【011】为什么我们需要与陌生人交流|Why you should talk to strangers

Speaker: Kio Stark

Key words:陌生人 交流 社会 标签化

Abstract: 演讲者Kio Stark女士经历和观察告诉了她：如果我们能够推翻对陌生人的成见会带来意想不到的惊喜。

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Introduction: social meaning of greating: tell others hey I know you are here!(noticing~)

Background: why we don't talk to strangers:

• category of strangers vs individual: we are educated to label strangers in the "untrusted category" as a whole instead of using perceptions and make choice

Two cons of talking with strangers:

• liberate human nature in socializing
• quick interaction lead to fleeting intimacy(短暂亲密)[交通要道上一个善意的提醒、博物馆里对某幅画三言两语的交流、清晨与邻舍一声简短的问候,都可以成为一段美好的片刻]

Why people feel more comfortable being honest and open to strangers than to their families and friends：

• a quick interaction have no consequence (you will never see he/she again!)
• we have bias to person close to us (we assume they understand us for granted leading to lack of communication)

How to start talking to strangers:

• principle: balance of civility and privacy depending on cultrue

• ways recommended:

  smile: find someone who have eye contacts with you→smile_{[友好示人}微笑]

  comment: make comments about the third thing and see if it starts a conversation[等待接话]

  noticing: give a compliment on shoes/dogs/baby[你这双鞋/只狗/孩子好漂亮啊]

  disclosure: tell something personal and true about yourself [敞开心扉]

Sumary: talking to strangers can do benifits to us, so go do it.

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Link：TED|Open163

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