57.George Saunders’s Advice to Graduates: Err On the Side of Kindness

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关于表达出对人的善意。在我朋友圈转过知乎的回答关于陌生人的好意，我称为人性之善。当时就觉得很暖，并且一直在做，去表达自己的善意对陌生人。但是的确，也出现了像作者这样，failures of kindness.由于不好意思，由于犹豫，错失了表达善意的机会。我最近做错的，高兴的，难过的，成功的...什么事情会一下子想不出来，唯独你错失过什么善意（就是你本可以表达自己的善举，但是你没有做）我脑子一下子就有画面了。很高兴这篇文章给我提了醒。来到台湾，每个人都是热情，真诚待人，看不出一点的防备。你真的能感觉到和大陆不一样。我当时就在想，这就是我想要的世界，所以不管以后到了哪里我一定是这样待人！一定一定。
Try to be kinder，more open, and more loving.

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Word：

Down through the ages,古往今来，
old fart 老头子（fart屁）
dreadful 可怕的、极其的[dred]恐惧
[,enə'dʒetɪk]energetic 精力充沛的
graduation毕业(典礼)[grædʒʊ'eɪʃ(ə)n]
graduate[ˈɡradʒʊeɪt]毕业生n研究生/v.毕业
commencement [kə'mensm(ə)nt]毕业典礼，开始~speech
go to the restroom去厕所
poop pee拉屎尿尿[puːp]
Sumatra 苏门答腊岛[su'mɑ:trə]
afterward后来
humiliation [,hjuːmɪlɪ'eɪʃn]耻辱、羞辱
hockey曲棍球['hɒkɪ]
In the interest of为了...( 的利益)
convocation[,kɒnvə'keɪʃ(ə)n]召集，会议
tease[tiːz]取笑
hang around闲逛，无所事事[hæŋ]
corny老掉牙的['kɔːnɪ]
swing-sets 秋千
intellectually 理智的[ˌɪntɪˈlektʃʊəli]
delusion妄想[dɪ'l(j)uːʒ(ə)n]
etc：et cetera=and so on[it'setrə]
kick butts 踢屁股[bʌt]
fondest最深请的、最热切的[fɒnd]adj.喜欢的宠爱的
From here on in, forever从现在开始，知道永远

SENTENCE:

Looking back, what do you regret?
Being poor from time to time.常常穷。
I don’t know what to do with it.我不知道如何处理它。
Because kindness, it turns out, is hard。插入语,原来

摘录原文:

Now, one useful thing you can do with an old person, in addition to borrowing money from them, or asking them to do one of their old-time “dances,” so you can watch, while laughing, is ask: “Looking back, what do you regret?” And they’ll tell you. Sometimes, as you know, they’ll tell you even if you haven’t asked. Sometimes, even when you’ve specifically requested they not tell you, they’ll tell you.
　－Now, the million-dollar question: What’s our problem? Why aren’t we kinder?
　－So, the second million-dollar question: How might we DO this?

我喜欢这么幽默。多方便！多看这些老外演讲直接偷他们的句子，yes!

What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness.Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded . . . sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly.

我这辈子最后悔的就是错失善意。当需要帮助的人们在我面前，我却表现的理智的，隔阂的，适度的。(很多人都是这样吧！本想去帮助某人，但由于害羞等原因，虽然内心很想去做，但表面上还是淡定的面瘫，之后又后悔。)

Who, in your life, do you remember most fondly, with the most undeniable feelings of warmth?
这是一个你要想的问题：在你的记忆中，谁给你留下最温柔的温暖记忆？

那么如何做到呢，There are ways:

Try to be kinder，more open, and more loving.
You already know that because, in your life, there have been High Kindness periods and Low Kindness periods, and you know what inclined you toward the former and away from the latter. Education is good; immersing ourselves in a work of art: good; prayer is good; meditation’s good; a frank talk with a dear friend; establishing ourselves in some kind of spiritual tradition .
努力去更善良，更开放，更有爱。
通过是自己沉溺艺术的海洋，祷告，冥想，与朋友坦诚的聊天，建立自己的精神世界，这些都有助你更kind,open,love.

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这篇文章是美国作家GS在大学毕业典礼的演讲，只有一个主题，就是最令他这辈子后悔的的事情：7年级的时候failures of kindness。告诉了我们错失善意的WHAT,WHY,HOW。