不要让任何人打乱你的节奏

此文节选自我非常喜欢的一篇演讲：Don't let anyone rush you with their  timelines .不要让任何人打乱你的节奏。

国外某校的开学典礼上，校长在演讲时说了人生的安排和毕业后的成长路径，当说到三十岁，你的人生轨迹就会定型时，突然有一个学生站出来说，不好意思校长，我想告诉你为什么你的这些话都是错的？

I know  people who graduated at twenty 21and didn't get a job until they were 27.  I know people who graduated late at 25 and they found work immediately. I know people who never went to university but found what they love at 18.I know people who found a job straight out of college making decent money ,but hate what they do。

有的人21岁毕业到27岁才找到工作。有的人25岁才毕业，就马上找到了工作。有的人虽然没上过大学，需要在18岁就找到了热爱的事。有的人一毕业就找到了工作，赚很多钱却过得不开心。

I know people who took gap years and found their purpose.I know people who were so sure about what they were going to do at 16,they change their mind at 26I know people who have children but are single and I know people who are married but  had to wait 8 to 10 years to have children.  I know people in relationships who love someone else. I know people who love each other but aren't together.

有有的人选择空档期，去寻找自我。有的人在16岁清楚知道自己要什么，但在26岁时改变了想法。有的人有了孩子却还是独身。有的人结婚了，却等了8~10年才生孩子。.有的人身处一段感情爱的却是别人。有的人明明彼此相爱却没有在一起。

so my point is everything in life happens according to our time, our clock.you may look at some of your friends and think that they are ahead of you,maybe some of them you feel are behind, but everything happens at their own pace。They have their own time and clock and so do you.Be patient. Not being married and 30 but still happy is beautiful.Starting a family after 35 is still possible and buying a house after 40 is still great.

我想说的是人生中的每一件事都取决于我们自己的时间。你身边有些朋友也许遥遥领先于你,有些朋友也许落后于你，但凡事都有它自己的节奏。他们有他们的节奏，你有你自己的。30岁没结婚，但过得快乐也是一种成功。35岁之后成家也完全可以,40岁买房也没什么丢脸的。耐心一点。

这个过程他举例了好多名人故事，旅途坎坷，好在大器晚成。

Don't let anyone rush you with their  timelines .Because as Einstein said,"Not everything that counts can be connected and not everything that's counted truely counts."And this is the most important thing,I want you to be able to create meaningful , purposeful fullfilling lives for  yourselves and learn how to use that to make an impact and a difference in the lives of others. That will be true success.

不要让任何人打乱你的时间表。因为爱因斯坦曾说，并不是每一件算得出来的事都有意义，也不是每一件有意义的事都能够被算出来。这才是最重要的事,我希望你们可以创造属于自己的充满意义的人生,学会用这些去影响点亮他人的生活。这才是真正的成功。

到此话音刚落，全场掌声响起……谁说不是呢？上个世纪最后十年出生的我们，过的都是是听老师话，被家长安排的生活，可是转眼我们也快到了这位校长说的人生轨迹就要定型的年龄了，父母也开始惶恐了，毕业前有点想法时，爸爸说等你自己能挣钱了再为我；现在想些东西，爸直接说等你找到了托付终身的人再考虑我。是他对我太失望了呢还是暗示这件事比任何人任何事都重要？的确，我的时间表里有很多事，但我只能先做紧急且重要的，而父母眼里的终生大事虽然重要但急不来，至于既不重要又不紧急的事我只能做出取舍，只有把手掌伸开才能抓住一些属于自己的，握的太紧反而什么也捉不到。

People who took gap years and found their purpose。此阶段正是我现在所经历的，处于空档期，寻找自我，没有工作，不用打卡，但是每天却有自己的事做，所以，不着急，不盲目，因为常常是最后一把钥匙打开了大门……