Good afternoon,ladies and gentlemen.To be honest,I'm an old driver in chasing girls.And I find something interesting,girlfriends are always like a kid when we are together.It's also our Chinese figure-zuo. So,my title is the balance between man and woman.
woman like kid while man like parents.
Let's look at this talk:
I feel uncomfortable.
Drink more water.
For our Chinese value,it's a terrible talk,right?The woman maybe say that in the head:Drink your sister!
And so,what's the best answer when your girlfriend say she is uncomfortable?
One hour later.
...
Open the door.
It's a hot question on the internet,that's the answer,a standard answer.Even though you can't see her at once,as a man,you should buy somethings and send it to your girlfriend.
However．．．．
Do you find something interesting?The woman is uncomfortable,and it's a truth,but it turn out a man's duty. What's logic of back?It has been an assumption,that's we all agree that the woman can't take care of herself,all duties are the man's,if you can't deal with this effectively,you're in trouble.Let's see the logic again.
I feel uncomfortable,I'm ill.
(I can't take care of myself, so now it becomes your duty, I throw the problem to you,look at how you can solve)
Drink more water.
(How to answer?? I don't know what to do! You take good care of yourself!I'm not a doctor!)
fuck!I'm very very angry!
(What! You didn't do anything! You do not provide material assistance, did not provide psychological comfort, you this man have what use!)
So,it's a kid and an adult rather than an adult and an adult.It's an unhealthy relationship,the fact that the woman is ill become a tool to trouble man.
If both of us are adults,what's the normal logic?
I feel uncomfortable,I'm ill.
(say the fact)
Did you take medicine,do you need any help?
(Ask if she need help.Compared with rush to help directly,it's different totally.As an adult,only when we make sure that others need help,can we offer some help.Rush to help without ask,that's eat full and nothing to do)
I have taken medicine,I will be ok.
(I'm an adult,I can look after myself,don't worry.Don't make trouble like a kid is a quality of adult.)
Have a good rest.I will see you on the weekend.
There is no crazy rush to each other, a hug said baby you suffer! But very rational end of the dialogue, the two sides to space, to do their own thing to do. The reason for this, because a headache cold is not a more serious problem, through the rest, it will be able to solve their own. And adults, should solve this problem.
Show love by hurting ourselves.
a college students,buy 999 roses,kneel over the snow.Countless people is watching.The girl feel touched,and refused him.
WTF!What's this logic?Hurt himself, money,god,999,the money, I can live the hotel a whole month.body,knell over the snow.dignity,like a monkey who is seen by countless people.As a driver,I can tell you,don't buy expensive things.
And this story is a romantic love story.Oh,gosh,It's really unhealthy.
we are equal when we are going to have a relationship.We are together,because we have similar value,we have many topics,we can double the happiness,not because you hurt yourself maybe for the expensive things maybe for the crazy actions,so I feel moved,and I love you,not because you like my parents,you take care of me well.