TED笔记：5种倾听的方法

5种倾听的方法

5种简单有效训练倾听的方式：

listen and connect :

• slience：just three minutes a day of silence is a wonderful exercice to reset yout ears and to recalibrate so that you can hear the quiet again.

• mixer：how many individual channels in that mix am I listening to ? u can do it in a beautigul place as well ,like in a lake . How many birds am I hearing ? where are they ? where are those tipples ?---this can improve the quality of your listening .

• savoring ： Its about enjoying mundane sounds ,eg: dryer , coffee grinder , so mundane sounds can be really interesting if you pay attention . I call that hidden choir . Its around us all the time .

• listen positions :

  • active / passive
  • reductive / expansive
  • critical / empathetic

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  palying with those filters ,u can move your listening position to whats appropriate to what you're listening to .

• RASA which is a Sanskrit word for juice or essence . RASA stands for ：

  • recive ,which means to pay attentin to the person .
  • appreciate ,making little noises like "hmm","oh","okay"
  • summarize ,the word "so" is very important in commiunication
  • ask ,ask quetions afterwards

中文翻译（转自网友）：

• 第一：“安静”，即在一个相对安静的环境中让自己静下来。比如静坐。

• 第二：“混合器”即在幽静或者嘈杂的环境中练习自己能听出多少独立声音的能力。

• 第三：“品味声音”即品味日常生活中平常的声音，用心去听，听出旋律，听出感觉。

• 第四：“倾听状态”即我们以什么样的状态去听，可以根据不同的情况调整用不同的状态。比如：积极主动的状态，消极被动的状态，批评挑剔的状态，同理心的状态等等。

• 第五：“RASA”即RECEIVE 关注与你交谈的人； APPRECITE 赏识，要做出反应，比如 对，不错等。 SUMMARISE 做出小结，总结一下他说的话和要表达的意思； ASK 询问，问一些问题更好的理解。

注：可以讲演讲中提到的方法与《非暴力沟通》中提到的沟通技巧对比着看，加深理解。