日更Day13：Love and Psychotherapy---The Road Less Traveled读书笔记

其实，看到书中Peck讲到有的病人在他那治疗周期很长，甚至以年为单位时，我不禁邪恶的想，心理咨询师会不会跟病人擦出爱的小火花呢？！容我先面壁思过三秒钟！

I had very little notion that the work involved would have something to do with the spiritual growth of patients, and certainly I had no notion whatsoever that it would involve my own spiritual growth.

心理咨询师在为病人治疗的过程中，不知不觉自己也得到了精神的滋养。

在心里咨询过程中，心理咨询师要一直给病人说好的事情吗？几乎不！理由：

1. It is necessary to be honest in therapy at all times.

2. the admiration and liking was of real significance to the patient precisely because of the length of time he had known her and the depth of their experiences in therapy.

It had to do with the nature of their relationship.

由此可见，心理师只是客观陈述而已。

在治疗的过程中，心理咨询师和病人不断地深入交流，彼此信任，目的是为了更好地治疗，让病人及早的走出心理阴影，实现精神的滋养与成长，这是种意愿，其本质即爱。

但这跟romantic的爱是不同的。

心理咨询师跟对病人的付出是有爱的成分的，但这样的爱是父母对孩子那样的爱，绝非falling in love。

For he most part, mental illness is caused by an absence of or defect in the love that a particular child required from its particular parents for successful maturation and spiritual growth.

由此可见，病人精神方面的问题来自父母关怀的缺失，造成性格缺陷及精神荒芜。所以寻求心理治疗，是为了弥补这种缺失。

The job of a parent is to encourage a child along the path toward independence, and the job of a therapist with a patient is the same.

所以，从某种意义上来说，心理咨询师是是这些病人的再生父母，在亲生父母那缺失的部分爱，心理咨询师小心翼翼的给补上，以期使之人生得到完满！