Chapter 3-the sutble art of not giving a fuck

thinking

  Chpater 3 unravels the reason why people in modern society, especially millennials, have the feeling of insecure, anxious and self-aggrandizing. Though it is only a point by the author, I think it’s a tad reasonable.

  读这章尤其是后半段时，我的代入感变得非常强。虽然文章论点只是作者的一家之言，但我觉得这种分析确实有其道理。现代社会，尤其是互联网飞速发展的今天，我们的身边充斥着大量有用无用的信息。一些鸡汤鸡血类内容对我们的引导，比如要有一个美好的形体；一些年纪轻轻就站在公众面前或者聚光灯下的celebrities，让我们汲汲于“出名要趁早”…我也不例外。有这样的想法，也经常有那些“焦虑感、不安感、紧迫感”的困扰。

  “中枪”以后我陷入恐慌。难道进取和自律是不对的吗？难道我应该接受我自己目前的样子，安于现状吗？我不愿意这么做，但同时对他的观点又无法反驳。直到后来看到他说的“it’s the realization-that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severity or pain”，“people who become great at something because they understand that they are not already great-they are mediocre, they are average-and that they could be so much better.”才放下心来，觉得自己也找到了迷途的出路。作者并不是让我们不思进取，而是在追求进取的过程中，调整心态，不要把上进心变成影响心情和降低效率的阻碍。

  诚然，一些坏情绪对人的状态影响真的蛮大的。比如说我这两天看书进度很慢，就有点恐慌。但是恐慌只会让你看书时更难集中注意力。更好的做法是：塌下心来，分析读书速度变慢的原因，再去针对性的解决它。

words

Unravel;If something such as a plan or system unravels, it breaks up or begins to fail. 崩溃、失败 与fall apart 意思相近

Eg：Having suffered from a series of unfair treatments, the man unraveled and committed suicide.

Tad:You can use a tad in expressions such as a tad big or a tad small when you mean that it is slightly too big or slightly too small. [PHR adj/adv] [Informal]

Eg: I think the institute is a tad exceptional when she told me she can get the tests up to 90 percent.

Mindset:If you refer to someone's mind-set, you mean their general attitudes and the way they typically think about things.

Eg: if I find the guy whose mindset is similar to me, I will crave talking with him.