hello, everyone, this is pei , today's topic is how to become confident.
Now, I want to expound a phenomenon on Weibo or wechat that many people said they are an unconfidence person and they think that they do not know how to give and take love. when they are denied by others through one thing, they will give up the whole thing and make themselves anxious.
the reason why they are unconfidence is that They were not given a good family environment to grow up in, for example, Their parents will never praise them no matter what they achieve, their parents will criticize when they make some mistakes. their parents can not provide them with enough money to buy cosmetics or expensive bags and clothes.
some people think that they are an ugly person because of their weight and height, there are many people do not want to get along with others or work because of their appearance. I will talk about confidence from the following three aspects.
first, why should we have confidence.there are three aspects:
the first, confidence can help us face our test leisurely, if we are unconfident, we will struggle between yes or no.
the second, confidence will help us make life better, we will trust that we can change our lives through our effort. even if we meet something terrible, we will not de defeated by the difficulties through a positive mindset.
third, confidence will make us get along well with others, the confident person can love others and take others' love bravely, they will not feasible about some little things. there are many unconfident people afraid to give and take love.
second, what is confidence.there are three aspects:
the first, confidence is that someone trusts they can finish doing something by themselves. second, confidence is some trust they deserve to have some good opportunity, the last is that confidence can make some believe that they deserve the love of the world.
the last, I want to share how to build confidence? there are also three aspects:
the first, learn to master a skill, only you do something magnificently can you have the privilege to say your opinion, for example, you have prepared it well when you
are going to join in a test, you can be confident yo face some situation terribly.
the second, learn to love others bravely, only you learn to love others by heart can you get the feeling that love someone from the bottom of your heart, and you will learn to aspect other's love and believe that there are many wonderful things worth exploring. you will not think that you do not have the right to be loved because of Low self-esteem or not giving enough.
third, learn to respect yourself, there are many people not satisfied with their appearance, therefore, there are so many people who choose to do face-lifting to make themselves beautiful. probably face-lifting can make someone beautiful, but what we should do is that we respect our appearance and skill from the bottom of your heart.
probably someone's appearance is not beautiful, but when she is a girl who likes to read or travel, it will change her temperament. if you change yourself continually and experience more interesting things, it will not occur in the rest of life when you are unconfidence now., you will become a girl Heart heavy full figure.
only when someone gets admire from others can he become a confidence man, therefore, when you see someone unconfidence, please do not laugh at them and encourage them, probably your behavior will change others' life.
关于自信
阐述一个关于自信的现象
在和我的朋友们聊天的时候或者再微博上看动态的时候，经常会看到很多人说自己不够自信，不相信自己能够爱别人，更不相信自己能够被别人爱。在某一件事情上被被人否定了就觉得自己一定做不成这件事情，从而陷入无限的焦虑之中。
而看到这些人说到自己不自信的原因，很大一部分人说到是因为自己的原生家庭没有给自己带来太多的正能量，比如说，无论他们取得了什么成果他们的父母永远夸赞他，甚至在失败的时候不断的批评。比如说，因为觉得自己的原生家庭给不了自己很多金钱去买自己想买的东西，买不起奢侈品，化妆品等，满足不了自己的虚荣心，所以无法在同学面前炫耀等。
还有的人是因为自己的长相，比如说自己长得太胖，长得太矮，世界上有很多人因为自己长得胖而受到身边人的羞辱，导致不敢出门工作等，每天赖在家里坐吃等死。还有的人因为自己太矮了，在寻找对象的过程中，因为身高问题频频被拒绝而受挫，从而变得非常的不自信。
1、为什么我们需要自信
1、1 自信能够帮助我们更从容地面对生活中的各种考试，会让我们否定自己，从而在一次次的我会和我不会之间挣扎
1、2 自信能够让我们更加地相信生活能够变得更好，能够通过我们自身的努力变得更好。即使在人生中遇到了一些非常糟糕的事情，我们依旧会相信一切都可以在自己的努力之下变得越来越好。不会被困难打败。
1、3自信能够让我们和身边的人相处的更愉快，真正自信的人会勇敢的去爱别人，能够自然地接受别人的爱，不会对身边的一些小事情表现的很敏感。有很多人就是因为不够自信，所以不敢去接受被人的爱，觉得自己接受了别人的爱就是对他人的愧疚。
2、什么是自信。
2、1 自信就是相信自己能够办成某些事情
2、2 自信就是相信自己值得拥有某些机会
2、3自信就是相信自己值得拥有这个世界上的爱
3、怎样做到自信
3、1 学会增强自己的技能，当你足够强大的时候，你自然会表现得非常自信，就比如你去参加考试，如果你准备的很充分，那么你自然就相信你能够考的很好。如果你的技能很扎实，你就能够随机应对发生的情况。
3、2 学会勇敢去爱。当你学会了勇敢的去爱别人，那么就能够感受到爱一个人是什么样的感觉，你就会逐渐感受到，这个世界上还有你值得爱的人，还有那么多美好的事情等着你去做，同时在你给越来越多的爱的时候，你也能够学会去获得别人的爱。你不会因为内心的自卑或者觉得自己付出的不够多而不敢接受别人的爱。
3、3学会接受自己。有很多人都对自己的长相等不是很满意，所以现在为了追求某一种美的状态，越来越多的人去整容。或许整容确实是一种能够增强自己的信心的行为，但是真正应该做的是发自内心的去接受自己，从内心里认可自己的外貌或者能力。
比如说有的人他的五官不是那么好看，但因为喜欢通过看书或者旅行来丰富自己的阅历，从而变现的非常端庄自信。所以应该学会接纳自己，同时不断地丰盈自己。
如果现在没有自信，不代表一直没有自信这些都是可以得到改变的，只要你不断地去做，去经历，总能够变成一个内心丰富的人，勇敢的面对生活中的困难以及勇敢的接受和给予爱的人。
一个人要从不自信到自信的状态，一定是他在左某一件事情的时候获得了极大的赞誉，这些赞誉让他有勇气去做之后的事情。在我们的生活中，如果看到别人很胆怯或者没有信心的时候，一定不要嘲笑对方，给予充分地鼓励和支持，或许你的行为能够改变一个人的生活。