爱自己，不是给自己买各种包包。
爱自己，首先从不再因各种事情责怪自己开始，而是意识到自己的真实需要。
我们经常批评和责备自己，自己不敢承担责任。心情不好时，暴饮暴食，不在乎自己的身体，得不到认可而否认自己的价值。这些都是不爱自己的表现。
关注自己的需要，去做自己喜欢的事。把焦点放在觉察自身模式上。清晰自己的真心，变得更有觉知，重新开始认识自己，重新接纳自己，带着爱的觉知去看待自己的幸福。
《生活的重建》中说，现在爱自己的方式，就是把自己变得更优秀。如果你决定爱自己，就好好爱当下自己，无条件接受真实的我本来就不完美的我。只有当自己终于可以做到好好爱自己，才会学会如何去爱别人。
献上一首诗《当我真正开始爱自己》，是卓别林70岁生日当天创作的一首诗歌，一位喜剧大师，在迟暮之年，褪尽一切铅华，选择归于本真。
这首诗一开始吸引我的是作者，一位喜剧大师在晚年创作的诗歌。最吸引我的地方是这首诗所表达出的生活和人生态度，爱护身体、活出自我、笑对人生、追求精神和心灵的愉悦……在当下这个浮躁和功利的社会，这种乐观豁达、平和的人生态度是我们急需的。
作为年轻一代的我们，面对生活、工作中的压力和不快，卓别林这首诗无疑给了我们很好的答案。少一点对世界愤懑与凉薄，多一点努力和毅力，认真的去爱自己，去获得心灵深处的宁静！
《当我真正开始爱自己》
作者：卓别林
当我真正开始爱自己，
我才认识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，
都只是提醒我：活着，不要违背自己的本心。
今天我明白了，这叫做“真实”。
当我真正开始爱自己，
我才懂得，把自己的愿望强加于人，
是多么的无礼，就算我知道，时机并不成熟，
那人也还没有做好准备，
就算那个人就是我自己。
今天我明白了，这叫做“尊重”。
当我开始爱自己，
我不再渴求不同的人生，
我知道任何发生在我身边的事情，
都是对我成长的邀请。
如今，我称之为“成熟”。
当我开始真正爱自己，
我才明白，我其实一直都在正确的时间，
正确的地方，发生的一切都恰如其分。
由此我得以平静。
今天我明白了，这叫做“自信”。
当我真正开始爱自己，
我不再牺牲自己的自由时间，
不再去勾画什么宏伟的明天。
今天我只做有趣和快乐的事，
做自己热爱，让心欢喜的事，
用我的方式、我的韵律。
今天我明白了，这叫做“单纯”。
当我开始真正爱自己，
我开始远离一切不健康的东西。
不论是饮食和人物，还是事情和环境，
我远离一切让我远离本真的东西。
从前我把这叫做“追求健康的自私自利”，
但今天我明白了，这是“自爱”。
当我开始真正爱自己，
我不再总想着要永远正确，不犯错误。
我今天明白了，这叫做“谦逊”。
当我开始真正爱自己，
我不再继续沉溺于过去，
也不再为明天而忧虑，
现在我只活在一切正在发生的当下，
今天，我活在此时此地，
如此日复一日。这就叫“完美”。
当我开始真正爱自己，
我明白，我的思虑让我变得贫乏和病态，
但当我唤起了心灵的力量，
理智就变成了一个重要的伙伴，
这种组合我称之为，“心的智慧”。
我们无须再害怕自己和他人的分歧，
矛盾和问题，因为即使星星有时也会碰在一起，
形成新的世界，今天我明白，这就是“生命”
卓别林《当我真正开始爱自己》英文原文：
AS I BEGAN TO LOVE MYSELF
CHARLIE CHAPLIN ON HIS 70TH BIRTHDAY
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it RESPECT.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it MATURITY.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm.
Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS “LIFE“!