译注：
本文作者 Conor Neill，西班牙 IESE 商学院领导力专家。作为一名企业家，他创办了5家公司，销售了16架私人飞机，并在西班牙建立了第3大私人飞机机群。本文乃是作者对自己15年的日记总结而成。
原标题：The Complete Guide to Personal Habits: 158 Positive Reflections in 7 Categories to Be The Best Version of Yourself.
文：Conor Neill
译：清单待完成
It is 43 years since I was born, 25 since I finished school and 12 since I graduated with my MBA as seen in this picture below. I have written some notes on life every day since I was 14 years old. This long post is a summary of ideas that came from a review of all those journals.
自我出生已有43年，自从我完成学业已有25年，自我 MBA 毕业已有12年。从14岁那年起，我每天都会写下一些与生活有关的日记。这篇长文即是对这些日记的一个回顾总结。
This is a collection of phrases that keep me focused on what is important. I wrote this list out one Sunday afternoon 5 years ago sat at my home dining table.
以下的一系列短语句子，使我能够把精力集中在生命中重要的事情上。五年前的一个周日下午，我在家中的餐桌旁写下这份清单。
There are seven categories:
有七个类别:
① Dealing with People
① 与人相处
② Take Disciplined Action
② 采取自律行动
③ Accept Reality as it is
③ 接受现实
④ Make Progress towards Results
④ 朝着结果前进
⑤ Stay Healthy
⑤ 保持健康
⑥ Living with Purpose
⑥ 有目的地生活
⑦ Personal Growth
⑦ 个人成长
I make no claim to originality and I leave you a list of thinkers who have inspired me and are far more responsible for any wisdom here than myself.
这些观点并非我的独创，我在文末留下一份启迪我的思想家的名单，他们为我带来了这些智慧。
① Dealing with People
① 与人相处
1 You will not change them. Let it go.
1 你无法改变他人.不如放手。
2 Who will cry at your funeral?
2 谁会在你的葬礼上哭泣？
3 Never miss a moment to encourage someone
3 永远不要错过任何一个鼓励他人的时刻。
4 You will become who you spend most time with.
4 你和谁相处的越多，你就会越类似于他/她。
5 Communication is measured by what is understood, not how well it is articulated.
5 沟通是否通畅的衡量标准在于，所说的内容是否能够被理解, 而不是表达方式的好坏。
6 It takes two to fight.
6 一个巴掌拍不响，打架需要两个人。
7 Confrontation may be necessary.
7 对抗有时是必要的。
8 Other people can handle more than you think. Be careful with white lies.
8 他人隐藏的信息可能比你想象的要多。小心那些善意的谎言。
9 Real listening is hard. It requires 100% attention.
9 真正的倾听很难做到。它需要100%的全神贯注。
10 There is no such thing as a “self-made man”. Be grateful.
10 根本就没有什么「靠自我奋斗而成功的人」。要心存感恩。
11 Ask more questions.
11 要多提问题。
12 The one asking the questions is in control. Are you asking the questions?
12 提出问题的人，对问题持有控制力。你在提问题吗？
13 Remain curious. The 4 “why?” often gets the real reason.
13 保持好奇心。当你第四次问「为什么」时，通常能够找到真正的原因。
14 Learn to attract and use mentors and advisors.
14 学会吸引并利用导师/指导者。
15 Build networks before you need them.
15 在你需要之前就建立人际网络。
16 Get really, really good at concisely presenting your ideas.
16 要非常非常善于简洁地表达你的想法。
17 Learn to sell.
17 学会推销。
18 Aggression begets aggression.
18 攻击导致回击。
19 Surround yourself with people strong enough to change your mind.
19 与比自己强的人相处，他们能够改变你的想法。
20 If you don’t “do politics” others will “do you”.
20 如果你不「搞政治」，别人就会「搞你」。
21 Learn to differentiate sceptics (good for you) from cynics (bad for you).
21 学会区分「怀疑论者」（对你有益）和「愤世嫉俗者」（对你有害）。
22 In the end people won’t remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.
22 到最后，人们不会记得你说过或做过什么，他们只会记得你给他们带来的感觉。
23 Build lifelong friendships.
23 建立终生的友谊。
24 Be kind to your mum.
23 好好对待你的妈妈。
25 Hire well, manage little.
25 雇佣的好，管理的少。
26 Spend time with people who want you to succeed. Some “friends” don’t want you to grow or change.
26 花时间和那些希望你成功的人在一起。有些所谓「朋友」并不希望你成长或改变。
27 Nobody will ever tell you that you made them laugh too much.
27 没有人会告诉你，你让他们笑得太多了。
28 What is your label?
28 你的个人特色是什么？
② Take Disciplined Action
② 采取自律行动
1 Change is painful. Growth requires change. No pain, no gain.
1 改变是痛苦的。成长需要改变。一分耕耘，一分收获。
2 Everyday changes less. Change that.
2 如果日常生活波澜不惊、状若死水，改变这一现状。
3 Incremental change always wins.
3 渐进式改变总能取得最终胜利。
4 Perfect is the enemy of good. Good is the enemy of great.
4 完美是良好的敌人。良好是卓越的敌人。
5 The best indicator of mastery of big things is mastery of small things. Master the small things.
5 做好小事情，才能取得大成就。做好每件小事。
6 Do not wish it were easier. Wish you were better.
6 不要指望事情变得容易；而要希望自己变得更好。
7 Get a coach.
7 找个教练。
8 Learn to ask for advice and help.
8 学会寻求建议和帮助。
9 In the Olympics, nobody wins both marathon and 100m sprints. Focus
9 在奥运会上，没有人能同时赢得马拉松和百米短跑。请保持专注。
10 Routine sets you free.
10 习惯使你得以解放。
11 Get good at motivating yourself.
11 善于鼓励自己。
12 Knowing what to do and not doing it is the same as not knowing what to do.
12 知道该做什么而不去做，等同于不知道该做什么。
13 The most dangerous place is in your safety zone.
13 最危险的地方就是待在你的安全区。
14 “I will try” is never enough. Remove “try”.
14 「我愿意尝试」，永远不够。删掉「尝试」。
15 If you want to be a writer: write; A singer: sing; A teacher: teach.
15 如果你想成为一名作家，去写；想成为一个歌手，去唱；想成为一位老师，去教。
16 Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.
16 善良和勤奋，对于你来说，远比智慧重要。
17 If you never act, you will never know for sure.
17 如果你从来不行动，你永远也无法知道确切情况。
18 Delayed gratification is necessary.
18 延迟满足是必要的。
19 We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
19 我们必会遭受两种痛苦中之一：自律的痛苦或后悔的痛苦。
③ Accept Reality as it is
③ 接受现实
1 If a problem has no solution, it is not a problem. It is a fact.
1 如果一个问题没有解决方案，那这就不是问题。这是事实。
2 Bad things do sometimes happen to good people.
2 好人有时也会遭遇不幸。
3 Perfectionism messes you up.
3 完美主义会把你的生活搞得一团糟。
4 Make allowances for incompetence.
4 体恤弱者。
5 Pain is guaranteed. Suffering is optional.
5 疼痛是必然的；苦难是可选的。
6 Very, very little is truly under your control.
6 你真正能控制的事情，其实微乎其微。
7 The past is gone except in your head. Learn to forget.
7 过去的记忆，要么留在脑海中，要么随时光流逝了。请学会遗忘。
8 Ignore the little things.
8 忽略那些小事。
9 No one cares about it as you do.
9 最关心你的人，是你自己。
10 Stop any negative comments about people not in the room. You are not helping them and are likely positioning yourself in the victim role.
10 不要背地里，说三道四。你不是在帮助他人，而是很可能将自己置于受害者角色中。
11 If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
11 如果我们都把自己的问题堆到一边，只看到别人的问题，那么我们的问题还会回到眼前。
12 If it rains, it rains. There is nothing you can do except put up an umbrella.
12 如果天要下雨，那就会下雨。除了带把伞，你别无选择。
④ Making Progress towards Results
④ 朝着成果前进
1 There is no “they”.
1 没有「他们」。（只有「我们」）
2 Love is discipline. Love is work.
2 爱是自律。爱是努力。
3 Laziness is the life killer.Laziness is the original sin.
3 懒惰是生活的杀手。懒惰即是原罪。
4 When in doubt, just take the next small step.
4 如有疑问，采取下一个小步骤试试。
5 Commitment before success. Always.
5 做出承诺，然后才能取得成功。永远如此。
6 Stop justifying. Break the “yes, but…” habit.
6 停止为己辩护。打破「是的，但是……」的习惯。
7 The most reliable predictor of what you will be doing 5 minutes from now is what you are doing now.
7 你现在正在做的事情可以完美的预测，五分钟后你将要做什么。
8 Break inertia. Every hour ask “Is this giving me long term benefit or short term happiness?” If No, then Stop.
8 打破惯性。每个小时都要问一下「这会给我带来长期的益处还是短期的快乐？ 」如果都不是，那就停止。
9 If you desire a specific effect in your life you must put in motion the cause of that effect.
9 如果你希望自己的生活产生一些具体的影响，那么你就必须把造成这种影响的原因付诸实施。
10 Success is a process, not a product. Work on your process and the product will come.
10 成功是一个过程，而不是结果。致力于过程，结果就会随之而来。
11 Every time you blame someone, you give away your power to change things.
11 每当你责怪某人时，你就放弃了改变事物的能力。
12 Leadership doesn’t happen when things are easy. It is the final 1% that makes you world class.
12 当事情很容易时，领导力并不会产生。最艰难的1%才让你迈入第一流水平。
13 Don’t see the wall.
13 不要看到墙（阻碍）。
14 A problem is only a problem if you choose to view it as a problem. It is an opportunity.
14 如果你把问题视为问题，那么这就只是一个问题。这应当是一个机会。
15 A dream will remain a dream until it is converted into disciplined, daily action
15 除非梦想被转化为日常自律行动，否则就只是空梦一场。
16 If you see yourself as a victim, you will always be one.
16 如果你视自己为受害者，你将永远都是。
17 Stop being a victim. (Stop enjoying other’s pity).
17 停止成为受害者。（不要再享受别人的怜悯。）
18 The circle of pity: The more you feel sorry for yourself, the worse your life will get.
18 怜悯的循环：你越是为自己感到难过，你的生活就会越糟糕。
19 Excuses are a way of not facing up to reality, for pulling out when things get a bit difficult.
19 借口是一种不敢面对现实的方式，当事情稍微有点困难时，就退缩。
20 One small step completed is a million times better than one big plan thought about.
20 已经完成的一小步，要远远好于想象中的一个大计划。
21 Act instead of talking about it.
21 以行动代替空谈。
22 Next time you are about to complain, stop; explain what you are going to do about it.
22 当下一次你要抱怨时，停下来；说明一下你要采取什么行动。
23 The world does not owe you a living.
23 这个世界不欠你的。
24 You have to pass the thorns to get to the roses.
24 你必须越过荆棘才能到采得玫瑰。
25 The grass is not greener on the other side.
25 对面的草坪并不比这边的更绿。
26 Refuse to use your past as an excuse.
26不要拿过去当做借口。
27 Stop saying “yes, but…”
27 不要再说「是的，但是..……」。
28 You don’t need permission. (For what it’s worth, you have mine.)
28 你不需要他人的许可。
29 The problem contains the solution.
29 问题包含其解决方案。
30 It takes 10 years to become an overnight success.
30 台上十分钟，台下十年功。（一夜成名需要十年的时间。）
31 If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
31 如果你不提问，你就会不明白。
32 Justification is much, much easier than the hard reality of accepting responsibility.
32 辩解要远远易于承担责任所带来的残酷现实。
33 Do it now.
33 立即行动。
34 If you rest too long, the weeds take the garden. Activity finishes the miracle.
34 如果你休息得太久，杂草就会占满花园。行动起来，打扫这片幽秘之地。
⑤ Stay Healthy
⑤ 保持健康
1 You can’t be great if you don’t feel great.
1 感觉不舒适，行动也无力。
2 Keep fit.
2 保持健康。
3 Eat well.
3 吃得营养。
4 Brush your teeth.
4 勤快刷牙。
5 Dream. Play like a Child.
5 要有梦想。像小孩那些玩耍。
6 Don’t smoke.
6 不要抽烟。
7 Daily exercise is an insurance policy against future illness. Best leaders are fittest leaders.
7 日常锻炼是预防未来疾病的一种保险政策。最好的领导者也是最健康的。
⑥ Living with Purpose
⑥ 有目的地生活
1 Life is a gift.
1 生命是一份恩赐。
2 Does today’s schedule reflect your deepest values?
2 你今天的日程安排是否反映了你内心最深处的价值观。
3 Good students deliver what the teacher wants. Great students deliver what they know to be right.
3 好学生递交老师想要的作业；优秀的学生递交他们认为正确的作业。
4 The best is yet to come.
4 最好的还在后面。
5 Imagination is the supreme uniqueness of humans. Use it.
5 想象力是人类至高无上的独特之处。好好运用吧。
6 Do not ask: “why me?”; Ask: “What can I learn? What can I do? Who can I help?”
6 不要问：「为什么是我？」；要问：「我能学到什么？我能做到什么？我能帮助谁？」。
7 Carpe diem. Memento mori. (Seize the day. Remember you shall die).
7 （拉丁语）及时行乐，抓住今天。死亡警告。 (把握今天，及时行乐。凡人皆有一死。）
8 Integrity is much more than intention to be honest. It is having a system in place to deliver on your promises.
8 诚信并不仅仅是诚实的意图，它需要建立一个系统来兑现你的承诺。
9 Say “No” more.
9 要经常说「不」。（避免被任务压垮的方法，乃是回绝掉过多的任务。）
10 Chains of gold are no less chains than chains of iron.
10 金链子和铁链子没有什么区别，依旧是链子。
11 Reason is the rudder. Passion is the sails. You need both.
11 理性是舵，激情是帆；二者兼顾，缺一不可。
12 You are not your little voice.
12 行动--而不是「你想要」这种念头--塑造了你。不要等到想要做什么时，才会去行动；立即行动起来。
13 Success always starts with ambitious goals. Life gives what you ask of it.
13 成功总是始于热切的目标。念念不忘，必有回音。（生活总是会给予你所欲求之物。）
14 We are educated for busy-ness, not for listening to our own minds at work.
14 我们被教导为要在工作中保持忙碌，而不是倾听自己的想法。
15 Poverty is about much more than money.
15 贫穷并不仅仅是没钱。
16 Being everything to everyone is really being nobody to no one.
16 对每个人都有求必应， 等同于对于每个人来说你都一文不值。
17 Success can only be measured from within.
17 成功只能从内心来衡量。
18 Smell the roses.
18 细嗅蔷薇。
19 Have fun. Every day.
19 做人呐，就是要开心一点。（每一天，享受乐趣。）
20 Fun makes life worth living.
20 乐趣让生活变得有意义。
21 Everybody dies. Not everybody truly lives.
21 众人皆有一死。有些人行尸走肉的活着。（并不是每个人都真正地活着。）
22 The world is not out to get you.
22 这个世界并不是为了你而存在。
23 Life is not easy. Life is not fair. This is how it is.
23 生活不易，也绝非公平。事实就是如此。
24 There are always good reasons to be angry, disappointed, let down. Ignore them.
24 生气、沮丧、失望总是有缘由的。放下，别理它们。
25 Listen to your angst. It is telling you something important. Don’t turn on the TV to avoid it. It will only get worse.
25 倾听你的焦虑。它告诉你一些重要的事情。不要打开电视以回避，情况只会变得更糟。
26 It is a marathon, not a sprint. It doesn’t matter if you are ahead at the mid-point, it matters that you reach the finish.
26 生活是一场马拉松，而不是短跑。笑到最后，才是笑得最好（你在中途是否领先不重要，重要的是你到达了终点。）
27 The opposite of play is not work, it is depression.
27 玩耍的反面不是工作，而是抑郁。
28 The opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy. It is believing that merely existing is actually living.
28 爱的反面不是仇恨，而是冷漠。冷漠试图让你相信，单纯的存在即是真正的生活。
29 Remember where you are climbing to and don’t just stick to the ladder.
29 记住你的目的地，而不要仅停留在梯子上。
30 The unexamined life is not worth living, but the over-examined life isn’t worth living either.
30 未经审视的生活是不值得度过的，但过度审视的生活也不值得。
31 Don’t compare your life to others; you have no idea what their journey is all about.
31 不要将你的生活同他人的进行比较；你根本不知道他们具体经历了什么。
32 No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
32 除了你自己，没人能掌控你的幸福。
33 The reward for conformity is that everybody likes you except yourself.
33 从众的回报是每个人都喜欢你，但除了你自己。
34 Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
34 你的孩子只有一个童年。让它值得回念。
35 Be true to yourself. Lying feels good. Until you are found out.
35 忠于自己。撒谎的感觉是很好，直到你被发现为止。
36 Take a walk with a turtle. Pause and see the journey.
36 和乌龟一起漫步。停下来，回顾旅程。
37 Know the difference between price and value. A cynic knows the price of everything and the value of nothing.
37 能够区分价格和价值。愤世嫉俗者对所有事物的价格一清二楚，却对价值一无所知。
⑦ Personal Growth
⑦ 个人成长
1 The strongest steel is forged in the hottest furnaces
1 最热的熔炉，锻造最硬的钢。
2 Some answers can only come from inside.
2 有些答案只能来自于内心。
3 Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in the presence of fear.
3 勇气并不是没有恐惧；而是直面恐惧，采取行动。
4 Your unconscious is wise. Its messages are often difficult. You need to listen carefully.
4 你的潜意识蕴含着智慧。接受这些信息往往是困难的。你必须仔细倾听。
5 We are blind. Only other people can help us see clearly.
5 我们是盲目的。在其他人的帮助下，我们才能明察秋毫。
6 Make your emotions work for you, not you for them.
6 让你的情绪为你服务，而不是反过来。
7 When you fall, focus on where you slipped, not where you fell.
7 当你跌倒时，留意跌倒的地方，而不是专注跌倒的感觉。
8 We are most blind when we know the most. Assumptions so deep we cannot see them anymore.
8 知道越多，就越盲目。预设立场的程度如此之深，以至于我们被蒙蔽双眼。
9 Ask: “what did we learn today?” everyday.
9 每天都要问自己：「我今天学到了什么？」
10 Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.
10 关心自己，胜于工作。
11 Best way to learn to do it right is to first do it wrong
11 试错，乃是最佳成功之道。
12 The more you go to your limits, the more your limits will expand.
12 越接近于极限，极限就会越扩展。
13 Mastering a few things is much better than mediocrity in many, and it is the route to mastery of big things.
13 精通一部分事情，远远好于泛泛了解许多事情，且这是精通大事情的必由之路。
14 Read daily.
14 每天阅读。
15 Excellence in one area is the beginning of excellence in every area.
15 一个领域的优秀，开启每个领域的卓越 。
16 Incremental improvement always wins.
16 渐进式改进，总能取得成功。
17 Outlearn your competition.
17 要学得比竞争对手快。
18 Every single person in the world could be a genius at something, if they practiced it daily for at least 10 years or 10,000 hours.
18 如果花上至少10年时间或1万小时，每天保持练习，则世上每个人都可能是某方面的天才。
19 The only source of good knowledge is bad experience 。
19 良好的知识的唯一来源，乃是糟糕的经验。
20 Make the best of the worst. It is easy to make the best of the easy times. It is hard to make the best of the hard times.
20 充分利用逆境，从中学习；顺境时易，逆境则难。
21 Life is a contact sport.
21 生活是场肉身搏斗。
致谢：本文的18位影响者
有许多人的作品启发了我这项清单。此文是我对自己15年来的日记回顾编撰而成。有些短语是我自己的，另有许多则是直接摘录于我在书中读到的、在演讲中听到的、或是在博客上看到的。以下这13个人影响了本文所表达的观点。
1 Tom Peters 汤姆·彼得斯
2 Seth Godin 赛斯·戈丁
3 Jim Rohn 吉姆·罗恩
4 Tony Robbins 托尼·罗宾斯
5 Marshall Goldsmith 马歇尔·戈德史密斯
6 M. Scott Peck 斯科特·佩克先生
7 Aristotle 亚里士多德
8 Socrates 苏格拉底
9 Seneca 塞内卡
10 Blair Singer 布莱尔·辛格
11 Shimon Peres 西蒙·佩雷斯
12 Kahlil Gibrain 卡利·吉布林
13 Malcolm Gladwell 马尔科姆·格拉德威尔
14 Bill Treasurer 比尔·司库
15 Verne Harnish 凡尔纳·哈尼什
16 Rita Mae Brown 丽塔·梅·布朗
17 Mathieu Ricard 马修·里卡尔
18 John Bird 约翰·伯德
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