早上读清晨朗读会，看到这个题目，进去发现是这个作者，很喜欢他的文章。（上次分享的英文小短文，也是他的。）
How to Believe in Yourself
如何做到相信自己
By Leo Babauta
（作者）
There was a long time when the lack of belief in myself was a major factor in my life.
有很长一段时间，缺乏自信是我人生的主要问题。
I didn’t pursue an ideal career, or start my own business, because I didn’t think I could. I didn’t stick to habits because I didn’t really believe I had the discipline. I was shy with girls, I had a hard time making new friends, I didn’t assert myself in the workplace. I didn’t push past my comfort zone.
那时我不追求完美的职业，也不自己创业，因为我认为我不行。我也不养成好习惯，因为我不相信自己有自律。我面对女生很害羞，很难交到新朋友，我工作时也不会主张自己的观点。我离不开我的舒适区。
All because I didn’t really believe I could.
一切都是因为我不相信我可以。
While I’m not free of self-doubt these days, I can honestly say I believe in myself like never before. That doesn’t mean I think I’ll never fail or quit: I will. Probably often.
这些天我还是完全不能摆脱自我怀疑，而我能诚实地说现在是我最自信的时候。但那不意味着我认为自己永远不会失败或者退出：我会的。可能还会很频繁。
And that’s OK.
但那没什么关系。
The trick is that I learned it’s completely fine to try and fail, to put yourself out there and not be perfect, to say hello to someone and have them not instantly love you, to create something and have people judge you.
这个技巧就是——去尝试和失败，去把不完美的自己抛出去，去对不会立刻喜欢你的人打招呼，去创造一些东西，然后让人们来评价你，这些完全都不是什么大不了的事。
Failure, not being perfect, mistakes, not having people agree with me, not being completely accepted: these are not negative things. They’re positive.
失败、不完美、错误、没有人赞同我、完全不被接受：它们都不是消极的东西。它们是积极的。
How is failure positive? It’s the only way we truly learn. For example: you can read a book on math, but until you try it and fail, you’ll never see where your lack of understanding is. The best way to learn something is to study it a bit, then try it, take practice tests, make mistakes, then learn some more.
失败怎么是积极的呢？因为这是我们真正可以学到东西的唯一方法。比如：你可以读一本数学书，但只有你尝试并失败了，你才会知道你哪里不懂。最好的学到东西的方法就是去学一点，然后试一下，做些练习题，犯些错误，然后学习更多。
How are mistakes positive? They’re little pieces of feedback necessary to grow and learn.
错误怎么是积极的呢？因为对于你的成长和学习，它们是必要的小小反馈。
How is being rejected positive? It means I’m growing beyond the absolutely socially acceptable realm. The best people in history were not socially acceptable: truth-tellers like Socrates, Jesus, Gandhi, Proudhon and Bakunin, Martin Luther King Jr., animal rights philosopher Peter Singer, unschooling pioneer John Holt, women’s rights activists, abolitionists, and many more.
被反对怎么是积极的呢？这意味着我的成长超越了社会可接受的边缘。历史上的伟人都是不被社会所接受的：讲真话的人，像苏格拉底、耶稣、甘地、蒲鲁东、巴枯宁、马丁路德金，动物权利哲学家彼得·辛格，自主学习的先驱约翰·霍特，妇女权益活动家，废奴主义者，等等。
These things we’re afraid of — they’re actually desirable. We need to learn to see them that way, and embrace them, letting go of the fear.
这些我们害怕的东西——它们是真正值得去做的。我们需要去学着发现它们，拥抱它们，让恐惧一边待着去。
When we can get better at this — which takes a lot of practice — we can start to remove the things that hold us back.
当我们变得善于此道——这需要很多的练习——我们就能远离那些拖我们后腿的事情了。
So practice:
所以练习吧：
- Push past your discomfort, growing your discomfort method.
挤掉不舒服，提升克服不舒服的能力。 - Put yourself out there, and be OK with not knowing if people will accept you.
把自己抛出去，不管别人是否会接受你，这都没关系。 - Stick to a habit, not listening to the negative self-talk that normally holds you back.
坚持一个习惯，屏蔽消极的拖后腿的自我暗示。 - Stick to it some more, and learn to trust yourself.
坚持更多更久，学会去相信自己。 - Go into situations not knowing, and learn to be OK with that.
进入未知的环境，学会和它相处。 - Learn through repeated attempts that it’s OK to fail, that you can be OK in failure.
在重复的尝试中学习，失败没问题，你可以失败。 - Learn through repeated experiments that you are stronger than you think, that you are more capable and more tolerant of discomfort than you think.
在重复的尝试中学习，你会比你认为的更加强大，更加有能力，对不舒适更有忍耐力。 - And in this practice, you will find yourself. And realize that you were great all along.
在这个练习中，你会找到你自己。并且你会意识到自己一直很棒。
总结：
之前听万维钢老师的一堂语音课，里面讲到在面试前，我们需要做的准备就是——多刷经验值。一来丰富我们的简历，二来丰富面试时的沟通内容。
- 那怎么刷？
- 多尝试，经历失败，丰富人生经验。
- 多跟人交往，练习交流和组织能力。
- 学点技术，掌握一些实用工具。
- 善做调研，了解所在领域发生的事。
- 找机会取得能让自己脱颖而出的成绩。