Habits - Be proactive page74 -85
Many people wait for something to happen or someone to take care of them.
你是这样的人吗？
Words
1. In fact, our most difficult experiences become the crucibles that forge our character and develop the internal powers, the freedom to handle difficult circumstances in the future and to inspire others to do so as well.
crucible坩埚;熔炉；另有一个意思是“严峻的考验;磨炼”；Crucibleis used to refer to a situation in which something is tested or a conflict takes place, often one which produces something new.
这个词的用法适合用上面的句子记住。the curcibles that forge our character 锤炼我们性格的熔炉
We always say the society is a huge crucible that forges our character.
2. She returned from those protracted and difficult sessions almost transfixed by admiration for her friend's courage and her desire to write special messages to be given to her children at different stages in their lives.
transfix: 使呆住;使动弹不得；If you are transfixed by something, it captures all of your interest or attention, so that you are unable to think of anything else or unable to act.
The little girl was transfixed by seeing her parents fighting.
3. I have frequently counseled people who wanted better jobs to show more initiative -- to take interest and aptitude tests, ...
天资;天赋;才能；Someone’s aptitude for a particular kind of work or activity is their ability to learn it quickly and to do it well.
=gift, ability, capability, faculty, intelligence, proficiency, talent
4. Proactivity is part of human nature, and although the proactive muscles may be dormant, they are there.
dormant: 暂停活动的;暂搁不用的;休眠的;蛰伏的；Something that is dormant is not active, growing, or being used at the present time but is capable of becoming active later on.
Her talent in drawing had been dormant before 10 years old
Summary
key terms: stimulus and response, the freedom of choose, proactivity, take the initiative, attitudinal values
Habit 1: Be Proactive
习惯由三部分交集而成：knowledge (what to do and why), skill(how to do), and desire(motivation to do)
今天阅读的部分主要是关于habit 1 的knowledge:
- What to do? Be proactive.
- Why?
1. 我们的习惯可以建立、打破，因为人类有“自我意识”——self-awareness
This(the self-awareness) is why we can evaluate and learn from others' experiences as well as our own. This is also why we can make and break our habits.
But because of the unique human capacity of self-awareness, we can examine our paradigms to determine whether they are reality- or principle-based or if they are a function of conditioning and conditions.
2. 我们有选择的自由——stimulus and response
Between stimulus and response is our greatest power -- the freedom to choose.
这种选择的自由来由人类的四个天赋：self-awareness, imagination, conscience, independent will
3. proactivity 是人类的天性
Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.
Because we are, by nature, proactive, if our lives are a function of conditioning and conditions, it is because we have, by conscious decision or by default, chosen to empower those things to control us.
4. act也是人类的天性之一，是主动而非被动
Our basic nature is to act, and not be acted upon. As well as enabling us to choose our response to particular circumstances, this empowers us to create circumstances。
But we can, at least, affirm their basic nature and create an atmosphere where people can seize opportunities and solve problems in an increasingly self-reliant way.
感悟：
proactive people有哪种种要特质？
1.Proactive people can carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines makes no difference to them. They are value driven; and if their value is to produce good quality work, it isn't a function of whether the weather is conducive to it or not.
2. Proactive people are still influenced by external stimuli, whether physical, social, or psychological. But their response to the stimuli, conscious or unconscious, is a value-based choice or response.