TED:How to ask for help and get a yes.如何求助

TED: How to ask for help and get a yes.如何求助

If you need help, you are going to have to ask for it. out loud

如果你需要帮助，请大声说出来。

first thing: when you ask for help, be very very specific about the help you want and why

首先，当你在求助时，一定要准确的阐述你需要的帮助和原因。

second: avoid disclaimers like " I'm so, so sorry that I have to ask you for this" or "I really hate bothering you with this"

第二点：求助时要避免用一下的用语像是：“很抱歉，我不得不向你提出这个要求”或者“我真的很讨厌用这个来打扰你。”

by the way, when you have a relationship with someone, help one another is actually a natural part of that relationship 

顺便提一句：互相帮助也是增进关系的好方式，不必为麻烦身边的人而感到不舒服。

third rule: don't ask for help over email or text

第三点：不要通过邮件或者短信求助。

last one: when you ask someone for their help and they say yes, follow for their help and they say yes, follow up with them afterward.

最后很重要的一点：当我们寻求别人的帮助并得到肯定回答时，事后与他们保持联系。

What is rewarding about helping is knowing that your help landed.

获得帮助的回报是知道你的帮助落实了，它产生了影响。