Part 1 Paradigms and Principles
The 7 habits an overview
Words
1.imbed(embed)
Breaking deeply imbeded habitual tendencies such as procrastination, impatience, criticalness, or selfisheness that violate basic principles of human effectiveness involves more than a little willpower and a few minor changes in our lives.
if ideas, attitudes, or feelings etc are embedded, you believe or feel them very strongly:
例: Feelings of guilt are deeply embedded in her personality.
造句:Integrity is deeply embedded in her character.
2.acute/əˈkjuːt/
But the acute problem of that world can easily obscure the charater causes.
an acute problem is very serious
used about an illness, problem, or situation that has become very serious or dangerous, and needs to be
例:The housing shortage is more acute than first thought.
造句:The shortage of skilled workers is acute.
3.have second thoughts (about something) phrase
But as he starts to throw the egg aside, he has secongd thoughts and takes it in to be praised instead.
to begin to doubt a decision that you have already made
例:I think she’s having second thoughts about leaving London
造句:I had second thoughts about choosing the expensive one.
4.dwindle/ˈdwɪndl/
And the dwindleing captical becomes smaller and smaller until it no longer supplies even basic needs.
to gradually become less and less or smaller and smaller: especially numbers or amounts, popularity, or importance:
例:The elephant population is dwindling.
造句:Support for the idea is dwindling.
5.wind up/waɪnd/
It's a principle you can see validated in your own life when you burn the candle at both ends to get more golden eggs and wind up sick or exhausted, unable to procuce any at all
[linking verb] informal to be in an unpleasant situation or place after a lot has happened
同义: end up
wind up in/at/with/doing sth
例:You know you’re going to wind up in court over this.
造句:The party reluctantly wind up with a fight.
Summary
Thoughts
Habits defined: knowledge, desire,skill
我们从各个渠道听说过习惯的力量多么强大,好的习惯是成功的基石。那习惯到底是如何形成的?
Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits. "Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a charater; sow a character, reap a destiny."
首先要靠知识(knowledge)认识到自己需要改变:what to do. 然后给自己一个足够强大的动机(desire): Why to do.最后要去实践起来(skill):How to do.而开始这关键的一步只能是你自己迈出,因为其他人不可能唤醒一只装睡的狮子。
No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened form the inside
Effectiveness & P/PC Balance
书中反复提到一句话
The P/PC balance is the very essence of effectiveness.
P是what is produced也就是想要的结果是什么,PC是producing capacity生产力
书里用了一个很形象的比喻,P就是金蛋,PC就是下蛋的鹅。而人们经常为了能尽快拿到金蛋不择手段,最后变成杀鹅取卵。所以这里的effetiveness不仅是效用最大化,更是一种可持续发展的状态。就像昨天说的No step can be skipped. 只有一步一个脚印,遵循投入和产生的自然规律,才能持续得到想要的结果。
在教育孩子时也是适用的。比如想让孩子收拾好房间,此时收拾房间是P,孩子是PC.如果家长想立竿见影的看到整洁的房子,他会不停对孩子唠叨,甚至对孩子大吼大叫。孩子趋于父母的威慑可能会马上行动,可是代价却是孩子和父母间的关系变得疏远了。