Chapter 4 the value of suffering

A. 问题导读

1. Use three sentences to describe Onoda’s story.

Onoda's life is a kind of foolish loyalty. For being controlled by his value he couldn't changed his perspective on life. So he ends up with feeling tortured after returning to Japan.

2. What can we learn from the Rock Star Problems?

Value should  be identified and can be choosed.

3. Can you name some values that you hold dear?

Honesty, innovation, self-respect and so on.

4. Do you have any good/bad values stated in the book? How those values affect your life?

Dominance usually drives me into some consume traps and sometimes I look down upon others who I dislike.

B. 阅读小感

Honest self-questioning is difficult. It requires asking yourself simple questions that are uncomfortable to answer.

Honest self-questioning is absolutely uncomfortable, indeed. About 5 years ago, I had a chance to be in the corner office. But it was lost to other guy's hand. I couldn't understand why the boss made such a foolish decision because I thought  the guy was not better than me of course. Then my dominance orients me to a mass direction where I put some negative reasons on this thing,such as he    must use some tricks to get the position. Slowly I did not focus on work any more till some day I came to realize the truth what I pursue is not the position but the work itself. Quickly facing myself honestly the results is that my pleasure is  from my work not the position and in some fields I am far poorer than the one. So just let it go. Now however complicated the situation is I take everything coolly. Because I know exactly what I want.

... some values and metrics are better than others.

Choosing the right value is uncomfortable as well,but it's the body which happiness lies.

C.字词学习

Research shows that once one is able to provide for basic physical needs (food, shelter, and so on), the correlation between happiness and worldly success quickly approaches zero.

词性:名词，动词

释义:接近，处理，临近

造句: As you approach true happiness you will feel uncomfortable to face the real self.

if you’re choosing the right values and metrics, should be invigorating you and motivating you.

词性:动词，形容词，名词

释义:精力充沛，生气勃勃的

造句: I am the person obsessed with getting up till 11:00AM. But yesterday I gave it a shot for an early morning. It invigorates me a whole day.

As Freud once said, “One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.”

词性:动词，名词

释义:回顾，回想

造句:In retrospect, it was my persistence that paid off in my college study. That period will companion me for the whole life.