When I was little my parents always told me,you're a girl you must do something that what's the other girls doing.I was confused about that because I didn't know what the definition usually are girls doing,so I asked my mother about this,she told me,just watched the other girls.
I've never learned how to live my life like the others ,I'm always trying to creative one.I'm the only child to my parents.And my family have no sons for my generation.I'm so glad that my grandparents like girls more than boys.But most of family definitely don't like this way.I've heard from my friend in some classes ,teachers always choose boys to be in charge,the reason they gave to her was:boys have strongly power to control,to manage.Even she was good as them too.And her teacher is a woman,they have 29 girls and 20 boys students in class.She was courious why that situation happened in this circumstance that the girls have more qualities but they don't stand up speak to themselves.So she decided stand up and said that's not fair,I can be the controller to be mange,I have the same powers as boys,And the teacher answersed her:you request that when you study harder.Then she was speechless she can't refute the point sounds like excuses.She can't argue with her teacher whatever they right or wrong.
I've heard some of parents they hiding in countryside for having another baby who is a boy.When they came back my girl classmate must sacrificed their study time for look after him.Then the family' whole point was that boy,how to let him have fun,better toys better meterial things better and expensive educations.My classmate told me she had never had the same as her little brother when she was a only 4,5 years old.
Even when they grow up the family always considered boys first,they saved the money for him can by a house in the future.They told their daughter don't have to go to aboard for collage even they have that ability.Even they smart and always be the No.1 in school.They had to give up dreams and get a job earlier help parents raiced their brother.I cannot say that was wrong,I just felt sad about it.
Now we're in 2010's,but how many people really think men and women should treated equally in society,we only talk about China.
China is a traditional country men usually be the boss in family,their reason is:I make more money,I'm busy,you do the housework look after kid and in-laws so I can focus on my career blah blah blah...Don't you notice women have careers too!Women also want promotion in their jobs,and women also have ambition be the ruler for their own life so we don't have to count on man.Is changing now,as a female,we staudy hard,strive on our career is not just for get married ealier have a baby be a housewomen.Human all have purpose to live,we not in some of Africa countries and Middle East countries and Muslings,we have more opportunities.We have more power fight for our own,speak for ourselves no more teachers to stop you.We're not in North Korea we have open minded.The interesting thing is I talked about it to my colleagues and friends they agreed with me but they don't support me.They told me,you're have nothing to do with it because you're powerless,you're not celebrity you can't influence other people.See?that's the reason why it's hard in China,if we group together make voice for it,I have hope for these,like some of feminists in other countries.
First,believe yourself,respect yourself.So many successful women in China learning frome them!Second,we're don't hate man,hatred is not ok with it.We just increes and advocating freemdom and equality.Third,we have long way for feminism be brave call yourself is a feminist,like me,I'm the one.And say no to sexism,and family abuse and unfair in your jobs.
I talked to an author from American last week,she gave lots of strongly opinions about how to understand and be a feminist,I read a book she wrote gives ideas,so I decided I must say something in this circumstance I wish you all enjoyed.
I know it's far from for feminism,today i just pass my thoughts for you guys,maybe we can go deeper in the future.Because I have lots to say not like this simple.
Thank you.