2021-06-11

Why we love and why we cheat?

Love is an eternal topic for human world, which may start from ancient time when people is sitting around a campfire and stairing the sky.  According to the speaker who is a researcher with 30 years experience studying on the subject of romantic love,  our brain has 3 areas relating to love, they are carving , romantic love as well as attachment. The 3 parts can function dependently, that means it'severy possible we can fall in love with more than one people at a time. No wonder why people complaint about man is always being adulous, yes, but woman actually has an equal role. 

When you are madly in love with someone, you see him/her differently or give him/her a special meaning, that's why we say beauty is in the eyes of beholder. 

She also expressed her concerns about a social problem, it's not woman are getting back to job market but more and more people start taking antidepressants since a very young age. It's fine that we follow the prescription given by doctor, but we shouldn't and wouldn't take it for such a long time. The problem behind is that the medicine serves to increase your sorotiny, a higher sorotiny will level down you dopamine, whereas dopamine is directly relevant to love, a motor in doing things. For anyone in love, they would die easily for their lover just like what frequantly happened in the history reveling in poem,  novel and movie, etc. If that drive was killed, the world become a deadly place.

One interesting story she shared is about a man in love with a young woman who doesn't have the same feeling. As learned the lecture, he decided to put the science into test. So he invited her to a ride a rickshaw which was a pretty new thing to her. After one hour of great time, she thrower up both her arms, saying,  isn't the driver handsome?