最近参加了新生大学的刻意训练营,有一个任务就是写一篇此我自我介绍如下:
大家好,我叫宋宏坚自河北保定,1979年生人,父母都是普通的工人,现已退休。但我家也曾算是农民家庭,因为我家属于成中村,在97年前家里有几分地,平常种些时令蔬菜卖了来补贴家用,我自己在97年前也经常在学习的空闲时间帮家里干一些农活,一直到97年修路征地才没有了土地。现在我早已成家,家里有一个可爱的女儿,上小学三年级。
自己没有受过高等教育,这是自己很自卑的地方,曾经学习成绩很好过,但是到了14岁左右,那个不再无知无畏的年龄,开始考虑很多问题,可是很多问题自己又想不明白,也得不到外界的帮助。也就是从那时候开始学习成绩逐渐下降,考高中时与重点高中差了几分,最后交了3000多元,才勉强随了心愿。但是后来的高中三年是自己最昏暗的三年,自己调整不好自己的心态,学习成绩也是一降再降,高考的结果理所当然的就是落榜。由于当时心理压力过大,自己不敢再复读了,怕自己心里承受不了。高中三年的生活压力有多大呢?这么说吧,即使现在已经过去20年了,那段压抑的生活还时常出现在我的梦里。
高中以后没有再复读,本来自己想去学点技术,但是父母还是希望我去一个国营企业上班因为比较稳定。当时家里的条件也不太好,所以也就遵循了父母的意见,简单的以为只要通过自己努力在任何行业都会找到自己的位置。工作之后,压力基本上就是等于零了,心理有了一个缓冲期,但是工作一段时间后才发现做为国企一线工人通过勤奋努力的工作并不能换取自己的发展和别人的认可。思来想去,我判断如果这样下去自己肯定不会有什么出路,晚走不如早走,所以最后决定离开那家国企。父母是不同意我辞职的,所以我就选择了一个择中的办法办了停薪留职,曲线进入正真正的社会去闯荡。现在看来这个决定是非常正确的,后面的过程虽然有些曲折,也有可能有幸运的成份,但是现在的现状要比在工厂里上班好太多,也让我看到了更精彩的世界。
初入社会前,也找了一些书籍来看,受徐小平的《骑驴找马》的影响,自己找的第一份工作是保险销售,也许是因为性格比较内向的原因,坚持做了两年毫无进展,最后只能对自己说:接受事实吧,保险目前来说真的不适合你。无奈跳槽,很偶然的机会加入了房产中介这个行业,也是销售但是难度要比保险小太多,所以做的还不错,后来随着自己经验的积累也开始做一些房产的投资,就这样做了十年。这十年也是房地产比较火爆的十年,一直到去年为止保定的房地产市场才冷清下来。现在自己也有了一些积蓄,但是总感觉自己被生活托着走,于是去年底我就选择主动失业了,想在未来的一两年里,让身体歇一歇,等一等落在后面的灵魂。
生理成熟和心智成熟是两码事,总感觉自己的心智还像个孩子,如果按笑来老师的说法心智成熟才能获得解放,那么我现在还生活在解放前。所以自己想在未来的一两年补一补课,让自己的精神世界充实起来。成长是终身的事,也是一个缓慢的过程,每一次成长都需要通过刻意练习才能获得,这也是我加入这个训练营最主要的原因。成长不是孤灯枯坐,共同成长才能获的更快地成长,在接下来的一个月很高兴与大家为伴,共同成长。
英文版:
Hello everyone, my name is A Jian. I come from Baoding, Hebei and I was born in 1979. My parents are ordinary workers and now they have retired. However, my family used to be a farmers’ family since we lived in a village in the city. Before 1997, we used to have a few quarters of mu of land, and plant some seasonal vegetables for sale to support the family. Before 1997, I used to work in the farmland in my spare time, and it is until 1997 when the city built a road through our house that we stopped to have land. Now I am already married. I have a cute daughter who is in the third grade at primary school.
I haven’t received any higher education and this is what makes me feel inferior to others. I used to have a good academic performance, but when I was around 14, which was an age where you are no longer innocent and intrepid, I started to think about a lot of questions. However, it was impossible for me to figure out all of them, and I did not receive any help from the outside world. It was at that point that my grades began to fall, and when I took the high school entrance exam, I did not make it to the key senior high school. Later we turned in over 3000 yuan to make me enter the key senior high. But the subsequent three years in high school were the darkest years of mine. I was not able to adjust my mentality, and my grades fell and fell, which made me flunk the college entrance exam. Due to the fact that I was too pressured, I did not dare to be in school again in fear that I might not be able to take it. How pressured was the life in high school for me? To put it in this way: although over 20 years have passed, I still dream about the depressing life in high school.
I did not go back to school again after high school, and originally I wanted to learn some technology, but my parents hoped that I could work in a state-owned enterprise since it was more stable. At the time we did not have good conditions at the house, so I listened to my parents’ advice and I simply thought that if I worked hard, I could find my position in any industry. After I worked, the pressure faded away and there was a buffer period for my mentality. But after I worked for some time, I found out that being a worker for a state-owned enterprise cannot get me development and other people’s recognition even though I worked hard. After I thought about this, I thought and decided that it was best that I could leave the enterprise earlier, so I finally decided the leave that enterprise. My parents did not allow me to resign, so I chose a compromising method to retain the job but suspend the salary, and entered the real society to make for a living. In retrospect, this decision was right, since although I had some twists and turns in the experiences that followed, which were mixed with luck, my condition now was far better than when I worked in the factory, and I am able to see the more brilliant world.
Before I entered the society, I found some books to read, and under the influence of Xu Xiaoping’s Look for a Horse While Riding on a Donkey, the first job I found was selling insurance. Maybe it was because I was introvert, after I continued for two years, I did not see any development in my job, and at last I could only say to myself: accept the reality, insurance selling does not suit you at the time being. And I had no choice but to find another job, and by chance I entered the industry of real estate agency. I still needed to sell, but this was way easier than selling insurance. I did good in the industry and later as my experience accumulated, I started to do some investments in real estate, which continued for ten years. This decade was the decade in which the real estate was very hot, and it was until last year that the real estate market in Baoding began to cool down. Now I have some savings, but I always feel that I am dragged by my life, so at the end of last year, I chose to be unemployed and decided to have a rest in the future two years, so that my soul could catch up upon my body.
Maturity in physiology and maturity in mentality are two different things. And I always feel that I am still like a child in my mentality. If it is as what the teacher says that you could only be liberated when you have a mature mentality, I am still not liberated yet. So in the next one or two years, I want to make up for the missed lessons so that my spiritual world could be fuller. Growth lasts a lifetime and is also a slow process. Each growth can be achieved with only deliberate training and that is the main reason I join this training camp. Growth is not achieved through oneself, and one can only grow faster if there are companies on the road. In the next month, I am happy to be a part of you and grow together.