C8-rejection proof [outlandish,resentment,end up,deliver,frustrate]

Outlandish

稀奇古怪的；异乎寻常的；不切实际的；If you describe something as outlandish, you disapprove of it because you think it is very unusual, strange, or unreasonable.

Eg: Some of the requests were pretty outlandish.

造句：My coworker is an outlandish lady who usually says something fake.

Resentment

怨恨;愤慨;憎恨；Resentment is bitterness and anger that someone feels about something.

Eg: but when she took on everything, her resentment would start to build.

造句：when her sister got the reward, her resentment started to build.

End up

最终；结果；到头来；If you end up doing something or end up in a particular state, you do that thing or get into that state even though you did not originally intend to.

Eg: I realized that if I didn’t get a handle on my reluctance to reject people, then I might end up wanting to quit as well.

这个词之前在东坡传还是not giving a Fuck里见到过多次，一个是注意它的中文义，而是注意not originally intend to的用法

Deliver

这次动词的意思很广泛、注意收集例句

Eg：Then I’d try to find the least painful way to deliver my rejection.

Frustrate

使灰心;使沮丧;使愤怒；If something frustrates you, it upsets or angers you because you are unable to do anything about the problems it creates.

Eg: The second form of indirect rejection is even more frustrating.

Eg: Roberta felt frustrated and angry.既灰心又生气。

实用表达

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造句：To my surprise, there is a 24 Hour Fitness downstairs in my flat. I can’t wait to join it as a member.

Guiding questions

1. What problem did the author meet that was brewing in his life?

More and more people delivered their outlandish requests to him which took up most of his time. It influenced his private life that he had to say ”no” to his fans.

2. Why was  “yes-buts” a bad answer?

“yes-buts” rejectors seem as if they are being polite and acknowledging the other person’s concerns yet the word but totally undermine the rejector’s good intentions. Rejectees will ignore everything the rejector is saying, painfully anticipating the upcoming rejection.

3. Please use three sentences to describe how to give a no.

Be patient and respective.

Give the bad news quickly and directly. If necessary, add the reasons afterward.

Offer an alternative to make it clear that you are rejecting his request, not him as a person.