81.要韧性，不要美德To Be Resilient, Don’t Be Too Virtuous

Dont be true to yourself.Be true to the self you want to become.
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/resilient-dont-too-virtuous-adam-grant
今天还是大乐乐的课哈哈，不行，老是听她的。我不能再拖沓了。都6月一年过一半，我还没有100天。NO！！！不过最近明白学英语不仅是365天，再加100，或者2，3年内，而是五年十年一辈子那么长。而且要学好多外语！因为我要认识好多好多外国朋友！去好多外国！你看，现在你一定得去泰国，希腊，日本，可能捷克，还有必去的里约，德国。所以啊，加油咯~
今天讲了
1.三种人们最常谈论的美德，作者从他的角度反驳了这三种美德:慷慨。坚持。真实。
2.并且说所有美德都需要一个美德作支撑：resilience。
3.对任何美德的追求都应该有度。
对真实这部分的讲解受益匪浅！一些金句附在最后。

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必备

generosity[dʒenə'rɒsətɪ]慷慨的
authenticity [ɔːθen'tɪsɪtɪ] n.真实genuine ['dʒenjʊɪn]真实的adj.
grit [grɪt] n.毅力

背单词动词最重要，名词做到认得OK

breed [briːd]引起——bred（过去式）
leave [liːv]使出于某种状态——left：Too much self-restraint leaves you doing homework while your friends are tailgating.
drive [draɪv]推动——: drove、driven
outperform胜过Vt.
prize珍视V. [praɪz]奖品
stunt[stʌnt]阻碍
tether拴住 ['teðə]
apply应用** [ə'plaɪ]**

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episode ['epɪsəʊd]插曲
meta-:前缀，终极的
commencement [kə'mensm(ə)nt]开始、毕业典礼
virtues ['və:tju:]美德
resilience韧性， 恢复力 [rɪ'zɪlɪəns]
extreme [ɪk'strim]极端的，极端值
adversity [əd'vɜːsɪtɪ]逆境

word

It turns out that原來是
meek [miːk]温顺的，烂好人的
stand by支持：How do we find the strength to stand by our virtues?
obsessed with [əb'sest]痴迷于：
undermine [ʌndə'maɪn]破坏：
But if you’re too obsessed with any of these virtues, you might undermine your own resilience.
wind up with....以…收场
缺点：vice恶习，副的 [vaɪs] deficiency不足[dɪ'fɪʃ(ə)nsɪ] flaw[flɔː]瑕疵
excess ['ɛk'sɛs]过量/的
narcissism自恋 ['nɑːsɪsɪz(ə)m]
Greek. 希腊语；希腊人
sweet spot最佳点 [swiːt]：You need to find the sweet spot between the extremes of too little and too much. You need to look for just right.
It’s a recipe for burnout.这导致精疲力尽.
salespeople
Demogorgon [,di:məu'ɡɔ:ɡən]魔王高跟
false 虚假的
grad school,研究生院graduate缩写
colonel ['kɜːn(ə)l]上校 in the U.S. Air Force
insight洞察力['ɪnsaɪt]
expertise专业 [,ekspɜː'tiːz]
racing heartbeat. 加速度心跳
Hawk [hɔːk]
off base：大错特错的
enthusiastic [ɪn,θjuːzɪ'æstɪk]热情的
junior in experience經驗初級
很多金句啊
again [ə'gen; ə'geɪn]
turned down拒绝：The artist whose cartoons were turned down over and over.
即将过时：Guitar groups are on the way out”
娱乐圈show business
Lennon 列侬
startup创业，启动
start over（重新开始） from scratch（从零开始）

一些值得思考的句子：

• Help others, but don’t sacrifice yourself.
• You need to know exactly who you are. And that can tether（拴住） you to a fixed anchor（标准）, closing the door to growth.
• So be true to yourself, but not so much that your true self never evolves（进化）.
• So don’t give up on your values, but be willing to give up on your plans.启示：求职符合最后就好，别要求太多。时，知道自己的最终价值，就不需要在意什么工作，只需要做到

祝大家都能成为自己想成为的人。这是最棒的祝福了吧。

演講梗

I opened by saying, “I know what you’re thinking right now. What can I possibly learn from a professor who’s 12 years old?
我才12！以後自己完全可以用啊，在對比自己大很多的人演講。反過來大的也可以再，同輩也餓可以裝嫩。