RESISTANCE AND SUPPORT
Have you ever been to a workshop? These boondoggles are colleges of Resistance. They ought to give out Ph.D.’s in Resistance. What better way of avoiding work than going to a workshop? But what I hate even worse is the word support.
Seeking support from friends and family is like having your people gathered around at your deathbed. It’s nice, but when the ship sails, all they can do is stand on the dock waving goodbye.
Any support we get from persons of flesh and blood is like Monopoly money; it’s not legal tender in that sphere where we have to do our work. In fact, the more energy we spend stoking up on support from colleagues and loved ones, the weaker we become and the less capable of handling our business.
My friend Carol had the following dream, at a time when her life felt like it was careening out of control:
She was a passenger on a bus. Bruce Springsteen was driving. Suddenly Springsteen pulled over, handed Carol the keys, and bolted. In the dream Carol was panicking. How could she drive this huge rolling Greyhound? By now all the passengers were staring. Clearly no one else was gonna step forward and take charge. Carol took the wheel. To her amazement, she found she could handle it.
Later, analyzing the dream, she figured Bruce Springsteen was “The Boss.” The boss of her psyche. The bus was the vehicle of her life. The Boss was telling Carol it was time to take the wheel. More than that, the dream, by actually setting her down in the driver’s seat and letting her feel that she could control the vehicle on the road, was providing her with a simulator run, to prime her with the confidence that she could actually take command in her life.
A dream like that is real support. It’s a check you can cash when you sit down, alone, to do your work.
P.S. When your deeper Self delivers a dream like that, don’t talk about it. Don’t dilute its power. The dream is for you. It’s between you and your Muse. Shut up and use it.
The only exception is, you may share it with another comrade-in-arms, if sharing it will help or encourage that comrade in his or her own endeavors.
抵抗与支持
你去过工作坊吗?那里是抵抗的大学。那的人应该被授予抵抗的博士学位。还有什么比去车间更能避免工作呢?但我更讨厌是“支持”这个词。
寻求朋友和家人的支持就像你的家人在你弥留之际聚集在你身边。很好，但是当船启航时，他们所能做的就是站在码头上挥手告别。
我们从有血有肉的人那里得到的任何支持就像垄断货币;在我们必须工作的领域，它不是法定货币。事实上，我们在同事和爱人的支持上花费的精力越多，我们就会变得越虚弱，处理业务的能力也就越弱。
我的朋友卡萝尔做了这样一个梦，当时她觉得自己的生活正在失控:
她是公共汽车上的乘客。布鲁斯·斯普林斯汀在开车。突然，斯普林斯汀把车停在路边，把钥匙递给卡萝尔，然后跑开了。卡罗尔在梦中惊慌失措。她怎么能开着这只巨大的滚动的灰狗呢?这时所有的乘客都在盯着看。很明显没有其他人会站出来接管。卡罗尔开车。令她惊讶的是，她发现自己能应付得了。
后来，她分析了这个梦，认为布鲁斯·斯普林斯汀就是“老板”。她的灵魂的主人。公共汽车是她生活的交通工具。老板告诉卡萝该开车了。更重要的是，这个梦，通过让她坐在驾驶座上让她觉得她可以控制路上的车辆，给她提供了一个模拟器运行，让她有信心，她可以在她的生活中指挥。
这样的梦想是真正的支持。这是一张你独自坐下来工作时可以兑现的支票。
附注：当你的内心深处有这样一个梦想时，不要谈论它。不要冲淡它的力量。梦想是为了你。这是你和你的缪斯之间的事。闭嘴，好好利用它。
唯一的例外是，你可以和另一个战友分享它，如果分享它将帮助或鼓励这个战友尽自己的努力。