The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson

Chapter1  Q & As

1. What does Charles Bukowski's success try to prove?

    The reason why Bukowski would make it as novelist and poet is not because he gave a fuck about success and fame, but his comfort with himself as a failure. It tries to prove that no matter what we do, what mostly important thing is to realize who we are on earth and be content with ourselves. Anyone who wants to be successful should not give a fuck about success, but give a fuck about on what is true and immediate and important.

2.What's wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack?

    The conventional life advice lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasizes them for you. It remind us of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed.The more you expect, the less satisfated you will be.

3. Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?

    The feedback loop from hell is just like a vicious circle where if you hold a negitive attitude toward yourself, you will be driven batty more.  You get pissed off so easily starts to piss you off even more.

4. What are the subtleties of not giving a fuck?

    (1) Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

    (2)To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.

    (3)Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

5. What’s wrong with being “perpetually entitled to be comfortable and happy at all times”? Can you think of an example to support your answer?

    Being comfortable and happy at all times is a sickness that will eat you alive. You can not stand any trivial obstacles but consider them as injustice.        For a long time, I have been enjoying the present without making any efforts. Everyday is the same day. Life almost drives me bananas and I can not spend life like this any more.So I decide to join in the reading with the purpose of improving myself and trying to find out what I really can do. Never forget why you started, and your mission can be accomplished.

    Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. We should hold a positive attitude towards our life. Not complain too much about everything.Only experience the storm can we see the rainbow. Most of us struggle throughout our lives by giving too many fucks in situations where fucks do not deserve to be given. We are supposed to learn how to focus and prioritize out thoughts effectively—how to pick and choose what matters to us and what does not matter to us based on finely honed personal values.