The view of marriage
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A phenomenon called “naked marriage “or “naked wedding” .it means a couple get marrige without house ,without car ,without diamond ring ,without wedding banquet ,without honeymoon to show their commitment to love .but spend less 20rmb only to get certaificate and fulfil the legal relationships. As you know.i am one of it . If you ask me,am I regret this reckless way? No.im not.it quiet certainly true. But its not looks smart,especially I done it in secret way without parents and family bressing. It take risks.even no promise no guarantee no any objects I can see and get from marriage. If marriage is a gamble, I am a gambler. Fortunately ,Im lucky to meet the right person which he brings me homely feel and reassurance.in a way ,I am thankful and grateful .getting love or even a little love back .
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We often heard some dating stories about some youth on the right age how be practical.if you have your own’s apartment and no loan.how is your overcome and your qulifications or how many bank deposit do you have ? yes.the economic condition is initial reaction be considerated and critical to enable continue talking or no. We wanna to get something or manything through marriage.a transformation from bad to good,from good to better,from better to much better.it combinate of benefit and complicate love. We don’t want to waste time on the man who cant meet our expections,be consumed with love but material wealth unriched afford.we don’t want to taste the poverty,to wait his great potential come true . you more rational and wisdom to make choice :cry on the BMW rather than smile on the bicycle. We choose others and others choose us too,like market promotion.
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One day,one of my married friends said to another one who is 28 old girl.you are very hard to meet true love.its not matter of age,but mostly about you cant supply anything be attractive.look,she is nothing special with regular salary from ordinary family .and the girl seemed to acquiesce in this idea,maybe she used to heard it from different people around her. We feel inferior when we getting close to 30 but being in the chosen position.its big pressure like if we can get into dreamed college.and finally , at our parent’s urging,in the care of relatives, we’re married . our task seemed has been accomplished. Maybe he is not your ideal man or soul mate ,maybe your happiness is not essential to him. Does marriage makes life worth living ? sometimes you complained was born the wrong generation , you know he cant meet any of your needs and you set bar extremely low.
your compromise can’t exchange anything,but into another unsatisfied stage.
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Most girls have a princess dream,like fairytale they have overwhelming wedding and then lived with happiness. we have high expectations for marriage.we pay time to seek a spare tire,to compare which one better,but ignore to improve ourselves,to seek trueself,listen to our own heart bit and we’re in the dark most time.we fall down for our innocence and ignorance.
It’s unfair and dangerous to put our spare life to another person . why he should accept it this generously ?because love? Love can do so only.
The social conventions and the reality of it brings us nagging thoughts.a little bit loss on it we are.sometimes we envy who married for love,to insist on her way.than we Clear ,it’s most our problem.
We possessive and jealous,we weaked and anxious,we over self-concious and ask more.all these make for a successful life as you show.but all insecurity,frety,embarrass,gone away then?
Love thrives from deep connections.it take times to grow,it on the foundation of trust,patience,understanding and hard work.but the visible objects so charming and blocked our eyes .marriage means somewhere in heaven , a place filled with gentle and quiet,even have storms, also will pass it like the sun shine on me finally ,then I can keep heart peace.do what I can do and waiting last forever.
So dear,I hope you can see your beauty and special ,you are strong enough to run through difficlites and sorrow.marriage is a basic subject in life would come to complete us.its amazing.in a flash you will change from a simple girl to a mature lady.