Guiding Questions
1.What does"you are always choosing"? Can you define it and give an example?
The sense which influences your moods is chosen by yourself. If you take it as your responsibility, you will feel powerful, if you regard it as it is thrust upon you, you will feel painful.
For example, when I was in the second year in college, I thought passing CET4 exam was my responsibility, however, some of my friends thought they had to pass it for graduation. So I learned English religiously, and I felt powerful during the stage of learning English, while they learned painfully and regarded it as a nightmare.
2.What's the point of telling William Jame's story?
The story wants to tell us the importance of “taking responsibility”, despite suffering the contempt from others, or having the defect in genetics.
3.Any responsibility problems you had with your boyfriend/girlfriend or parents? If any,please tell us your story.
I have a problem with my parents.
Actually, in my family, all members are not good at expressing love to others. When I live in a long distance from my hometown, my parents will miss me, but every moment we phone each other, we feel nothing to say. The worse is, I can’t even remember to phone them. I always hold the excuse that I am not good at chatting, making connect with my love, but it is my responsibility though I am not good at it. I need to train religiously until one day I can do these things naturally. I want my parents to be happy, so I need to do something, try to change something for a better relationship.
Words
religiously
[Adv] If you do something religiously, you do it very regularly because you feel you have to.
eg:in the past two months, I have been reading English books religiously at 6:00 am.
Thrust upon
[PHRASAL VERB] If something is thrust upon you, you are forced to have it, deal with it, or experience it.
eg:When I broke up with him, the sadness was thrust upon me.
The black sheep
害群之马，败家子
eg:The guy is the back sheep in his family.
Contract
If you contract a serious illness, you become ill with it.
Eg: Unfortunately, he contracted smallpox on the way back.
If you contract with someone to do something, you legally agree to do it for them or for them to do it for you.
Eg: I have contracted with the institute to train my interview skill.
Punch
Punch本身有击、刺的意思。但punch line作为一个固定搭配，是The punchline of a joke or funny story is its last sentence or phrase, which gives it its humour.（与幽默有关）但是在文中“the punch line?”我更倾向于他的网络释义，“关键一击”。这个地方体现出了William James的结尾出乎所有人的预料，和punch的“击”也有联系，更形象。（全书44%处）
Punch是一个作者善用的高频词，文中出现了很多次。
Therefore, when I get mad at somebody, I express that anger, but I also make a point of not punching them in the face.（用拳猛击）
And by awesome, I mean it felt like getting punched in the stomach about 253 times.
Jack punches an array of inanimate objects and then immediately washes his hands.
Thinking(一些值得深思的道理)
Often the same event can be good or bad, depending on the metric we choose to use.
Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.
And it’s true, it’s not their fault. But it’s still their responsibility.
这几句话其实都是在强调责任的问题。尽管全书的主题已经在前四章阐述完，但通过阅读后面的章节真正理解每一条理念，至少在我读完第五章看来，是非常有必要而且有意义的。
我们都知道做人要敢于担当，但担当的范畴是什么？担当究竟需要多大的勇气？这些其实我们很难做到量化，也很少去思考。
当你犯了一点小错的时候，你愿意主动承担责任。
当你犯了滔天大错承认了可能导致所有人对你的否定，导致你丢掉饭碗，你还愿意站出来吗？
当你的基因先天不足，患上了并非你的错误的疾病，成为一生的不幸事。你有心情和意愿把它定义成自己的责任吗？
当你觉得自己天赋异禀，但周围人全部对你say no，你又有多大的可能性，不把问题归咎于他人，而愿意承担这份责任？
不过作者说得真好——“Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it”，一旦我们克服了逃避的人之本性，对这些事负责任起来，等待我们的可能并不是painful而是powerful，“纸上谈兵终觉浅”，未来再遇到这样的抉择时，希望自己能好好实践和体会下。