2017年7月24日
Habit 6 Synergize协同增效
今天进入到第六个习惯的学习。Synergize（协同增效）是什么意思呢？
Synergy:整体 the whole>部分的综合 the sum of its parts.
Synergy:value the differences
to respect the differences,
to build on strengths,
to compensate for weakness.
协同增效认为整体大于部分之和，尊重彼此的差异、加強彼此的优点、弥补彼此的缺点，不要把不同的意見当成坏事。不同的意見代表了不同的观点，试着从更开放的角度，抛弃成见，去理解不同的观点，共同寻求最佳解决方案。結果通常会出乎意料的令人满意。
其实在自然界中我们都可以看到协同增效的也影子，比如如果把两棵植物种的很近，它们的根就会缠绕在一起，反而会提高土壤的质量，两棵植物都能比被分开时更加茁壮地成长。一加一大于或者等于三。
那么从自然界转到我们人类社会中呢，实际上家庭生活是协同增效的很典型的例子。一个男人和一个女人把一个孩子带到世界上来这本身就是协作增效的产物。协同增效的精髓就是尊重差异，取长补短。
The very way that a man and a woman bring a child into the worle is synergistic .The essence of synergy is to value differences ---to respect them, to built on strengths, to compensate for weaknesses.
男女和夫妻间的生理差异显而易见，那么社会、智力和情感方面的差异呢?不是也可以创造出新的生活形态和环境吗?
Synergistic Communication
所谓协同增效的共同就是敞开心扉，接受一切新的可能性、新的可行方案甚至古怪的想法，同时自己也要贡献自己的看法。参与的双方都会获得更深刻的洞见，这个彼此学习，彼此激励的过程将会形成良性循环，从而获得更进一步的洞见，学习和成长。
作者在这里分别以自己的课堂教学和商业领域的亲身经历为例，来说明协同增效怎样使教学状况处于濒临混乱边缘的一堂课变为大家互信合作的一堂课，怎样使充满敌意的商业会议转变成大家坦诚交流，彼此合作的新面貌。
作者在这里列举了一个令人深刻的例子。‚二战‛之后，美国命David Lilienthal接管原子能委员会。他召集了一群很有影响力的社会精英为之工作。
这些背景各异的人都是各个领域的领军人物，都有无比坚定的信念，面对繁重的工作日程，都迫不及待地要开始工作。但是David Lilienthal却用了几个星期的时间来建立情感账户。他让这些人先花时间彼此了解，比如其他人的兴趣、希望、目标、顾虑、背景、信念以及想法等。为此，他承受了很多批评，被指责为浪费时间。这群人果然相处得十分融洽，彼此非常坦率，相互尊重，即便意见不一，也首先是真心实意去努力理解对方。
协同增效的态度就是，If a person of your intelligence and competence and commitment disagrees with me, then there must be someting to your disagreement that I do't underatand,and I need to underatand it.You have a perspective ,a frame of reference I need to look at.
如果你不同意我所說的，那表示我并不了解你不同意的部分，而我需要去了解这个部分，我需要了解你所持的观点。
下面这张图说明了信任度与沟通层次之间的联系。
低层次的沟通源自低度信任，其特点是人与人之间互相提防，其结果只能是赢/输或输/赢模式，毫无效率可言。中间一层是彼此尊重的交流方式，
为了避免冲突，双方都保持礼貌，却不一定为对方设想，不可能完全开诚布公，探讨其余的选择途，并不具创造性。其相互依赖结果往往停留在妥协或No Deal的一种底层次双赢的模式。这意味着 l+1=3/2，双方都有得有失。而协同增效，这种高层次的沟通意味着 1+1 等于 8 或 16，甚至 1600。源自高度信任的协同增效能带来比原来更好的解决方案。
单词部分
1.trailblazer n.先驱(者);创始人 A trailblazer is a person who is the leader in a particular field, especially who does a particular thing before anyone else does.
This removes much of the doubt and discomfort experienced by a trailblazer.
pathfinder n.探路者；开路人 A pathfinder is someone whose job is to find routes across areas.
The company is a pathfinder in computer technology.
2.miraculous adj.1.神奇的;奇迹般的;不可思议的 If you describe a good event as miraculous, you mean that it is very surprising and unexpected.
.a miraculous escape.
2.超自然的；神奇的 If someone describes a wonderful event as miraculous, they believe that the event was caused by God.
miraculous powers.
3.brainstorm n.1.一时糊涂；头脑发热 If you have a brainstorm, you suddenly become unable to think clearly.
● I can have a brainstorm and be very extravagant.
2.突然想到的好主意；灵感 If you have a brainstorm, you suddenly have a clever idea.
'Look,' she said, getting a brainstorm, 'Why don't you invite them here?'
3 v.集思广益；集体献计 If a group of people brainstorm, they have a meeting in which they all put forward as many ideas and suggestions as they can think of.
We can brainstorm a list of the most influential individuals in the company.
4.hit-or-miss adj.无计划的，无目的的，遇事现打主意的;
He always seem hit-or-miss.
5.trial and error the process of solving a problem by trying various methods until you find a method that is successful 反复试验；不断摸索;摸着石头过河
Children learn to use computer programs by trial and error .
She feels that raising her children has been a matter of trial and error.
6.on the edge of your seat very excited and giving your full attention to sth 异常兴奋；极为激动；有浓厚兴趣
The game had the crowd on the edge of their seats.
on the edge of 濒于，几乎，在边缘;
AS a teacher,I have come to believe that many great classesteeter on the very dege of chaos.