Start with yourself
Your relationship can only as healthy as you are.
Win yourself first.
If you will first take the time to focus on yourself, you will soon be ready to focus on others.
You can’t be happy without being healthy.
You can’t be happy simply by depression, stress, or anxiety. No –you can’t be happy unless you are healthy.
Emotional health is the center of winning with people.
You can’t give what you don’t have.
Yes ,you cannot enjoy others until you enjoy yourself.
No one can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.
The good news is your desire and attempts to win with others help to make you a weinner.
How to be a winner.
When you embrace your own personal value, then you have become a winner.
Recognize your value.(50 块钱 案例)
Many times in our lives we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make or the circumstance that come our way. We may feel as though we are worthless, insignificant in our own eyes and in the eyes of others.
But no matter what has happened or what will happen, we never lose our value as human beings. Nothing can take that away. Never forget that.
(1)Accept your value.
The term “acceptance” comes from the Latin ad capere that means “to take to oneself”. Inherent in the process of accepting others is the act of self-acceptance.
(2)Increase your value.(被拴住的大象，一辈子认为自己没有挣脱的力量)
Yes ,perhaps you already recognize and accept your value. The next step is to increase your value.
Each of us can improve ourselves whenever we decide to .
Don’t mindlessly accept restraints on your abilities.
(3)Believe in your value.
If you don’t believe that you have something of great value to offer another person, you’ll never truly win with people.
As long as you recognize this valuable asset, accept it ,increase it , and believe it with deep conviction, the ways of winning with people in this book can become a part of your character.
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To apply John’s teaching to your own life
Forget about:
Whatever makes you feel insecure.
Ask:
How can I increase my value in order to benefit others, rather than just myself?
Do it:
List the things you can improve about yourself (bad habits to break ,ect),along with specific steps to ake to make the improvements.
Remember:
Your relationships can only be as helthy as you are,.