自强不息：对自己的生活负责

Self-Empowerment: You Are Responsible For Your Life

自强不息：对自己的生活负责

Did you know that all the power to improve your life lies in your hands, and only your hands? Why do not you use it more then? Perhaps because human beings have the tendency to forget that they are ultimately responsible for their own lives? It is so much easier to tell ourselves that when things don’t turn out as we want them to, it is the fault of others or events.

你知道吗，提升你生活的所有能量掌控在你手中，也只能在你手中。你为什么不多用用呢？可能是因为人类倾向于忘记他们最终是要对他们自己的生命负责的？事与愿违时，我们易于将错归咎于他人。

However, our success depends only on ourselves! Of course, some are born rich, others poor. Some have suffered a lot and others less. Success does not depend on chance or fate. It depends on our ability to dream, to take action and persevere even when we fail.

可是，我们的成功只依赖于我们自己。当然，有的人生来富裕，另一些人则贫穷。有些人历经千辛万苦，而有些人则相对好些。成功不依赖于机遇或者命运。它取决于我们梦的能力，取决于我们行动的能力，取决于即使失败仍百折不挠的能力。

You need to develop the ability to make yourself depend on your own potential to take responsibility for the results you get in your life. Whenever you blame others, you give yourself excuses for doing nothing; every time you criticize a person unnecessarily or situation, you suffer. Without knowing it, you reject the phenomenal power that you have on your life.

你一定要不断激发自己的潜能你生命的结果负责任。每当你归咎于他人，你为一事无成寻找借口；每次你有意无意地批评某人，还是得你承受。如果不了解这点的话 ，你就否决了自己身上非凡的力量。

Whenever you listen to your fears, when you say that success is not for you, you suffer. Whenever you are unwilling to go beyond a lack of will, you suffer. You cannot indulge in your own weaknesses and let others choose events and opportunities for you to get what you want!

每次你听从自己的胆怯，你说成功不属于你，你认了。每次你不愿意前进，缺乏意志，你认了。你不能妄自菲薄，让他人得到属于你应得的事件和机遇。

Imagine you are driving a car and this car is your life. Not taking responsibility for your life is to remain in the passenger seat. Sure, you "drive" your life sometimes. But the goal is to always be in the driver's seat.

设想你一下你正开着一辆车，这辆车就是你的生活。不对生活负责就是留在乘客的座位。当然，有时你能“驾驭”自己的生活，但是最终目标应该是在驾驶员的位置上。

When you do not take responsibility for your life, you perceive yourself as a victim. You remain passive and convince yourself that you have nothing to hope for. Instead of climbing to the top of your life, you let yourself be buried ever deeper by inaction.

你不对自己的生活负责，你把自己当成一个受害者。你消极被动，使自己确信你没有希冀的事。你不去攀生命的高峰，而是让自己深埋于消极被动中。

You end up feeling incapable, powerless. You lock yourself in the prison that you make for yourself. Your newspaper loses its attraction and the pleasure of living decreases. Over time, the conviction of your permanent uselessness and lack of meaning can even make you want to die.

你在无能无力中老去，画地为牢。你的新闻失去了吸引力以及生命消逝的快乐。随着时间的流逝，你确信自己永远无用和毫无意义，甚至会想去死。

To escape this prison and empower yourself, you must identify areas of your life over which you have power. When you criticize others, or rehash past events that you cannot change, you focus your precious energies on unnecessary concerns.

要逃离这个牢狱和激发自己的能力，你必须确定能掌控的生命领域。你批判他人时，或者改变那些你不能改变的已过去的事时，你会把自己宝贵的精力集中于不必要的担心上。

It is very easy to focus on unnecessary areas, but unfortunately it generates negative emotions. Instead, you should focus your efforts on what you really control. This area covers all your life that you can change, starting with yourself.

但是不幸的是，很容易集中于没有无用的领域里，产生消极的情绪。所以，你必须将自己的努力集中于你真正能掌控的事物上。这个领域覆盖你所有的生活，你可以改变，从你自己开始。

As Alexander Graham Bell said, when one door closes, another door opens. The problem is that we mourn for too long the door that closed and we fail to look at new opportunities before us.

正如亚历山大·格雷厄姆·贝尔（电话发明者）所说，当一扇门打开，另一扇门也会打开。问题是，我们久久地追念关闭的门，未能着眼于我们面前的新的机遇。

In other words, we focus on unnecessary concerns rather than act on what we can control. The more we focus on what we can control, the more we increase the power we have over our own lives and stop wasting our efforts.

换句话说，我们将注意投于不必要的事物上，而不是在我们所能控制的行动上。我们越发地集中注意在我们所能控制的事物上，我们就越能增加我们控制我们自己生活，并停止浪费我们的努力。

Stop complaining about everything that does not please you! This only serves to maintain your sense of outrage and helplessness. Instead of swimming against the tide, against anything that does not satisfy you, use the strengths of the current to direct you and move faster in the direction of your dreams! Here are some examples to help you clearly define the difference between these two core "zones" of your life:

不要再抱怨那些不如你意的每一件事！这只能使你愤慨和无助。不是逆潮而游，与一些不能使你满意的事物顽抗，而是用你当前所拥有的力量导引你，使你在追梦的路上走得更快。这有些例子能帮你更明确地区分这些你生活中的两个核心“区域”。

Self-Empowerment

自强不息

•Setting goals

设定目标

•Feeding your personal vision

增长个人的视野

•Being creative

变得有创造力

•Learning

学习

•Preventing and managing conflicts

预防和管理冲突

Self-Disempowerment

 

自我贬低

•Believing that we cannot improve

认为我们不能提高自己

•Speaking against others

与他人唇舌交战

•Remaining passive

保持被动

•Complaining

抱怨

•Wanting others to think like us

想让他人与我们一样思考