不知道为什么,最近很容易因为各种事情影响我的心情,这都已经不是那个追求心如止水我了。大约是周围订婚的订婚、生孩子的生孩子、买房子的买房子,让我想到自己年纪确实不小了。也许是对工作的担忧。
时间催人老,尽管我不愿意,也非常不想承认,我确实已经28了。在22岁的时候,我幻想中28岁的我,心智坚定,已经找到了人生的方向,会是一个对社会有用的人,会有一个自己的家,我会为我心爱的人们做出美食。可现在我28岁,依旧迷茫,已经失去了不顾一切拼搏的精神,做任何事情都犹犹豫豫,畏首畏尾了。想要的很多,实现的很少,没有自己的家,也不敢有家。我突然深刻的体会的《情人》里说的那样:我已经老了。
周围的环境无时无刻的不再提醒我,而我却还在原地停留。除了容颜变老,心境却并没有太多成长,这其实并非是一件好事。我不知道该如何去改变这种现状。
感谢今天来的及时的鸡汤:Don’t let anyone rush you with their timelines.
Alright, everyone looking forward, please.
Good morning , year elevens.
Today’s assembly is about the start of a journey
The start of the rest of your lives.
In 2 years time all of you will be finishing your A levels.
In 3 yeas time you’ll be studying across the world, studying at the university of your choice.
In 5 years time you’ll have started your careers.
Many of you will be in this room working for the top institutions across the globe.
You will then get married, you then may buy a house.
In 10 years time your life will be set for you.
In 15 years you’ll be 30 and from then on your path, your life will be set.
I’m sorry, Mr.Headmaster, let me tell you why that approach may fail you.
I know people who graduated at 21 and didn’t get a job until they were 27.
I know people who graduated late at 25 and they found work immediately.
I know people who never went to university, but found what they love at 18.
I know people who found a job straight out of college making decent money, but hate what they do.
I know people who took gap years and found their purpose.
I know people who were so sure about what they were going to do at 16, they change their mind at 26.
I know people who have children but are single, and I know people who are married but had to wait 8 to 10 years to have children.
I know people in relationships who love someone else.
I know people who love each other but aren’t together.
So my point is everything in life happens according to our time, our clock.
You may look at some of your friends and think that they’re ahead of you, maybe some of them you feel are behind, but everything happens at their own pace.
They have their own time and clock and so do you.
Be patient.
At age 25, Mark Cuban was a bartender in Dallas.
It took till 32 for J.K.Rowling to be published for Harry Potter after being rejected by 12 publishers.
Ortega launched ZARA when he was 39.
Jack Ma started Alibaba when 35.
Morgan Freeman got his big break at 52.
Steve Carell only got his break after40 yeas old.
Virgin was started by Richard Branson at 34. Richard Branson
Getting your degree after 25 is still an achievement.
Not being married at 30 but still happy is beautiful.
Starting a family after 35 is still possible and buying a house after 40 is still great.
Don’t let anyone rush you with their time lines.
Because as Einstein said, “ Not everything that counts can be counted and not everything that’s counted truly counts.”
And this is the most important thing, I want you to be able to create meaningful, purposeful fulfilling lives for yourselves and learn how to use that to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others.
That will be true success.