PART 1Words and Expressions
1.pool
to combine your money, ideas, skills etc with those of other people so that you can all use them
v. 合伙[集中]使用，共用
原句:So they pool those desires.
他们集中了这些愿望。
pool不仅有池塘的意思，做动词还有集中(资金、知识或设备，供大家分享)的意思。
e.g. We pooled our resources and kownledge to take off our business.
2.rehearse
to practise or make people practise something such as a play or concert in order to prepare for a public performance v.排练，预演
e.g.I carefully rehearsed once and once again before giving a speech.
3.intuitive
an intuitive idea is based on a feeling rather than on knowledge or facts adj.出于直觉的
前缀in表示向里，在这里我理解为内心。这个词的名词形式是intuition，直觉。
有一个长的和它相似的词，instinct，是名词，意思是本能，直觉，天性，两个是同义词，可以对比记忆。
e.g.The result comfirmed my intuitive feelings.
4.thrust
①to push something somewhere roughly v.猛推，猛塞
②to make a sudden movement forward with a sword or knife
v.〔用刀剑〕刺，戳
我把它分成th+rust来记，th念起来像“撕”，撕和刺戳的感觉一样，rust 意为生锈，刀剑刺完了不就生锈了嘛，这个记法好歪门邪道啊～
e.g.The famous movie star was thrust into the crowd.
5.comply
to do what you have to do or are asked to do v.服从，遵守
comply 多于with连用。
comply 和complete(完成，完整的)前面一样。complement意为补充，而compliment是赞美的意思，不要弄混了。
e.g.I should comply with traffic regulation.
PART 2 Summary
In order to fish for the A Third Alternative,the author introduces synergy combined of the high Emotional Bank Account, think win-win,and seeking first to understand.
In fact, many people fall into a trap of negative synergy and want to manipulate because highly dependent people are succeeded in an interdependent reality. The key to interpersonal synergy is intrapersonal embodied in the first three habits.Besides,valuing the differences is the essence of synergy .And the key to valuing those differences is to realize that all people see the world as the are.
According to "Force Field Analysis"model, we use the motive of Habit 4, the skill of Habit 5, and the interaction of Habit 6 to work directly on the restraining forces. Finally, the author tells us all nature is synergistic and gives four application suggestions.
PART 3 Thoughts
作者举了个夫妻俩吵架的例子，丈夫理智，总是想让妻子告诉自己到底怎么做才能改善关系，典型的左脑思维。妻子却什么也不说，情感占了主导，典型的右脑思维。这多像现实中的情侣吵架啊，女生总是让男生猜她为什么生气了，然后来一句你不懂我就是不爱我。我觉得还是明明白白的说出来比较好，想要什么礼物，要去吃什么，有什么心里别扭的地方大胆的说出来，猜来猜去的难免会彼此疏远。
文中还有一句话Sameness is not oneness;uniformity is not unity.这让我疑惑我们所说的天下大同又是什么意思呢?搜了搜资料，所谓大同，就是指生产资料共有，人们之间没有等级差别、没有剥削压迫、平等和睦相处、各有所得所乐。每个个体都是自由的，每个人的差异都得到尊重和发展。这是一个理想的社会整体，是oneness，是unity，而整体之中又有差异性。
到了后来，便有了‘’各美其美，美人之美，美美与共，天下大同”的十六字“箴言”。“各美其美”是指各个民族都有自己的价值标准，各自有一套自己认为是美的东西。这些东西在别的民族看来不一定美，甚至会觉得丑恶。然而，民族接触的初期还常常发生强迫别的民族改变他们原有的价值标准来迁就自己的情形，只有在民族间平等地往来频繁之后，人们才开始发现别的民族觉得美的东西自己也觉得美。不仅能容忍不同价值标准的存在，进而能赞赏不同的价值标准，这就是‘’美人之美‘’。这不就是Habit 5要求的尊重差异，理解别人吗?再升华一步，“美美与共”是不同标准融合的结果，也就是Habit 6说的synergize。最终就会达到我们古代人所向往的“天下大同”了。
感觉古人的大智慧一时还消化不完，以后还要多看，多思考为是。