Vol.36 借口Excuse

“太忙了”是我的真实写照，因为真实，有时它也成为了一种借口，大家对我的冒失大多欣然接受。有时，当我累得像狗样瘫在床上时，看着白生生的墙顶，我觉得我怎么那么折腾，跟这个城市、跟想要的东西，有着遥远的距离。我是否还该如此努力？
　　
“我已经努力了”是不是也是懈怠的一种借口，索性放弃吧的措辞。
　　
“很累了”“下次吧”“我得……”“我考虑下”借口并不一定就是负面的，在语言技巧和人际关系中，它有着另一层深意。比如，不想跟你一起耍，不想赤裸地伤害你，对你的事不感兴趣，我们还没那么熟，此事暂缓……某种程度，也算是一种善意。

凡事无绝对，不得不说，很多事还真难坦诚以待，比如说感情。“因为我爱他”“你可以找到比我更好的”“她只是普通朋友”爱情中，更是爆发者很多的谎言、借口和真实。
　　
我们是在骗别人，也是在自欺欺人。比如说，“我这么说是为Ta好”“反正事情已经这样了”“我没有选择”。借口渐渐地也成为了一种人性。
　　
人臣畏罪而不言，辄以是借口。
　　
借口，就是从隔壁借来了一张不熟悉的嘴，说着说着就惯了。到最后，都不知道是借口，还是已成心声。

甘蓝 2013-09-02

　　

“Too busy”, is kind of my status. I am so busy that I can use it as my prefect excuse. Mostly, people take it as great understanding. Sometimes, while I was lying on my bed, as tired as a exhausted dog, I was looking at the my super white ceiling and wondering: why I have to be like this, too busy to even have a relax dinner with anyone or by myself. There is always huge gap between me and the things I desired for. Why I should work so hard?

“I tried my best already..” It can be a excuse too. Giving up is not easy, but it ‘s much easier than working harder.

“I am tired.” “ Next time. “ “I have to …” “ let’ me think about it…”

Excuse is not always negative. In the social life, it exists as a communication skill. It has another deep meaning. For example, I don’t want hang out with you. I don’t want hurt you directly. I am not interested in what you are doing. We are not that close.….Your shits can wait… In these ways, somehow, it could be a kindness.

Nothing is absolute. Sometimes, it’s really hard to stand the truth. Such as the relationship. “because I love him”, “you can find better one”, “she is just one of my friends”. In love, even more lies, excuses and truth.

We lie to people and lie to ourselves too. “All I do is for you”, “ Things were already done” “I have no choice” excuses gradually become one part of our nature.

Excuses in Chinese characters meaning “borrow mouths from others”, you are talking with the words you didn’t know well at beginning, then, you get used to it, one day, You even don’t know it’s still an excuse or it becomes what you really think so.

Lenore 09/02/2013