Make your mind work—the proper way to communicate with others, even to live

Maybe you are curious about the reason I titled with this topic. Actually, it is just because I used to remain dull all the time. To be honest, I was accustomed to think and react lazily in life, especially when talking with others, which cause the consequence that I would not think of some things which I should have done then. Generally, I would realize it after a while, but it definitely turned to be too late. Sometimes even the wrong words will be splashed from my mouth, making other people annoyed.

So the dull thinking is a great problem for me.

In the book《把时间当作朋友》，the author wrote that listeners are more tired than the speakers in the conversation in some ways. From the author’s point of view, only the listeners think much more than the speaker said, could he/she responds well to the speaker. So next time if we want to conduct an enjoyable conversation, first we need to listen carefully, thinking much more, and then nodding or say something to expand your topic. In addition, if we want to learn something from the speaker’s words we also need to think actively, rather than remain lazy of our minds.

In this case, thinking really matters in our lives.

I used to remain non-active in mathematics class when I was in high school. In that case, I was imposed to the situation that I was just stupidly followed by our teacher, got confused easily. Listen negatively, react dully. But some of my classmate,on the contrary, behaved actively in class. They tended to think formerly and much more than the teacher taught us. And the result was Their mind worked quickly and understood all the contents easily. So making your mind fully work is really an extremely good habit of your mind.

In the end, let’s make our minds work quickly every single time if necessary. Do not act like a lazy man.