If I ask you, what do you want out of life, and you say something like, I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like, it's so ubiquitous that it doesn't even mean anything.
如果我问你，在人生中，你想收获什么，你跟我说，我想要幸福，我想要可爱的家庭，我想要我喜欢的工作，这样的回答是很宽泛的，甚至是没有意义的。
A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you've never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
现在，我要问你一个更有意思的问题，你可能从来都没有思考过它。那就是，在人生中，你想经历什么样的痛苦？你愿意为什么而奋斗？因为，似乎这才是人生的决定因素。
Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence, but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.
每个人都想拥有一份光鲜的工作，拥有财务自由，但是，并不是每个人都愿意每周工作60小时，每天花大量时间在通勤上，写无趣的文件，一步步往上爬，坐在狭隘的办公间里，深受限制，感到倦怠，就像待在地狱里一样。
Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life. At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar.
不经历奋斗，就得不到幸福。好的一面是，通过糟糕的经历，我们会获得成长。你无法永远逃避挫折，因为它们总会卷土重来。本质上讲，人类的需求或多或少是相似的。
Positive experience is easy to handle. It's negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire, but by what bad feelings we're willing and able to sustain to getus to those good feelings.
快乐的经历当然让人感到安逸，而那些糟糕的经历，才是我们都要努力面对的。所以，在人生中，那些积极的事情，并不会决定我们的收获，而那些我们愿意去、并且能够去忍受的糟糕经历，才会让我们得到最终的快乐。
People want an amazing physique. But you don't end up with one unless you legitimately appreciatethe pain and physical stress that comes with living inside a gym for hour upon hour, unless you love calculating and calibrating the food you eat, planning your life out in tiny plate-sized portions.
人们想要完美的身材，但是，你要知道，经常去健身房，不断地训练，这会带来很大的痛苦，还有身体上的压力，你要耐心地计算你的饮食热量，做好饮食规划，只有你发自内心地享受、热爱这些事情，你才会得到完美身材。
People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don't end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to appreciate the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not.
人们想创业，想得到财务自由，但是，只有你享受冒险，未知，持续的失败，高强度工作，为一件结果未知的事情而努力，你才会成为一个成功的创业者。
What determines your success isn't what do you want to enjoy. The question is, what pain do you want to sustain? The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality ofyour negative experiences. And to getgood at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.
你是否能成功，不是取决于你想享受什么，而是取决于，你愿意承受什么样的痛苦。你的人生是否精彩，并不取决于你那些快乐的经历，而是取决于你受过的挫折。要想活得精彩，你就要学会应对痛苦的经历。
There's a lot of crappy advice outthere that says, you've just got to wantit enough. Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren't aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want enough. Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, thesoreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten thousand.
有很多人提的建议都是无用的，他们说，你的愿望要足够强烈才行。每个人，都想拥有点什么，每个人的愿望都是足够强烈的。他们只是不知道，自己想要的到底是什么，或者，最强烈的愿望是什么，而已。一件事情会给你带来好处，与此同时，你也要付出很多。如果你想要完美的身材，那么你就要经历汗水，疼痛，早起锻炼，强烈的饥饿感。如果你想要一艘游艇，那么你就要经历挑灯夜战，在事业上冒险，得罪一个人或很多人。
If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image anda false promise. Maybe what you want isn't what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don't actually want it at all.
如果你发现，自己一直想拥有一个东西，但是什么事情都没发生，你也没有离它越来越近，那么，有可能，你想要的东西，不过是白日梦，是空洞的理想，是看似美好的愿景，是无法实现的承诺。也许，你想要的，并不是你想要的，你只是喜欢那种欲望而已。也许，你根本就不想要那个东西。
Sometimes I ask people, how do you choose to suffer? These people tilt their heads and look at me like I have twelve noses. But I ask because that tells me far more about you than your desires and fantasies. Because you have to choose something. You can't have a pain-free life. It can't all be roses and unicorns. And ultimately that's the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?
有时候，我问人们，你愿意选择什么样的痛苦？人们歪歪头，看着我，好像我是个怪物一样。但是，我这样问，是因为，你的答案所体现的，不仅仅是你的愿望和梦想。因为，你必须要选择点什么痛苦。人生中，痛苦是无法避免的，你不可能总是很安逸。到头来，最重要的事情，往往是最难的事情。安逸这件事，太简单了，大多数人都喜欢安逸。然而，更有意思的问题，是和痛苦有关的。你想承受什么样的痛苦？
That answer will actually get you somewhere. It's the question that can change your life. It's what makes me me and you you. It's what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.
你的答案，会让你有所收获。这个问题，能改变你的人生。它决定了我是谁，你是谁。它决定了我们的人生，让我们与众不同，让志同道合的人聚到一起。