7 Habits of Highly Effective People H6 2/2

2017.7.25
Habit6 Synergize
Principles of creative cooperation

Words
1.pool

So they pool those desire.

to combine your money, ideas, skills etc with those of other people so that you can all use them:
例：Investors agreed to pool their resources to develop the property.
造句：A brainstorm is that members of the group  pool all their ideas.

2.apex/ˈeɪpeks/

Middle in this sense does not mean compromise; it means higher, like the apex of the triangle.

technical the top or highest part of something pointed or curved:the apex of a pyramid
最顶端的一般都是最好的最重要的,所以还有另外两个意思“

【 formal】 the most important position in an organization or society:
    例：The king was at the apex of society.
【 formal】 the most successful part of something
  SYN  peak: 例：He was at the apex of his career.
最顶端的一般都是最好的最重要的
造句：The manager is at the apex of the team.

3.credence/ˈkriːdəns/

And unless we value the differences in our perceptions, unless we value each other and give credence to the possibility that we're both right.

【formal 】the acceptance of something as true
give credence to something (=to believe or accept something as true)
例：I don’t give any credence to these rumors.

造句： I give credence to Chris' ability to sing Hiphop.

4.wrangle

Problems that have been legally and psychologically wrangled about for months have been settled in a matter of a few hours or days.

to argue with someone angrily for a long time
wrangle over/about
例：They are still wrangling over ownership of the house.
造句：The problem of disorderly parking of the shared bikes is wrangling.

5.exacerbation /ɪɡˌzæsəˈbeɪʃən $ -sər-/

And all that did was to exacerbate the problem because the interpersonal communication deteriorated as it went through the legal process.

to make a bad situation worse:
例： The recession has exacerbated this problem.

造句： I don’t want to exacerbate the situation

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Thoughts

今天文章中两个夫妻吵架的例子都非常典型，第一个例子，丈夫筹划已久一家人的户外旅行，但妻子因为母亲身体不太好想回去照顾。
双方都有自己的理由，可是大家却都不肯让步，都觉得自己的计划才是对的。这跟我和另一半吵架一样，他跟我说这种吵架没有对错，而我每次都说我是对的。所以只会越吵越凶。

然而，如果用到前面说过的win/win、用心倾听，站在对方角度去理解，其实会讨论出一些双赢的选择。比如可以去妻子的母亲家，在母亲家附近的地方进行一次郊游，虽然可能没有之前准备的那么好，但都满足了对方的需求。还是要多站在他人的角度上思考。

另外就是value differences。有不同才是创意的源泉。但我们通常总是怕有不同的意见，觉得那是被否定。相反，听到不同意见，应该开心，然后去想想他是怎么想到这个点的。因为世界就是五彩缤纷的。