Answers to the guiding questions:
️ ①What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove?
His success proved that although he knew he was a loser, he honestly accepted it and lived completely comfortable with himself as a failure.
️ ②What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack?
Conventional life advice --the positive and self-help stuff is actually fixating on what we lack. It remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed.
️ ③Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?
Feedback Loop from Hell is an anxious ,upset,sad ,worried… consciousness or feeling which was caused from being in anxiety,upset,sadness…
Reflections about the first chapter:
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of .You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
幸福的人从来不会大声对外人说自己幸福，你可以从她的言谈举止中感受到她的幸福；生命的意义并不在于追求生命的意义，只有你认认真也的活过，生命才有意义。
Notice how it’s often the person who is the least invested in the success of something that actually ends up achieving it?
人生有时候就是很奇妙，你越是想要得到某物，越努力的去争取，反而结果越是让人失望，这是不是就是我们所说的希望越大，失望就越大呢。有时候什么也没想，就静静的去把该做的事情做了，却有意想不到的收获，正如Eric在他的笔记所说的，“年轻人，你的职责是平整土地，而非焦虑时光。你做三四月的事，在八九月自然有答案。”
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. the denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself is a form of shame.
逃避永远不是解决问题的办法，但是逃避确是我的惯用法，工作中遇到不听课，不学习英语，不背单词的学生了，管几次我就开始逃避了，假装没看到假装他学了，其实下一次上课你看见这几个学生，你就会痛苦的想起这个问题，看见一次，我的内心就会折磨一次，这个问题就摆在那里，活生生的在提醒着我，我有个未解决的问题，直到有一天，他们彻底地连做样子给我看的兴趣都没有的时候，我才惊恐地想地意识到自己不能在假装我不知道这回事儿了。其实在逃避的过程中我也很痛苦，内心也很煎熬，什么事情都不能拖，最终还是要去解决。
As we grow older,with the benefit of experience ,we begin to notice most of these sorts of things have little lasting impact on our lives.
人生就是做减法，经历的越多，在乎的东西越少，经历时间的沉淀，最终才会发现我们最在乎的东西莫过于平安健康的家人，爱人心疼的目光，和煦的春风，灿烂的阳光，平静而丰盈的心……
All in all,don't be a Mr talker, be a Mr doer.Don't regret for not trying.
Words and expressions:
1,At night, he would drink alone and sometimes hammer out poetry on his beat-up old typewriter.
hammer out:v, discuss vehemently ['viəməntli](激烈地，竭尽全力地) in order to reach a solution or an agreement 设计出，苦心想出，
eg:We should hammer out a solution for school violence.
beat-up: adj, old and in bad condition; damaged by blows or hard usage 破旧的，磨损的
eg: The winner of the most-beat-up-bike contest would get a new bike.
2.His popularity defied everyone’s expectation, especially his own.
defy:v, ⑴ try to behave in a particular way, refuse to obey 违背
⑵ challenge sb to do it when you think that they will be unable to do it or too frightened to do it. 向…挑战; 挑衅
⑶ If something defies description or understanding, it is so strange, extreme, or surprising that it is almost impossible to understand or explain. 使不可能 (理解或解释)
Eg: This was the first time that Su Tungpo defied the court.
He has the confidence and passion to defy the convention.
His behavior defied all comprehension.
3.You are bombarded with messages to give a fuck…
be bombarded with: be flooded with; be surrounded by
eg: Every day we are bombarded with ads.
4…and cases of depression have skyrocketed over the pat thirty years.
Skyrocket:v, If prices or amounts skyrocket, they suddenly increase by a very large amount. ,like a rocket 使猛增，使猛涨
Eg;The price of this brand clothes has skyrocketed.
5.Meanwhile,our credit cards are maxed out…
max out:v, reach a maximum,达到最高限度，刷爆
eg: I maxed out my card.
6…after a lifetime of failure and self-loathing.
self-loathing:adj, feel great dislike and disgust for onself.自我讨厌的，自我厌恶的
eg:The feelings of disgust, hatred, self-loathing, sadness, anger and loneliness have become too much.