文/@卢思宇Sophie
温馨提示，电影是意象投影，也是礼物。要是没耐心看完电影，我的混乱的影评还是不要看了。嘿嘿
PS：there must have some grammar mistakes or wrong expression, but I still want to show my feelings in this way. Maybe one day, I will write it in Chinese in another way:-D
Today, I just want to watch a movie and this
Many people focused on the time, about more than 3 hours, and cannot be patient enough to the end. Some complained that it is not dramatic at all. But I think that this movie is all about our life and it crosses the nationalities and the languages. Well, at least for me though I am not that rock and roll, and my dad is a conservative person while my mom is not a professor.
The mother in this movie reminded me of my own mother. She is pretty, intelligent and diligent, but meet the wrong husband when she was young ( Haha~ she is still young and pretty in my mind:-D). My mom and dad were introduced by the elder people. When they began to have a date, they always had a fight, not physical actually but in words and they still decided to get married. I think that at that time, they still had no idea about love and marriage and just listened to their parents. They both are really nice and kind people, but obviously they are not the right person to each other.
Then things were getting worse and worse after they built a family and had me. And after went through many difficult things, they divorced when I was in third grade in primary school. At that time, I just felt cool and even talked to my classmates, because in my mind, it was a final relief for my mom and dad and I know they still love me. I love reading all kinds of books and articles and from one article from
After they divorced, I stay with my mom and we face many kinds of things. Actually, most of the time, it is my mom that deal with all the challenges. You can image a small town in china lived in a young and beautiful women who just divorced with her husband, and now she had to fight for life and protected her little girl. Rumors were horrible. For example, if you had dinners with a bunch of people, others would have said something bad about you, but it was just a normal dinner! However,when I was at teenager period, I cannot understand all kinds of things, though I read lots of books→_→ Just like the scene in the movie, I complained and felt unhappy.
Some people loved my mom, but considering my against and resist, she refused. Well, I was really selfish at that time.
When I entered high school, my mom had her second marriage. My mom protected me very carefully and I never stay with my step-father alone. Because I was in boarding school, I did not have to see him very often. That was a relief for me. My step father was kind of person who was vanity and good at disguising himself. What I mean is not that kind of bad gay. It is just he loves drinking and has too many friends. My mom suffered from all those stuff. What I memorized most is he was yelling at my mom after he drunk at 3:00 am in the morning. Fortunately, he never hit my mom and he did respect me and try to act as a nice dad in front of me. And they also have sweet memories. It is just for me, I think my mom deserve a better man.
Btw, my father also loves drinking and even throw things everywhere. He was a strict man for me in primary school. He did not allow me to make up myself even a hairpin or even bring beverage to school. Because of this, he even hit me and my mom protected me. So she was the one hit by my dad, very badly hit. Just once, my dad hit my mom. Ok~ but I still love my dad, he has some good virtues and these years I finally understand him. But I really dislike drinking and smoking.
During these years, my mom raised me up by herself and almost cover all the cost. She never counted on anyone and never complain a lot even when so-called best friend did something bad to her. She is still pretty and continue studying after go through many difficulties. She is an independent women.
Now it is my final year at undergraduate stage. How time flee.
Thanks for the movie, I feel more understand my mom and the life we are experiencing now.
I just have one question for the movie: why the mom in the movie always marry the wrong guys especially she was a professor in psychology?
Because after I read some books about psychology, I helped my mom to figure out her problem in marriage and she seems to meet a real right guy now.
Why some really good people always meet the wrong guys? I do not know. But I do believe that it is just a process to select the right person. Some comes too early; some comes too late. But eventually he/she will come. Also, marriage needs compromise. If no one want to say sorry first and always think what I say is right, even the right person cannot help you~ Haha~
My dad never compromise, so dose my mom. Or maybe they just did not meet the right person who they are willing to make a compromise. Or they just cannot find each other's real beauty.
So this is all about life. A true life.
What we can do is just enjoy the moment.
Try to find someone who really know and think how good you are.
It is not we create the moments; the moments seize us.
Written by Sophie LU
2015.1.1
This movie is really a gift to me:-D