《语言是堵墙》-露丝·贝本梅尔（Ruth·Bebermeyer）

最近再看《非暴力沟通》，开头引用了露丝·贝本梅尔的一首小诗，我觉得很有感触，找到了英文原文，和大家分享一下。

《Words Are Windows (or They’re Walls)》

I feel so sentenced by your words,

I feel so judged and sent away,

Before I go I’ve got to know,

Is that what you mean to say?

听了你的话，我仿佛受到了审判，

我感到无比委屈，又无从分辨，

在离开前，我想问，

那真的是你的意思吗？

Before I rise to my defense,

Before I speak in hurt or fear,

Before I build that wall of words,

Tell me, did I really hear?

在自我辩护前，

再带着痛苦或恐惧质问前，

在我用言语筑起心灵之墙前，

告诉我，我真的听明白了吗？

Words are windows, or they’re walls,

They sentence us, or set us free.

When I speak and when I hear,

Let the love light shine through me.

语言是窗户，或者是墙，

它们审判我们，或者让我们自由。

在我诉说与倾听的时候，

请让爱的光芒照耀我。

There are things I need to say,

Things that mean so much to me,

If my words don’t make me clear,

Will you help me to be free?

我心里有话要讲，

那些话对我来说无比重要。

如果语言无法清晰地传达我的心声，

请你帮我获得自由好吗？

If I seemed to put you down,

If you felt I didn’t care,

Try to listen through my words,

To the feelings that we share.

如果你认为我想羞辱你，

如果你认定我不在乎你，

请透过我的语言，

倾听我们共有的情感。