, after loving my best friend Dillion for 3 years, I pulled up all my courage to tell him my feeling. It was in a Pizza Restaurant, you can still smell the cheese and bacon. Dillion was sitting in front of me, busy eating pizza. I was suppose to say something. I held my breath, my face turned red, and looked at him in the eye when he was still busy chewing his pizza. I said: Dillion, you are the person I liked most during the past 25 years. He paused a while, squeezed a smile and said: Ivy, you are my best friend ever. Well I interpreted it as a polite way to say NO. I lost my courage to ask further. I felt embarrassed, then depressed and even started to doubt myself. The man who knows me the most didn't like me. There must be something wrong with me. Since then, I closed my love door to others even without realizing it.
Then the journey continued. This time I need to be more practical, so I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. Within 2 years time, I met several good guys. Mr.D is very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T is very handsome, but we had different expectations about life. Mr. M has a very promising career, but he is too self-centered. With the "help" of these golden rules, none of these Mr. DTM is ideal. Until I met Mr. Pathways, surprisingly, he met almost very piece of criteria I wrote. However, after dating him for 1 month, I finally turned him down again. Why? because I realized that love is not something we can plan for. He is good, but I just don't have chemistry in him.
At this point of time, I was totally confused and almost hopeless. I complained about myself and all the bad experiences I had during my love journey, when my mentor turned to me and said, "Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a" I was expecting something, "wow girl." Wow girl, am I? At that point of time, I realized the problem is that I don't really fell in love with myself. From the first time I was rejected, I tagged myself as unattractive and even problematic. So whenever others get close, my inner voice is like: "Go away, she is not that good" My Aha moment comes when I realized I should love myself first before I find someone who can really love back.
Ladies and gentlemen, true love comes from within. Quoted from one of my favorite authors, I love myself, so I run into you, and because of your love, I achieved a better self. So go back to the question in the beginning, you do believe in love, right? Now, who you should love first? Look at the mirror, you will find out this wow person.
第四版
Ladies and gentlemen,
Do you believe in true love? Did you suffer before you find it?
Well, I suffered, a lot. For years, I've been wondering even struggling in love. Whenever I missed the opportunity, I always think there must be something wrong with me. So I tried to starve myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, listened to hundreds of love stories from others, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, for twice. But none of these worked.
During my love journey, the self-doubt haunted.
At my 25-year-old birthday, after loving my best friend Dillion for 3 years, I pulled up all my courage to tell him my feeling. It was in a Pizza Restaurant, I still remember the smell of cheese and bacon in the air. Dillion was sitting in front of me, busy eating pizza.
I was suppose to say something. I held my breath, my face turned red, and looked at him in the eye, I said: Dillion, you are the person I liked most during the past 25 years.
Time stopped, so did my heart. I was expecting a similar response from him.
He paused a while, squeezed a smile and said: “Ivy, you are my best friend ever.” Well I interpreted it as a polite way to say NO. He is not that into me, God, that hurts. The man who knows me the most didn't like me. See, there must be something wrong with me. Since then, I closed my love door even without realizing it.
The journey continued. I learned to be more practical afterward. So I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. Within 2 years time, I met several good guys. Mr.D is very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T is very handsome, but we had different expectations about life. Mr. M has a very promising career, but he is too self-centered. With the "help" of these golden rules, none of these Mr. DTM is ideal. Until I met Mr. Pathways, surprisingly, he met almost very piece of criteria I wrote. However, after dating him for 1 month, I finally turned him down again. Why? because I realized that love is not about standards. He is good, but I just don't have chemistry in him.
I didn’t realized those unrealistic criteria are the high walls I set between me and the true love, until my mentor in my club turned to me and said, "Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a" I wondered, "wow girl." Wow girl, am I? Wow.
At that point of time, I realized the real problem is never about others, is that I don't really fell in love with myself. Since the first time I was rejected, I tagged myself as unattractive and even problematic. I became so picky about myself. Whenever others get close, my inner voice is like: "Go away, she is not that good" My Aha moment comes when I start to appreciate the real me, the strengths and the flaws as well.
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. When I love myself, I wouldn’t run away when I’m facing the loved ones, because I know I deserve to be loved. When I love myself, I became more tolerate to others, free myself from those unrealistic rules. When I love myself, I know the best love would come sooner or later. None of us is perfect, but we are wow enough to be loved. Good luck.
第五版
Ladies and gentlemen,
Do you believe in true love? Did you suffer before you find it?
Well, I suffered, a lot. For years, I've been wondering even struggling in love. Whenever I missed the opportunity, I always think there must be something wrong with me. So I tried to starve myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, listened to hundreds of love stories from others, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, for twice. But none of these worked.
During my love journey, the self-doubt haunted.
After liking Dillion for 3 years. On my 25th birthday, I decided it was time to tell him my feeling. It was in a Pizza Restaurant. I still remember the smell of cheese and bacon in the air.
Dillion was busy enjoying the pizza on the table. I held my breath, my face was as red as a tomato. I told myself, now or never.
I looked at Dillion straight into his eyes and said: Dillion, you are the person I liked most during the past 25 years.
I was sweating bullets after saying that. and extremely nervous of how he would respond.
He seemed to be a little surprised holding one piece of pizza in his hand. he squeezed a smile and said gently "Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
I felt like time was stopped. Felt like my heart was shattered into pieces when his response wasn't what I was expected.
God, that hurts. The man who knew me the most didn't love me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That is the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. Within 2 years time, I met several good guys. Mr.D is very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T is very handsome, but we had different expectations about life. Mr. M has a very promising career, but he is too self-centered. With the "help" of these golden rules, none of these Mr. DTM is ideal. Until the end of last year, I met Mr. Pathways, surprisingly, he met almost very piece of criteria I wrote. However, after dating him for 1 month, I finally turned him down again. Why? because I realized that love is not about standards. He was good, but I just didn't have chemistry in him.
At this point of time, I was totally confused. I remembered one night, I was sitting at a dinner table, when my mentor asked: "Ivy, why do you look so hopeless?" I responded with my failed love stories. He turned to me and said:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a"
I wondered,
"wow girl."
Wow girl, am I? Wow.
Suddenly, I realized that I am the problem. I had not been in love with myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive or even problematic. I became so picky about myself. So whenever others got close, my inner voice was like: "Go away, she is not that good" My Aha moment came when I started to appreciate the real me, the strengths, as well as the flaws.
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. When I love myself, I wouldn’t run away when I’m facing the loved ones, because I know I deserve to be loved. When I love myself, I became more tolerate to others, treat them as who they are rather than what they have. The world is a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind. None of us is perfect, but we are wow enough to be loved. Good luck.
第六版
Ladies and gentlemen,
Do you believe in true love? Did you suffer before you find it?
Well, I suffered, a lot. For years, I've been wondering even struggling in love. Whenever I missed the opportunity, I always thought there must be something wrong with me. So I tried to starve myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, listened to hundreds of successful love stories from others, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, for twice. But none of these worked.
During my love journey, the self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years. During the graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, now or never.
Dillion was busy enjoying the pizza on the table. I still remembered the smell of cheese and bacon in the air.
I headed to him. I held my breath, my face was as red as a tomato. I looked at Dillion straight into his eyes and said: Dillion, you are the person I liked most during the my past years.
I was sweating bullets after saying that, and extremely nervous of how he would respond.
He seemed to be a little surprised holding one piece of pizza in his hand. he tapped my shoulder and said gently "Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
I felt like time was stopped. My heart was shattered into pieces. I lost my courage to ask him further and ran away. God, that hurts. The man who knew me the most didn't love me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. Life moved on, I met several good guys. Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T was very handsome, but we had different expectations about life. Mr. M had a very promising career, but he was too self-centered. With the "help" of these golden rules, none of these Mr. DTM was ideal. Until the end of last year, I met Mr. Pathways. Surprisingly, he met almost very piece of criteria I wrote. However, after dating him for 1 month, I finally turned him down again. Why? because I realized that love went far beyond the standards. He was good, but I just didn't have chemistry in him.
At this point of time, I was totally confused and hopeless. Remember one night, after I delivered a 7 min speech in a Toastmaster meeting about my failed love stories, my mentor came to me and said:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are such a"
I wondered,
"wow girl."
Wow girl, am I? Wow.
At that moment, I realized that I was the problem. I had not been loving with myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive or even problematic. I became so picky about myself. So whenever others got close, my inner voice was like: "Go away, she is not that good" My Aha moment came when I finally started to appreciate the real me, the strengths, as well as the flaws.
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. When I love myself, I wouldn’t run away when I’m facing the loved ones, because I know I deserve to be loved. When I love myself, I became more tolerate to others, treat them as who they are rather than what criteria they meet.
The world is a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind. The good news is even though none of us is perfect, we are wow enough to be loved. Good luck.
第七版
lessons learned:
Hubie:
(1) 以终为始，讲故事不要画蛇添足，不要丢掉听众，核心-冲突-解决-骨架（背景-动力-结局）-在骨架上加入细节
（2）讲故事：心理障碍-后来做了什么
（3）精彩：误区（人物描述太平淡：VAKS视觉听觉触觉嗅觉、行动描写一带而过：show instead of tell、冲突造成的情感冲突不够深刻：加深感触，下一个痛点更痛，改变顺序爽点放到最后，合理添油加醋）
（4）走心：对话代替叙述，用词和语调要精。只用在关键时刻、从平淡的叙述到高潮对话，对手说一句、导师说第二句、内心对话
Yan：
1. don't change too much, be picky about suggestions
2. purpose: positively change people somehow, lead people to act
3. title is the trigger of your message, only one message in a 7min speech, message should be less than 10 words
4. wow opening, let people know you and build connection.
5. low point comes too early
6. wow ending
7. where should the message appear: right after the low point, and build on the message later on（You are responsible for your message)
8. don't waste 1 sec, fewer words, even pause should be big and dramatic(Good language, great voice, lovely face)
9. have fun with your speech. checklist, self-monkery after Mr. D T M
10. address: "Mr./ Madam Contest chair, honored guests, fellow Toastmasters, "
11. stage use：left to right=past to future, personal space to distinguish
12. Use I and U instead of third person, make it personal
13. be a Singer, pronounce it clear and comfortable to hear
Darren 03集 first 30s opening should be appealing：
I wish you could have been there...（Happy scene）
I would never forget the first time...
It was one of the most exciting days of my life.
It was the scariest moment of my life...until I
! It was not exactly what I have expected...
What would a world be like without...
If I would ask you...
Who would have thought...
Remember the good old days...(compare)
It was just one of those days...(可好可坏)
Welcome to...
Congratulations. ...
!Just like you, I was brought up to believe that if you ...， you would...
Come back with me to...(left to right)
Imagine
Let's start to the beginning of the story...
The year was...
Suddenly, everything fell into pe
When I was growing up, my father always said...
You know what is like...
Have you ever had the feeling that...
To put this report into historical perspective, ...
I know what you are thinking...
Title: Wow
Core: Unconditional Self-love is the core of true love.
冲突：first love failed- be single for 27 years- Wow-reflection-core-feeling
Wow
Mr./ Madam Contest chair, honored guests, fellow Toastmasters,
Just like you, I was brought up to believe that if you are good enough, you deserve the true love.
So I set myself standards to be good. I starved myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, - twice. But none of these worked. It took me 27 years to find true love.
Before that, self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years. During the college graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, now or never.
People were cheering, hugging, and taking pictures. Everyone was happy but me. I stood like an outsider. My face was as red as tomato.
I creeped to Dillion, held my breath, looked at him straight into his eyes and said: "Dillion, you are the person I liked most during my past years."
I was sweating bullets, extremely nervous.
He seemed to be a little surprised, paused a little, tapped my shoulder and said gently
"Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
Time stopped. My heart was shattered into pieces. I lost my courage to continue and ran away.
God, that hurt. The man who knew me the most didn't love me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. I met some good guys. Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T - very handsome, but we had different expectations. Mr. M had a very promising career, but wait, he was too self-centered. These golden rules made me run away from all Mr. DTM, also won me a special title, SAA, single and available.
I was totally confused, even hopeless. I complained my failed love stories in my club, after the meeting, my mentor, a men full of wisdom and energy, came to me:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are really — Wow"
Wait, me? Wow, am I?
I reflected his words for days, and I gradually realized that I had not been loving myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive, even problematic. So whenever others got close, my inner voice was like: “Run, you don’t deserve him”
Ladies and gentlemen, self-love is the core of true love. This world is a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind. If you seek for love from others, love yourself first.
When I love myself, I become braver in front of the opportunity, because I know I deserve this love. When I love myself, I become more tolerate to others, because I believe no one has to be good enough to be loved.
In the final analysis, true love starts from within. You should love yourself first before you can find someone to love you back. None of us is perfect, but the good news is we are wow enough to be loved.
第八版：
Wow
Madam Contest chair, honored guests, fellow Toastmasters,
Just like you, I was brought up to believe that if you tried to be the best of yourself, true love comes to you, and Prince and Princess live happily after.
So I pushed myself to be better. I starved myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, - twice. But none of these worked. It took me 27 years to figure out the core of true love, which finally made me complete. But before that, self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years. During the college graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, now or never.
People were cheering, hugging, and taking pictures. Everyone was happy except me. I stood like an outsider.
I creeped to Dillion, held my breath, My face was as red as tomato. I looked at him straight into his eyes and said: "Dillion, you are the person I liked most during my past years."
I was sweating bullets, extremely nervous.
He seemed to be a little surprised, paused a little, tapped my shoulder and said gently
"Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
Time stopped. My heart was shattered into pieces. I lost my courage to continue and ran away.
God, that hurt. The man who knew me the most didn't lIke me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend. I met some good guys. Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T - very handsome, but we had different expectations. Mr. M had a very promising career, but wait, he was too self-centered. These golden rules made me run away from all Mr. DTM, also won me a special title, SAA, single and available.
I was totally confused, even hopeless. I complained my failed love stories in my club, after the meeting, my mentor, a men full of wisdom, came to me:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are really — Wow"
Wait, Wow, me? Am I?
I reflected his words for days, and gradually realized that I had not been loving myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive, even problematic. So whenever others got close, my inner voice was like: “Run, you don’t deserve this.”
Ladies and gentlemen, self-love is the core of true love. The world is like a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind.
Because when I love myself, I become braver in front of the loved one, because I know I deserve this love. When I love myself, I become more tolerate to others, because I understand no one has to be good enough to be loved.
In the final analysis, true love starts from loving oneself. You should love yourself first before you can find someone to love you back. None of us is perfect, but the good news is we are wow enough to be loved. Don't run, say wow.
第九版
Wow
Madam Contest chair, honored guests, fellow Toastmasters,
Just like you, I was brought up to believe if you work hard enough, true love comes to you.
So I always pushed myself to be better in order to meet the Mr. right.
I starved myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, - twice. But none of these worked. It took me 27 years to figure out the core of true love. But before that, self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years. During the college graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, now or never.
While people were cheering, hugging, and taking pictures, I creeped to Dillion, held my breath, My face was as red as tomato. I looked at him straight into his eyes and said:
"Dillion, you are the person I liked most during my past years."
I was sweating bullets, extremely nervous.
He seemed to be a little surprised, tapped my shoulder and said gently
"Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
Time stopped. My heart was shattered into pieces. I lost my courage to continue and ran away.
God, that hurt. The man who knew me the most didn't like me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I went back and listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend, and indeed met some good guys later on. Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T - very handsome, but we had different expectations. Mr. M had a very promising career, but, too self-centered. These golden rules made me run away from all these Mr. DTM, also won me a special title in Toastmaster, SAA, single and available.
I was totally confused, frustrated, and even hopeless. I complained my failed love stories in club. After one meeting, my mentor, came to me:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are really — Wow"
Wait, Wow, me? Am I?
His words played over and over in my head, and gradually I realized that I had not been loving myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive, even problematic. So whenever love got close, my inner voice was like: “Run, you don’t deserve this.”
The world is like a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind. If you don't love yourself, no wonder you can't see love anywhere in your life.
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. When I love myself, I become braver in front of the loved one, because I know I deserve be loved sooner or later. When I love myself, I become more tolerate to others, because I understand love itself goes far beyond standards. After learning to love myself for 3 months, I met my Mr. Pathways.
In the final analysis, you should love yourself first before you can find someone who can really love you back. None of us is perfect, but the good news is, we are wow enough to be loved. Good luck.
第十版：Wow
Madam Contest chair, honored guests, fellow Toastmasters,
Just like you, I was brought up to believe if you work hard enough, true love comes to you.
So I always pushed myself to be better in order to meet the Mr. right.
I starved myself to look more skinny, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to prey, - twice. But none of these worked. It took me 27 years to figure out the core of true love. But before that, self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years. On the college graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, now or never.
While people were cheering, hugging, and taking photos, I creeped to Dillion, held my breath, My face was as red as tomato. I looked at him straight into his eyes and said:
"Dillion, you are the person I liked most during my past years."
I was sweating bullets, extremely nervous.
He seemed to be a little surprised, tapped my shoulder and said gently
"Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
Time stopped. My heart was shattered into pieces. I lost my courage to continue and ran away.
God, that hurt. The man who knew me the most didn't like me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I went back and listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend, and indeed met some good guys later on.
Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T - very handsome, but we had different expectations. Mr. M had a very promising career, but, too self-centered. These golden rules made me run away from all Mr. DTM, also won me a special title in Toastmaster, SAA, single and available.
I was totally confused, frustrated, and even hopeless. I complained my failed love stories in club. After the meeting, my mentor came to me:
"Ivy, you should let others know you more, you are really — Wow"
Wait, Wow, me? Am I?
His words played over and over in my head, and gradually I realized that I had not been loving myself for so long. Since the first time I was rejected, I labelled myself as unattractive, even problematic. So whenever love got close, my inner voice was like: “Run, you don’t deserve this.”
The world is like a mirror, we can only see the reflection of what we have in mind. If you don't love yourself, you can't see love anywhere in life.
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. When I love myself, I become braver in front of the loved one, because I know I deserve to be loved sooner or later. When I love myself, I become more tolerate to others, because I understand love itself goes far beyond those standards. After starting to love myself for 3 months, I finally met my Mr. Pathways.
In the final analysis, you should love yourself first before you can find someone who truly loves you. None of us is perfect, but the good news is, we are wow enough to be loved. Good luck.
第11版：Wow
Madam Contest chair, fellow Toastmasters,
Just like you, I was brought up to believe if you work hard enough, you can gain everything in life, including true love.
So I went on a diet to look more lovely, read dozens of books about intimate relationship, even went to Yonghegong Lama Temple to pray, - twice. But between me and my Mr. Right, there were still, wow...people mountain, people sea. 27 years passed, before I figured out the core of true love, self-doubt haunted.
After falling in love with my best friend Dillion for 3 years, on the college graduation ceremony, I thought it might be my last opportunity to express my feeling. I told myself, Ivy, now or never.
It was a bright sunny day. Graduates were cheering, hugging, and taking photos.
I creeped to Dillion, held my breath, My face was as red as tomato. I looked at him straight into his eyes and said:
"Dillion, you are the person I liked most during my past years."
I was sweating bullets, extremely nervous.
He seemed to be a little surprised, paused a while and said gently,
"Ivy, you are my best friend ever."
Time stopped. My heart was frozen and shattered into pieces.
God, that hurt. The man who knew me the most didn't like me. See, there must be something wrong with me. That was the beginning of my crushed love journey.
Afterward, I learned to be more practical. I listed 20 criteria for my future boyfriend, and indeed met some good guys.
Mr.D was very knowledgeable, but no physical attraction. Mr.T - very handsome, but we had different expectations. Mr. M had a very promising career, but, too self-centered. These golden rules kept me running away from all Mr. DTM, also won me a special title, SAA, single and available.
I was totally frustrated, and even hopeless. Each time after sharing my heart-breaking love stories in club, they gave me the Best Speaker of the day. Once my mentor came to me:
"Ivy, let others know you more, you are really — Wow"
"Wow, wait, me?"
His words played over and over in my head, and gradually I realized that I have been escaping all these years.
Since the first love failed, I labelled myself as unattractive, even problematic. So whenever others got close, the demon inside was ragging: “Run, you don’t deserve this.” Have you ever had the same feeling?
Ladies and gentlemen, loving oneself is the core of true love. Since your heart is a mirror, you can only see what you have in mind.
After I realized that, I kept reminding myself I AM wow. Little by little, I was healed by this inner love, and the unconditional self-love also leads me to my Mr. Pathways.
In the final analysis, none of us is perfect, but the good news is, we are wow enough to be loved. Look at yourself, and say I am...
Contest Chair.