Give me more than food to nourish me. Give me the warmth and the security of your love.
滋养我,不仅限于食物之于我的身体;给予我温暖,给我爱的港湾。
Let me enjoy all five senses. Give me plenty of things to look at, to feel, to smell, to listen to, to taste. And even some things to break.
任我好奇地张望,感知,倾听,让我自由地呼吸,品尝甚至偶尔搞些小破坏!
Teach me to take my turn. Watch me play so you can see how I am trying to work out my problems and what I am up against.
教我耐心等待,陪我玩耍,欣赏我的本领,人小鬼大,我也能解决自己的问题!
When you tell me to do something, please tell me why I should do it. Let me feel that I am a contributing member of the family. And be sure to include me in making the family plans when you can.
不要发号施令,因为我不是你的士兵,凡事请告诉我理由。我不是你计划的一部分,而是家里的一份子,我想和你一起计划人生!
Please don't keep me your baby when 1 want to feel grown up. Don't transfer your fears to me. I have enough of my own to cope with and I don't need any more.
不要总把我当小孩看待,小孩都是会长大的!不要把你的焦虑和恐惧转嫁于我,因为我的麻烦可一点也不比你少!
Help me not to act when I am angry. But don't make me so afraid of showing anger that I lose my capacity to feel strongly about anything.
教会我在生气的时候控制情绪,但不要把我变成一只胆小怕事任人宰割的“小绵羊”。
Let me learn bit by bit to bear pain, to want things but to be strong enough to postpone gratification of certain feelings 1 am not ready to expenence.
给我勇气品尝人生的酸甜苦辣,鼓励我勇于尝试,拒绝诱惑,学习感受延迟满足的快乐。
Let me try out my new powers as my body develops-to creep, to stand, to walk, climb, jump, and run when I am ready. Don't limit the natural needs of my body because you have some unresolved hang-ups.
不要因为你自己内心的焦虑而试图泯灭我爱跑,爱跳的天性,我要上九天揽月,下五洋捉鳖,与天公试比高!
Give me a little corner in the house that is all mine and nobody else's. I need moments of peace and quiet that cannot be invaded by anyone.
给我一方小小的天地,我也需要独处的时间和空间,不被打扰。
Give me my share of consideration and attention. I must know every day, even if for just a few moments, that I am the only one you are thinking about and loving.
关心我的感受,不要说我自私,我只是想知道你的心里只有我,你爱我如你的唯一,哪怕每天只有那么一分一秒!
Let me ask any question that pops into my head.
不要嫌弃我是个“十万个为什么”
Don't make me ashamed for having asked it, even if it seems stupid. And give me as honest an answer as you can. If you don't know the answer, please say so. It's good training to hear someone say"1 don't know, but I will try to find out for you."
鼓励我不耻下问并如实回答我的问题,如果我把你问倒了,不要支支吾吾搪塞我,最好的回答是,“我也不知道,但是我一定会为你找到答案。”
Be patient with me when I don't do things very well at first. Remember, I have so many things to learn and almost everything takes some practice.
当我把事情搞砸了的时候,不要对我劈头盖脸,要知道成长的路上我有那么多东西要学,但是没有一样我能无师自通!
Above all, grant me, without reservation, your debt to me-un- conditional love. For if I know it is there, I will be able to give the same to my children-and they will be able to give it to their children.
重中之重,请全身心地,无条件地爱我,因为有一天当我长大,我会把这种爱传递给我的孩子,我的孩子会延续这个爱的接力!
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