41.A letter to my daughters: Always be present

本文摘自一个名人们写给女儿信的网站，这篇作者Angela是Burberry的前CEO和Apple零售高级副总裁（Senior Vice President for Retail at Apple），她讲了最重要的四个人生建议给女儿，并且字里行间都透露出浓浓的爱，暖哭。
　　今天讲课的是John,好开心，John是公共号“清晨朗读会”的作者，人超级棒！并且，中文说的那叫一个666.

讲到一些知识点：

• lead by example以身作则
• 演讲の奥义（步骤）:
  1.Tell them what you're going to tell them.→2.Tell them.→3.Tell them what you've told them.

SUGGESTION Ⅰ：always be present

I have always tried to be present for you regardless of how old you were, where we were, or where I was. I wanted you to know that I am always there for you spiritually, emotionally and digitally. You never need feel** isolated** or alone. You know I am on 24/7 for advice, love, or just to share a funny filtered photo, bitmoji or laugh (even though I know I laugh inside).
　Being fully present, by listening, feeling, empathizing—always holding serious eye contact, and often the touch of a hand—builds trust. Trust builds confidence and confidence enables you to look forward, dream more and focus on others vs. yourself. Being present is the greatest gift you can give another person, and the greatest way to more closely connect with them. When you are present, you are living in the moment vs in your mind. You are seeing, hearing, and feeling another person, and together you are even more empowered to do great things. This is a gift that often comes more naturally to women.

• navigate ['nævɪgeɪt]驾驶：~your incredible life journey.
• isolated ['aɪsəleɪtɪd]隔离的
• filter过滤v.镜n.['fɪltə]
• empathize同理心['empəθaɪz]

_be present就是于专注于当下的意思，比如你虽然在聊天，但脑子在走神，这就不是be present。我觉得很对，作者说和人交往时，一定要be present,看着她的眼睛，全身心的投入去听和感受对方，这样你就会得到信任与亲近。
　　∴行动：永远处在当下，尤其与人交谈。自己和别人聊天就会犯这样的错误，心不在焉，这样怎么能使别人信服于你呢！
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SUGGESTION Ⅱ：read the signs

I have also tried to share with you as many of life's precious lessons and secrets as I can so that when I am not here, you have a solid foundation of learnings and values regardless of what potholes in life you may hit along the way. Stay open; always try to read the signs as you pass by them or they pass by you. I've often reminded you that there are no coincidences. Everything that happens in your life is for a reason or was predestined. Every book you receive, every new person you meet, everything you call lucky is a sign just waiting to be read. It is** tough** when you are young and so** inward-focused, but once in a while you will look back, make the connection and then be more open to and curious about those signs in the future. You see, signs aren't blatant or obvious. You have to be open and present to instinctively feel them. You are blessed as sensitive** women to more naturally understand this.

• solid foundation ['sɒlɪd]固体的，坚固的基础
• potholes ['pɒthəʊl]坑
• along the way一路上
• coincidence[kəʊ'ɪnsɪd(ə)ns]巧合
• tough[tʌf]艰苦的
• inward['ɪnwəd]内向的
• curious['kjʊərɪəs] obvious['ɒbvɪəs]
• blatant['bleɪt(ə)nt]喧嚣的
• instinctively[in'stiŋktivli]本能的
• sensitive['sensɪtɪv]敏感的

　　直译就是阅读标志，她有一点命运的感觉在，认为生活没有偶然，你读的每一本书，遇见的每一个人，所经历的一切，都是注定的。所以你要足够open,curious,sensitive去寻找命运给你的提示sign。
　　很有意思，不管从佛教还是科学角度命中注定很有道理的：佛教是更偏向前世的业障的因素，科学解释我认为就是你的生存环境会决定你的认知，你的认知会决定你的选择，选择决定你的行为，于是你所做的一切都是差不多可以预估的。所以和诺你认为是偶然的事情其实必然会发生，比如....好倒霉为什么试卷上这些题我都不会.....因为这都是注定的啊，有因必有果。
　　∴行动：永远保持开放，好奇的心态去经历各种，保持敏感/敏锐的感知去发现事物的联系！这很重要！and,不抱怨。

SUGGESTION Ⅲ：stay in your lane

You are fully aware of how blessed you are, the incredible gifts you were born with that your brother doesn't have and the gifts he has that you don't possess. You know how happy you feel when you are doing what you love and that comes so easily and naturally to you. So please, please, please connect to your passion, and then just stay in your lane. Great athletes, musicians, scientists, etc., all have anexpertise that they focus on and perfect.
　Don't let anyone persuade you to do anything that doesn't feel natural or isn't aligned with your values or God-given gifts. You know what excites you more than anyone else. The sooner you recognize your passions, and the more you focus, the happier you will be and the greater success you will achieve. Still, don’t worry if you don’t know exactly what your lane is yet. The path will illuminate itself so long as you stay present, open to the signs, and follow your passions. It’s all related.

• be aware of意识到[ə'weə]
• possess拥有[pə'zes]
• stay in your lane车道[leɪn]
• excite刺激[ɪk'saɪt; ek-]
• etc.[ɪt'setərə, et-]
• expertise专长[,ekspɜː'tiːz]
• persuade说服[pə'sweɪd]
• illuminate照亮[ɪ'l(j)uːmɪneɪt]

　　这个可以一句话搞定：坚持做自己。喜欢自己的天分，喜好，并且坚持下去。永远走在自己的路上。让别人....。不过最后作者也说，即使没找到自己的路也不要担心，只要你专注当下，（open the sign）开放观点？,跟随内心，就一定会炸到属于自己的路。
　　∴行动：别焦虑（虽然现在很焦虑），干好手头事，静下心，就可以看到自己的本心。

SUGGESTION Ⅳ：never back up more than you have to

Lastly, my loves, never back up more than you need to, and this means in life, not just when driving. Just as you are blind to what's behind you while backing up a car, if you keep looking back in life and focusing too much on the past, you may find yourself running things over and over in your mind, often seeing or creating things that never existed in the first place. Even worse, living in reverse blinds you to what lies ahead: Your lifelong dreams waiting to be achieved, your destiny waiting to be fulfilled.

　　这个也是一句话嘛，别老想过去。我最近很有体会。晚睡，是因为白天碌碌无为而羞愧不舍睡去，于是我就劝自己：事情已经发生了，你要再这样，明天也没了！于是我就去睡了。哈哈，很好用哦

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以上就是今天英语的学习成果，这段时间没有认真学习，每天想的都是玩，一点也沉不下心。并且到现在为止还没有开始写作。或许这可以作为一个契机，每天英语和写作合在一起，也算一个监督。
　　　祝愿每一个想成为better me 的人都可以成为better me！
共勉～
我要立flag了，必须！今天是周日，从下周一开始，我要先坚持七天，一周！！！！！！这周一定会做到七天，没问题。