一、问答
1.What does Bukowski’s success try to prove?
From his success, we can see he didn’t have a fuck with success and fame, but he succeeded.
2. What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack?
The conventional life advice teaches us to be richer, prettier and successful, then we will think we are poor, ugly and loser
3. Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?
The Feedback Loop from Hell means if you give too much fuck on some unimportant things such as fame and position, it will give you negative influence.
二、感想
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, 中文常译成《不在乎的精妙艺术》， 纽约时报畅销书目。作者Mark Manson指出这本书就是帮助我们找出生活中哪些是需要在乎的事情，哪些是不需要在乎的事情，要把有限时间和精力放在值得关注的重要的事情上。
We feel bad about feeling bad. We feel guilty for feeling guilty. We get angry about getting angry. We get anxious about feeling anxious. What is wrong with me?
我们在生活中，总会为一些事情感到紧张、焦虑、难过、愧疚，总觉得自己活的很累。久而久之，我们心理和健康都受到严重的影响。 究其原因，我们过于在乎名声、面子等身外之物，并总是深陷其中，拔不出来。
现今，社会媒体总会给我们强加一种观念，拥有豪宅、豪车、就意味着成功和幸福，所以我们总是在追求这些遥不可及的东西。孰不知，你追求的越多，就越不容易满足，越没有幸福感。比如说，你一味追求富有，无论你已拥有多少财富，都会觉得自己贫穷；你一味追求漂亮，无论你长相如何，都会对自己的长相不满意。 在非洲，我时常看到很多当地人收入比我们少，但每天喝茶聊天，活得十分开心，他们的幸福指数要比我们要很多。
The failures in business are what lead to a better understanding of what’s necessary to be successful.
我们有时害怕失败，其实失败并不可怕，人生的每次失败都是为下一次成功做好准备。想起我第一求职面试的时候，简直一败涂地，答非所问，不明状况；而下一次面试就有经验了，知道怎么准备，如何应对，更加自信从容，没有忐忑不安，结果就成功了。不要害怕失败，所有消极的经历会给我们带来积极的影响，曾经的苦难会让我们变得更加强大。
Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.
人生苦短，如果我们把有限的时间和精力都浪费在那些不需要在乎的事情上，我们的人生会很糟糕。
那么怎样才能做到不在乎那些不需要在乎的事情呢？我们要明白以下几点：
Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
不在乎并不意味对待凡事都采取冷漠的态度，如有人议论你的头发，你干脆再不梳洗，这是一种逃避，是在自己的世界里自怜自艾。我们需要在乎那些真正值得在乎的事情。
Subtlety #2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
很多人为一点琐事或困难而烦恼纠结，因为他们想不到更重要或更有意义的事情，所以怎样能找到更有意义的事情至关重要。
Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.
我们从一出生起，就不断关注身边发生的各种事情，随着年龄增长，有些事情有些人对我们来说已经不重要，我们逐渐成熟，开始关注那些重要而有价值的事情。
This book will help you think a little bit more clearly about what you’re choosing to find important in life and what you’re choosing to find unimportant.
总而言之，这本书就是帮助我们找出生活中哪些是重要的需要在乎的事情，哪些是不重要的不需要关注的事情，重新定位，轻装前行，消除恐惧，痛并快乐着。
三、字词
cheapskate /ˈtʃiːpˌskeɪt/
If you say that someone is a cheapskate, you think that they do not like spending money. 吝啬鬼表不满
仿写：
Tell your husband not to be a cheapskate.
deadbeat /ˈdɛdˌbiːt/
If you describe someone as a deadbeat, you are criticizing them because you think they are lazy. 游手好闲者
仿写：
She left her deadbeat husband.
batty /ˈbætɪ/
If you say that someone is batty, you mean that they are somewhat eccentric or slightly crazy. 有点古怪的
仿写：
Laura's going a bit batty.
bombard /bɒmˈbɑːd/
If you bombard them with questions or criticism, you keep asking them a lot of questions or you keep criticizing them. 连珠炮似地提问; 不断批评
仿写：
He bombarded Catherine with questions to which he should have known the answers.
