2021-06-08 Speak only if you do care

The grandma told me that speaking requires two people to hold the same rope. Then all that you do is to let your words flow through the rope.

First, you need the rope. This is caring.

Each time I care about my audience, I am building a connection, what the grandma calls a rope.

The grandma holds that rope strongly in her hand, all the time. This motivates the other person to hold the other end. It helps both care about the conversation.

Just imagine that you receive a notification on your smartphone while you are holding that rope with both hands.

We usually get distracted and we release the rope to catch another call. That’s how we lose the connection. By holding the rope, we can better focus on our audience, we give them our time, our empathy, and our consideration.

Immediately people know how they matter to us.

The grandma is stoked about starting each conversation with an intention setting towards the person she is talking to. She looks at the person.

This tells you, I see you. I am here for you.

She stops any other activity. Her body posture tells you, I am here for you.

She orients her heart and mind towards her audience because she cherishes the time spent together.