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I was requested to answer the question as the titile shows this morning.My first reaction to this issue was confusion,because I'd never thought about this before.So then ,I paused for a moment,and soon began to seriously reflect on this question.I remembered my emotional experience from the past to the present and I even started watching friends and relatives that are in a romantic relationship without marriage or already in a marriage. Unfortunately,I didn't find a standard answer to this question.Actually,I still lost in the question,although I had spent the whole morning thinking over it .
However.when I decidedto give up continuing to struggle with the problem.The answer suddenly hit my head after a nap.I feel excited,so I record my thought toward the question right now.
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The two different types of love relationship are the independent choice of the two parties.In addition,they represent two different stages oflove .
That means the couple who chooses the former type apparently not ready for a marriage.This saying has two interpretations.One is that they do not understand the nature of marriage,so they are not ready.The other is that they so completely understand the nature of marriage that they dare not rush into marriage ,for that they are afraid of being unable to change their roles smoothly.
Therefore,even in the state of a romantic relationship there hides two kinds of behavior：rational and irrational.Hence,if you are in this stage of love,you can judge foryourself what type of romantic love you are in——rational or irrational，and this is very critical.
Then,let’s talk about marriage，the second stage of love.Marriage is an extremely important node in everyone'slife and it's also a highly romantic moment for the lovers,especially for thegirls .When someone choose this type of love,he or she,to thesuperlative degree, thinks of each other as his or her destiny.They areready for it ,and even for the future. What’s more,they are too clear abouttheir role in the marriage.
The above we had talked about is for the most of the situation.You know,there are also exceptions to marriage.Indeed,there exist such circumstances:some people decide to enter into the marriage for some external causes;for example,in order to have a carefree life and to pursue a multi-gold marriage,some people marry someone they doesn't love or obviously will not be loved .That marriage is just a form with no love .
And there is also another type of marriage.There are many older single youth nowadays as you often hear of.And there are both external and own reasons why they have been single all the time,such as economic pressures or more and more realistic criteria for mate selection. But ,the reality is that they are allowed to be a single for a while,not forever,for the traditional ideas do not allow.So,around us,a lot of people get married not because they want to,but because they have to do since they are so old that they must finish that assignment soon.Then what's the result of that hasty or the speed matching marriage？As it's reported ，many end up in divorce and leave the child be the biggest victim of marriage.That's pathetic!
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So,the above is ananalysis of the causes of the formation of the two state of love .We still seem to have doubts about their true meaning.Then let's discuss about it together.Judging from my superficial opinion,marriage is more meaningful than aromantic relationship without it .
A romantic relationship without marriage is just about love and love is the only support for it.It is all about taking rather than giving，about exclusion rather than toleration，about knowing rather than understanding，and even about enjoying the present rather than planning for the future .That is my concept of a romantic relationship without marriage.And,to some extent,this kind of love is not firm.
Then let's turn to real marriage.Apart from the different types of marriage in the real world I've talked about before ,I think marriage is not just about love,and the most important aspect of it is about responsibilities——the responsibility for each other ,for the next generation,for the two families behind the husband and wife .So,a person who determines to get married with someone,he or she is not only ready to accept the love giving by the lover ,but also should be ready to take the responsibilities attached to marriage.
From this point of view,marriage is not only a union,but also a fusion .It is only when you involved in this marriage that you are totally integrated into a new family，and then you are willing to accept the responsibilities.More importantly，there are mutual tolerance，mutual respect and mutual understanding between the two lovers .And，last but not least,common progress of the lovers in the marriage can be achieved.
These are the parts of my contemplation of this topic ,and we will continue this topic later.If you have different views on it，please leave the message and share with us.
(to be continued…)