84.David Brooks Gives the Commencement Address at Dartmouth 2015

今天专门选择了霞姐的课，昨天的老师讲的有些,,,，今天由于最近高考毕业，他们选了很多毕业演讲，很酷，作者十个美国著名作家评论员。达特茅斯是美国常春藤名校之一。
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgoiVAI9B1w是yutube,
估计大家看不到了，但是这个演讲很好。后面附了部分内容。
这个演讲一反平常毕业演讲的激励鸡汤风格，一上来就说我告你妈现在你们正是最幸福的时候，以后只会越来越down,现在我来告诉你们之后生活会过成什么烂样子......

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• 酸爽：bitter but refreshing提神的；使清爽的 [rɪ'freʃɪŋ]
• spoiler[ˈspɔɪlɚ]剧透; ~alert.剧透警告
• summon [ˈsʌmən]vt. 传唤，召唤;
• 生命中最快乐的时光:Your 20s are your happiest phase of life.
• 失业、待业unemployed [,ʌnɪm'plɔɪd]underemployed [,ʌndərɪm'plɔɪd]
• playwright 剧作家;
• contour [ˈkɑ:ntʊr]显示轮廓
• intimidating [ɪnˈtɪmɪˌdet]吓人的
• spouse配偶[spaʊz]
• affair 事情 [ə'feə]
• make sense.合理的
• conquer ['kɒŋkə]征服
• inverse相反的

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作者先说刚毕业之后你们1/3会找不到工作，1/3会回家，之后几年你们会迷茫，挫折，直到47岁情绪跌倒谷底才会反弹.....,但是，话锋一转，但这就是人生，你要：

第一步：在迷茫中去TRY!!!!

• You don’t really know the nature of your love until you’ve tested it with reality.** 只有实践。**
• ..... But this is part of the process. It’s part of the process of finding your loves and testing your loves. 迷茫无知混乱刚毕业这些是必须的，是一个过程。让你找到真正自己所爱的事业。
• So like everyone in their 20s, I got to test my loves and I got to sample some new loves. It was like trying on clothes at the mall. over the next ten really formless years, my heart developed some contours and I learned what I loved most

第二步，自我掌握：拥有自己的能力，价值观，自己判断人生。

You have your own criteria. You’re not relying on the opinions of others. Your own standard and your own ability to judge your own life.

第三阶段：作出承诺。

• Making commitments sounds intimidating, but it’s not. Making a commitment means falling in love with something, and then building a structure of behavior around it that will carry you through when your love falters.

• Adulthood is not being able to control your temptations; it’s about this ability to make commitments。

• 职业并不是失事业。 But a vocation is not a career. A career is something you choose. A vocation is something that summons you. People with vocations don’t ask: What do I want from life? They ask: What is life demanding me to do? What gap is there in my specific circumstances around me that demands my skill set?

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这篇文章于我而言，我收获2点。第一，不要害怕毕业后的事业，迷茫，你需要就是不断去尝试各种职业，that's ok.第二，成熟，是说你有能力去信守承诺，尤其是对自己的承诺。
Making a commitment means falling in love with something, and then building a structure of behavior around it that will carry you through when your love falters.还是不太理解，但是我会在生活中注意每一个承诺，并且！努力！