The Return of the Exes

It is known that the movie - The Ex-File: The Return of the Exes is extremely popular among Chinese audiences. Because it closes to life, which has brought many precious memories to a majority of spectators, the people, the experience, the feeling, it maybe happy, maybe sad. Believe it or not, it is memorable. However, the movie is not telling us to recall the past, but to cherish the present.

In the movie, the couple Yun Meng and Jia Lin loved each other very much, their relationship had lasted for five years, they have accustomed to each other’s accompany, from the initial stage of pioneering to the stage when Yun Meng has achieved big success in his career. However, it is cruel that finally they broke up, it was not because there was no feeling between them, it was because they did not fit each other any more. He thought she would stay, she thought he would beg, while the truth is, neither of them did what expected by the other. Neither of them was willing to put aside their self-esteem, both of them were too obstinate. Consequently, their luck ran out, they lost each other forever, although they had full of love to each other.

It is said that true love will breed a second encounter for a departed couple. But no matter how deeply two people love each other, they are unable to ward off the manipulation of destiny. There were so many opportunities for Yun Meng and Jia Lin to be together for a second time, but they failed to do so. What a pity! Maybe they were meant to be apart. They left after left enough traces on each other’s heart. The movie is so close to our daily life, it may similar to our experience and reminds us the people, but in fact, it tries to encourage us to let go the past while cherish the present, to learn from the past experience about how to love, how to keep the present lover.

At the beginning of a relationship, people tried to love each, they tried to bring the best to the other. They made many promises, they described wonderful blueprint, they thought they would be together for the entire life and their love would last forever. As time goes by, they may be used to each other’s accompany, they may be used to each other’s goodness, they may ignore each other’s love while enlarge each other’s weakness. It probably because that they have taken the other person’s goodness for granted, or because they require more from intimate person.

In the movie, Yun Meng has forgotten how Jin Lin accompanied him to go through the hardship during the initial stage of pioneering. He has taken Lin Jia’s love for granted, he has forgotten his promise to take the girl to travel broad. He longed for the future, but he ignored the present, he ignored the importance of today’s accompany. Gradual disappointment has lead to despair. So finally, Jia Lin has no longer able to support someone with no fear of being hurt. As for Jia Lin, she has also taken Yun Meng’s love for granted, she often got cold during seasonal change period, so Yun Meng always kept the medicine at home. He never ate mango which was his favourite fruit because she was allergic to it. But Jia Lin has used to it so she thought these were not a big of deal. In fact, these were part of their love, but both for them took the other person’s love for granted without any gratitude, and required more from each other. That was the reason for their regretful ending.

It is the last manner that taking the other person’s love and goodness for granted in a relationship. We should cherish each other’s love. Everyone should be loved and cared, no one would dote on or pardon others unlimitedly without any response. When have received love, we should cherish it and return for love. Only in this way, will the love lasts long. Once the love is fading away, we should let go of it when it proves that there is no way to restore.

At different stages, our life is visited by different people. It is inevitable that someone stay while someone leave. What we should do is to keep the one that is with us, love him/her sincerely and wholeheartedly while let go the ones who have left, without hiding any others in our heart, not even in a corner.

Please remember, today is the most important period, today’s people is also the most important one. Please do not lost today’s him/her.