这次作业我遭遇了巨大的障碍,竟然到最后时刻都不知道要写什么,一方面我给自己定的写作原则是:
1. 完整 - 没有开始正式写作以前也会时常写一些碎碎念的文字,东一榔头西一棒槌,每个问题都有讲但都讲不清楚,于是明确主题且有完整结构是我认为一篇文章所要达到的基础;
2. 对别人有用 - 毋庸置疑,这是最朴素也是最重要的原则;
另一方面,我意识到我面临的又一个重大问题:我竟然一直没有养成读书的习惯!
没有有效输入哪来高质量的输出呢?!
一个事实参加新生大学,除了《把时间当成朋友》、《七年》两本书以外的必读书籍都没读完,订阅的两个得到专栏后期基本都荒废了,每天会听但是没有思考和复盘学过的东西也很快就忘记了。。
今天我想从我的第一本原版书《Succeed:How to reach our goals》正式开启读书的习惯,这本书跟着乐乐老师看了学了3章,自己后来又看了3章,后来就没有再打开。。下面是我通过翻译第一章后面的总结进行一下复盘学习。这本书的英语算是比较易读,鉴于英语水平问题,翻译的不好,还望指正。
1. Be specific.
When you set yourself a goal, try to be as specific as possible. “Lose five pounds” is a better goal than “lose some weight,” because it gives you a clear idea of what success looks like. Knowing exactly what you want to achieve keeps you motivated until you get there. Avoid “do your best” goals—they are too vague to be really motivating.
当你给自己设定目标的时候,越具体越好。“减掉5磅肉”优于“减掉一些体重”,因为你有一个清晰的目标。清楚地知道你想要什么能激发你持续的动力直到实现那个目标。尽力而为的目标太模糊不能给你真正的动力。
2. Make it hard.
It’s also important when you set goals to make them difficult, while still being realistic. You want to challenge yourself and set the bar high, because challenges really get the motivational juices flowing, while avoiding goals that are more or less impossible. Remember that if you set the bar too low, you may achieve your goal but are unlikely to surpass it—most people tend to slack off once they’ve reached their original target. Nobody sets out with the goal of losing five pounds and ends up somehow losing twenty.
设定一个困难但可以实现的目标是很重要的。你想挑战自己把目标设置的高一些,做有挑战的事更能激发你的动力,但是要避免目标可能不能完成。记住你可以实现太低的目标但是几乎是不可能超越它的,大多数倾向于一旦实现原来的目标就松弛下来。没有人设置减掉5磅的目标最后减掉了20磅。
3. Think why or what.
Goals can be thought of in relatively abstract, why-am-I-doing-this terms or in more concrete, what-am-I-actually-doing terms. For example, dealing with the mess in your closets can be thought of as “getting organized” (why) or “throwing out clothes I never wear” (what). Think about your goals in why terms when you want to get energized, stay motivated, or avoid temptations. Think about your goals in what terms when you are dealing with something particularly difficult, unfamiliar, or anything that takes a long time to learn.
目标可以相对抽象使用“为什么我要做这件事”的句式或者更具体,使用“我实际上做什么”。例如,处理衣柜里的东西,设定“有条理”的why目标或者“扔掉那些永远不穿的衣服”的what目标。思考你的目标使用why的表达如:获得充沛的精力,保持动力避免诱惑。思考你的目标使用what表达当你处理一些特别难,不熟悉或者需要花费很长时间学习的事情。
4. Consider value and feasibility.
Remember that we all tend to think more in why terms when contemplating our goals in the distant future. This leads us to give more weight to what’s desirable or valuable about the goal (like how much fun a trip to Disneyland would be) and too little weight to how feasible it is (as in, “How the heck am I going to afford this trip to Disneyland?”). In the near future, we naturally think in what terms, which can lead to too much emphasis on being practical and not enough emphasis on enjoying what life has to offer. The best goals will usually be the ones you’ve adopted after weighing both desirability and feasibility in an unbiased way.
记住我们习惯使用why表达当关注遥远的目标。这导致我们更看重那些理想的有价值的目标(比如去Disneyland将是多么开心的旅程)而不看重目标的可行性(如,多糟糕我要为这次旅行负担那么多)。在不久的将来,我自然而然的使用what表达思考我们更强调实际情况而对生活给予我们的欢乐不够重视。采纳通过无偏见的权衡理想和可行性的目标才是最好的目标。
5. Think positive but don’t underestimate.
When you’re setting a goal, by all means engage in lots of positive thinking about how likely you are to achieve it. Believing in your ability to succeed is enormously helpful for creating and sustaining your motivation. But whatever you do, don’t underestimate how difficult it will be to reach your goal. Most goals worth achieving require time, planning, effort, and persistence. Thinking things will come to you easily and effortlessly will leave you ill prepared for the journey ahead, and as a result can be a recipe for failure.
当你设定一个目标,通过所有方法积极的思考如何实现它。相信你获得成功的能力是对产生和维持动力有巨大的帮助。但是不管怎么样,不要低估为了达到目标中的困难。大多数的目标需要时间,努力和坚持。认为事情比较容易且缺乏努力会导致你不能很好的准备前面的行程,结果以失败告终。
6. Use mental contrasting to set your goals.
When you are thinking about taking on a new goal, make sure you think about both the wonderful things that will happen if you succeed and the obstacles that stand in your way. This process of mental contrasting will not only help you to make a good decision about whether or not to adopt the goal, but it will naturally engage your motivational systems and maximize your commitment to the goals that you do decide to achieve.
当你想设定一个新的目标,确保你不光想到事情成功后会有好的事情发生,而且考虑到遇到的障碍。心里对比的过程不仅帮助你在是否采用这个目标做决定,而且自然地激发你的动力最大化你的承诺对你决定要实现的目标。