https://medium.com/@johnkim_50885/to-my-future-girlfriend-69f0f8be482d
To my future girlfriend,
Let’s get something clear right now.
YOU.
You will not take away my boys (guy friends), my fitness, my motorcycle, my alone time, everything that brought me joy before I met you. You will not try to change mysilliness,inappropriatenessor whatever makes me me that I like about myself but may bringresistancein you. You will not expect me to be a certain way because you’ve read my blogs. You will not hold my words against me.You will accept me for who I am, with all mydefect/dɪ'fɛkt/and short comings.You will understand that I am in process and on my ownjourneyas you are on yours.And although we are together, we will both have our own personal paths as well. You will be responsible for your own happiness.I will not be your “guy with potential” or project. I will be someone you choose to love and do life with. Each day. You will not keep me in the dark or in a box.You will tell me how you feel, even if it’sdrift/drɪft/. And you will not pick which friends you will and will not introduce me to. If I’m in your life, I’m in your life. You will not present me better or different because of your own insecurities. You will leave room for me to be me as you continue to be you. You will be my best friend but not my only friend. You willshatter/'ʃætɚ/your image of what a couple should look like, how they should act, and what kind of friends they should have, as I will do the same.You don’t have to agree or like what I’mpassionate aboutbut you must support me in it because it matters to me.You will have to deal with my bedhead, my night mouth guard, and horrible/'hɔrəbl/sleeping patterns. And finally, you will scratch my back.
defect/dɪ’fɛkt/
n. 缺点，缺陷；不足之处
vi. 变节；叛变
drift/drɪft/
n. 漂流，漂移；趋势；漂流物
vi. 漂流，漂移；漂泊
vt. 使…漂流；使…受风吹积
shatter/'ʃætɚ/
vt. 粉碎；打碎；破坏；破掉；使散开
vi. 粉碎；损坏；落叶
n. 碎片；乱七八糟的状态
passionate[‘pæʃənit]about
adj. 热情的；热烈的，激昂的；易怒的
horrible/'hɔrəbl/
adj. 可怕的；极讨厌的
ME.
In exchange, I will take all my learnings in my previous relationships and use them to be the best version of myself that I can.I will always be honest, neverassassinate/ə'sæsn'et/your character/'kærəktɚ/, and take full responsibility/rɪ,spɑnsə'bɪləti/for anything I do that’s wrong or hurtful.I will listen, communicate, open doors — literally and create a safe space, knowing that trust is earned. Not given. I will love you as you are, support you where ever you’re at in your journey and hold your hand through all your seasons. I will stand by your side, not in front or behind you.I will water my ownlawn/lɔn/and work on my own shit. I will be responsible for my own happiness and keep the toilet seat down so you don’t fall in in the middle of the night because I know the only worse feeling than sitting on that coldrim/rɪm/isstubbing/stʌb/your toe.I will write you little notes, make you stuff and buy you flowers for no reason. We will share books, ideas, and sweat - both in thegymand the bedroom. I will not try to control you or compete with you.I will not try to “fix” you. I will do life with you, not at you. I will read yoursubtext/'sʌb'tɛkst/, energy, and body language, not just your words.I will do my best to get the hint.I will consider your story. I will make you breakfast. Not everyday. But many. I will always read your heart andintentions/ɪn'tɛnʃən/beforereactingto your words.I will return texts and messagespromptly/'prɑmptli/or as fast as I can.I will protect your name and character and be thinking of you in every decision/dɪ'sɪʒn/I make.
assassinate/ə'sæsn'et/
vt. 暗杀；行刺
responsibility/rɪ,spɑnsə'bɪləti/
n. 责任，职责；义务
lawn/lɔn/
n. 草地；草坪
rim/rɪm/
n. 边，边缘；轮辋；圆圈
vi. 作…的边，装边于
vt. 作…的边，装边于
n. (Rim)人名；(俄)里姆
stubbing/stʌb/your toe绊了一跤
n. 存根；烟蒂；树桩；断株
vt. 踩熄；连根拔除
n. (Stub)人名；(挪、瑞典)斯图布
subtext/'sʌb'tɛkst/
n. 潜台词；潜在的意思；潜在的性格
promptly/'prɑmptli/
adv. 迅速地；立即地；敏捷地
US.
We will both understand that there will be dayswe can’t stand each other. There will be days you will want topunch me in the face andI will want to take the long way home. We will disagree on things, like movies and books, and diets. I will forget things.Misplacethings. You will run late. Our friends will have opinions of us. You will have questions. We will fight. Maybe a lot. You will shut down. I will wonder.But at the end of the day, we will both come back, to each other.And your head will always fall back on my chest.And no matter how many times we fight, we will always fight fair.That will be anon-negotiable/nɪ'ɡoʃɪəbl/.And we will be together knowing that we are choosing to be together. Not because of logic, age, orloneliness. Not because we look good on paper or we’ll make cute babies. Not because we’ve already committed to this. Not because we don’t want to be alone.But because we believe in us and make a choice every, single, day, to be in this and love each other the best way we know how.Our relationship will not be built on fear, as many are. But like many relationships, ours will also be hard. We are both aware of this.We’ve been through a shit ton. And we are both different people today.So we won’t let whatwasaffect whatis.We will not compare us to anyone else, including ourexes/'eksɪz/. Anyresidue/'rɛzɪdu/we have from our past relationships we will work onindividually,indi'vidjuəli. It is our own responsibility and what being in something healthy looks like. We will sharpen each other and I will make you feel beautiful and you will make me feelinvincible/ɪn'vɪnsəbl/andvice/vaɪs/versa. The only thing we can promise is to be honest and love as hard as we can. We both know there is risk. We both know we can get hurt. But we are willing to put that on the line to experience the high notes of something meaningful.
negotiable/nɪ'ɡoʃɪəbl/
adj. 可通过谈判解决的；可协商的
exes/'eksɪz/
n. 费用
residue/'rɛzɪdu/
n. 残渣；剩余；滤渣
invincible/ɪn'vɪnsəbl/
adj. 无敌的；不能征服的
vice/vaɪs/
n. 恶习；缺点；[机] 老虎钳；卖淫
prep. 代替
vt. 钳住
adj. 副的；代替的
n. (Vice)人名；(塞)维采
versa
adj. 反的
We will search for magic and settle/'sɛtl/for nothing less.
settle/‘sɛtl/
vi. 解决；定居；沉淀；下陷
vt. 解决；安排；使…定居
n. 有背长椅
n. (Settle)人名；(英)塞特尔
Love,
Johnkim
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Let’s get something clear right now.
You will accept me for who I am, with all my defect and short comings.
And although we are together, we will both have our own personal paths as well. You will be responsible for your own happiness.
You will tell me how you feel, even if it’s drift.
You don’t have to agree or like what I’m passionate about but you must support me in it because it matters to me.
I will always be honest, never assassinate your character, and take full responsibility for anything I do that’s wrong or hurtful.
I will write you little notes, make you stuff and buy you flowers for no reason.
I will not try to “fix” you. I will do life with you, not at you. I will read your subtext, energy, and body language, not just your words
I will consider your story. I will make you breakfast. Not everyday. But many. I will always read your heart and intentions before reacting to your words.
I will protect your name and character and be thinking of you in every decision I make.
we can’t stand each other
But at the end of the day, we will both come back, to each other. And your head will always fall back on my chest. And no matter how many times we fight, we will always fight fair.
And we will be together knowing that we are choosing to be together.
But because we believe in us and make a choice every, single, day, to be in this and love each other the best way we know how.
So we won’t let what was affect what is. We will not compare us to anyone else, including our exes/'eksɪz/.