目录：
1. Great parents do what they say they are going to do
伟大的父母说话算数
2. Great parents do what they know
伟大的父母做自己懂的
3. Great parents change themselves first
伟大的父母首先改变自己
4. Great parents focus near and far
伟大的父母既关注当下，又关注将来
5. Great parents see parenting as a skill
伟大的父母把教养孩子当做一门技能
6. Great parents practice empathy
伟大的父母练习同理心
7. Great parents watch out for “buts”
伟大的父母小心使用“但是”这个词
8. Great parents respect their children’s reality
伟大的父母尊重孩子看待事物的方式
9. Great parents accept their kids just as they are
伟大的父母接纳孩子本来的样子
10. Great parents avoid these toxic phrases
伟大的父母不说伤人的话
11. Great parents teach kids to feel their feelings and choose their actions
伟大的父母教孩子感受自己的情绪，并且选择自己的行为
12. Great parents aren’t perfect
伟大的父母不是完美的
13. Great parents let kids make mistakes and experience failure
伟大的父母允许孩子犯错误和体验失败
14. Great parents resist the urge to “fix” feelings
伟大的父母控制自己想要“修理”情绪的冲动
15. Great parents take ownership of their feelings
伟大的父母做自己情绪的主人
16. Great parents acknowledge their moods and feelings
伟大的父母承认他们的情绪与感觉
17. Great parents pay attention
伟大的父母愿意关注孩子
18. Great parents cultivate self-awareness
伟大的父母培养自我意识
19. Great parents practice positive touch
伟大的父母练习积极的触摸
20. Great parents help kids develop positive habits
伟大的父母帮助孩子发展正面的习惯
21. Great parents distinguish between goals and methods
伟大的父母分清楚目标和方法
22. Great parents show kids the way
伟大的父母给孩子做示范
23. Great parents don’t gratify behavior they don’t want repeated
伟大的父母不去强调他们不想要孩子重复的行为
24. Great parents “catch” kids being good (and tell kids specifically what they liked)
伟大的父母“抓住”孩子表现好的时候（并且具体地说出喜欢孩子的什么）
25. Great parents discipline lovingly
伟大的父母带着爱意来管教孩子
26. Great parents discipline in private
伟大的父母在私下管教孩子
27. Great parents avoid disciplining when tired or hungry
伟大的父母避免在累了或饿了的时候管教孩子
28. Great parents see the goal of discipline as learning, not punishment
伟大的父母将管教的目标定位在学习，而非惩罚
29. Great parents understand that children’s brains are different
伟大的父母理解孩子的大脑跟成人的不同
30. Great parents notice what they say and how they say it
伟大的父母注意自己说什么以及怎么说
31. Great parents see that actions speak louder than words
伟大的父母懂得身教胜于言教
32. Great parents practice emotion coaching
伟大的父母练习情绪教练技术
33. Great parents promote self-control
伟大的父母提倡自我控制
34. Great parents view kids as little explorers and scientists
伟大的父母将孩子视为小探索家、科学家
35. Great parents give previews
伟大的父母给出提示
36. Great parents give kids the benefit of the doubt
伟大的父母让孩子从怀疑中获益
37. Great parents share their power
伟大的父母跟孩子分享权力
38. Great parents are in charge
伟大的父母要掌控局面
39. Great parents maintain a warm and affectionate attitude
伟大的父母保持温暖而有爱的态度
40. Great parents treat their kids with respect, consideration, and kindness
伟大的父母以尊重、体贴与和善对待孩子
41. Great parents expect their kids to treat them with respect, consideration, and kindness
伟大的父母期望孩子以尊重、体贴与和善对待自己
42. Great parents rarely say “Good job!” or “You are so smart!”
伟大的父母极少说“真棒！”或者“你真聪明！”
43. Great parents (mostly) avoid labels
伟大的父母（基本上）不适应标签
44. Great parents play it straight
伟大的父母跟孩子说真话
45. Great parents use scaffolding
伟大的父母使用“鹰架”
46. Great parents give a reason
伟大的父母给出理由
47. Great parents give fair warning
伟大的父母给出合理的警告
48. Great parents are transparent about their decision-making process
伟大的父母对孩子公开决策过程
49. Great parents know that reasoning has its limits
伟大的父母了解讲道理的局限性
50. Great parents harness the power of natural consequences
伟大的父母利用自然后果法的力量
51. Great parents give speeding tickets
伟大的父母给孩子“超速罚单”
52. Great parents create speed bumps
伟大的父母给孩子创造“减速装置”
53. Great parents are consistent
伟大的父母慎终如始
54. Great parents strive to be matter-of-fact
伟大的父母努力保持冷静客观
55. Great parents teach happiness habits (and also practice them)
伟大的父母教给孩子快乐的习惯（并且练习它们）
56. Great parents teach kids the three Ps
伟大的父母交给孩子三个'P'
57. Great parents protect playtime
伟大的父母保护孩子的游戏时间
58. Great parents prioritize sleep
伟大的父母重视睡眠
59. Great parents encourage sensible risk taking
伟大的父母鼓励合理的冒险
60. Great parents encourage their kids to “do good”
伟大的父母鼓励孩子“表现好”
61. Great parents avoid power struggles
伟大的父母避免权力之争
62. Great parents avoid reward economies
伟大的父母避免以奖励做交换条件
63. Great parents make time to give kids their full attention
伟大的父母花时间来全身心关注孩子
64. Great parents take care of themselves
伟大的父母照顾好自己
65. Great parents pivot
伟大的父母善于转换语言
66. Great parents use placeholders
伟大的父母使用占位符
67. Great parents reframe
伟大的父母调整认知
68. Great parents focus on the positive
伟大的父母关注积极的方面
69. Great parents can change the mood (be silly and playful)
伟大的父母能够改变情绪（傻乎乎、会玩）
70. Great parents avoid drama
伟大的父母避免戏剧化的反应
71. Great parents stop the action
伟大的父母制止行动
72. Great parents offer replays
伟大的父母提供重来的机会
73. Great parents stage rehearsals
伟大的父母进行彩排
74. Great parents focus on the relationship
伟大的父母关注关系
75. Great parents start where they are
伟大的父母从自己的实际情况开始改善