关于爱情——由《天天用英语》爱情系列引申的

2.14情人节刚过去不久，而我依然单身。已经大概有一个月没有学习《天天用英语》，正好碰到这个关于爱情系列，因此借此机会重新开始用起来，另一个更为重要目的，就是为了初步建立自己爱情观，至少播下一颗种子。

爱情

   Love is life's greatest blessing.

As EBB is reported to have said to her husband RB:

    I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.

    I love you not only for what have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.

    I love you for the part of me that you bring out.

positive psychology of Harvard

Relationships--close, intimate relationships, whether it's with lovers, whether it's with family members, whether it's with close soul mates, friends, is No.1 predictor of happiness.

爱情的幸福度与什么相关

财富和相貌能增加恋爱的几率，但是跟幸福的爱情生活基本没有什么关系；择偶的三个更优的选择：个性合适、感情连接的方式、行为模式

这跟笑来老师选择伴侣时候给的建议如出一辙：

寻找同级别的操作系统

要升级就大家一块儿升级

七年之痒

七年之痒的科学依据：喜爱程度每年递减3%；性吸引力每年递减8%

笑来老师的解释：

七年就是一辈子，一辈子都过去了，下辈子还要过同样的生活，多腻歪啊。

笑来老师给的解决方法，还是上面提到的方法：

所以，两个人中，至少要有一个人升级，最好先升级的那个能帮助另一个也升级…… 升级之后，就是另外一个天地，另外一番光景，开心都开心不过来呢，哪儿有功夫鸡毛蒜皮？

共同创建协议，

共同遵守协议，

共同升级协议……

solutions of positive psychology

First, that relationship is about hard work. If you want to thrive at work, you need to work hard; if you want to thrive in a relationship, you need to invest.

Second, we'll talk about how to invest. That the best relationships are ones that create high levels of intimacy that get to know one another in a deeper level. In the strongest marriages, husband and wife share a deep sense of meaning. They don't just "get along"--they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together.

Third, the best relationships are not, relationships that devoid of conflict.

And finally it is about appreciating the positive. Because when we appreciate the good, the good appreciates, whether in ourselves or in others.

关于爱的能力的具体方法描述，一定要回去重新学习Tal Ben的positive psychology.

我的心愿

祝福自己在不久的将来找到自己心爱的人，而现在，持续学习，不断进步。

To be a better man.